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I lost a friend this week. She took her own life. The more I think about why she made that decision the more I feel I never understood her. The best advice came from a friend. He said, "Don't think about it. Suicide is such a personal issue that you'll never understand someone's motivation." The only adage I have to dwell on came from Eger's essay on DFW's suicide: "People don't kill themselves when they want to. They kill themselves when they need to." Thanks for the outlet. I needed to vent.

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Happy New Year

Motion City Soundtrack - Her Words Destroyed My Planet

Roscoe Cassidy was 107 when he died Tuesday, October 21. Cassidy served overseas through the end of the war and after being honourably discharged, returned home to Bath County.<br/><br/>

WWII Vet passes away in Owingsville, KY.

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Adidas x Spezial.

#Shoelust

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"So I'm standing in the sands where we said, "It's the best day of our lives" - and meant all of it.

#st vincent #psychopath

Tom Waits - Fish & Bird

"So tell me that you'll wait for me - Hold me in your arms - I promise we never will part - I'll never sail back to the time - But I'll always pretend you're mine."

#tom waits #fish and bird #alice #tom waits-tober

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It was nice to get the old GRAVITY crew back together. It’s even nicer when new faces are introduced to the collective. Ethan Wells introduced me to Casio Mio during my weekend trips to Columbia, South Carolina. Our first project as GRAVITY 2.0 is a guerrilla music video series titled **** Is Playing @ My Place. The idea is to having local musicians play house shows at non-traditional venues for promotional purposes. It’s a low budget way to get your name out there and a nice way to meet some people too. Our first episode will feature Casio Mio, a talented blues/rockabilly duo based in Columbia. Check out their sounds here. Our first shoot was located at the Cornell Arms Apartments. We got several noise complaints which isn’t surprising because Casio Mio played at full-volume for about three-hours. This downtown apartment is super tiny. The living room area was around 9x10. It was difficult include all of our gear and Casio Mio’s gear into such a small space, but that’s show business. Principal photography isn’t complete yet. I would say about 20% of the project is done. Casio Mio also performed a never-before-recorded song with us and we’ll lay that track on social media soon.

#gravity casiomio musicvideo

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You Are A Runner And I Am My Father's Son

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I'll draw three figures on your heart. One of them will be me as a boy, One of them will be me, One of them will be me watching you run.

#wolf parade #music #personal

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Charles Laughton and Robert Mitchum on the set of Night of the Hunter (1955)

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I've got all these people in my life that I'd never let know I have a blog. This is how I share things I'd like to say that I'll never tell them. I think one thing you can do to help your friends who are depressed is to reach out to them not in the spirit of helping, but in the spirit of liking them and wanting their company. “I’m here to help if you ever need me” is good to know, but hard to act on, especially when you’re in a dark place. Specific, ongoing, pleasure-based invitations are much easier to absorb. “I’m here. Let’s go to the movies. Or stay in and order takeout and watch some dumb TV.” “I’m having a party, it would be really great if you could come for a little while.” Ask them for help with things you know they are good at and like doing, so there is reciprocity and a way for them to contribute. “Will you come over Sunday and help me clear my closet of unfashionable and unflattering items? I trust your eye.” “Will you read this story I wrote and help me fix the dialogue?” “Want to make dinner together? You chop, I’ll assemble.” “I am going glasses shopping and I need another set of eyes.” Remind yourself why you like this person, and in the process, remind them that they are likable and worth your time and interest. Talk to the parts of the person that aren’t being eaten by the depression. Make it as easy as possible to make and keep plans, if you have the emotional resources to be the initiator and to meet your friends a little more than halfway. If the person turns down a bunch of invitations in a row because (presumably) they don’t have the energy to be social, respect their autonomy by giving it a month or two and then try again. Keep the invitations simple; “Any chance we could have breakfast Saturday?” > “ARE YOU AVOIDING ME BECAUSE YOU’RE DEPRESSED OR BECAUSE YOU HATE ME I AM ONLY TRYING TO HELP YOU.” “I miss you and I want to see you” > “I’m worried about you.” A depressed person is going to have a shame spiral about how their shame is making them avoid you and how that’s giving them more shame, which is making them avoid you no matter what you do. No need for you to call attention to it. Just keep asking. “I want to see you” “Let’s do this thing.” “If you are feeling low, I understand, and I don’t want to impose on you, but I miss your face. Please come have coffee with me.” “Apology accepted. ApologIES accepted. So. Gelato and Outlander?”

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