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welcome to my mousey blog!! I make video games and blog about transfeminism, my two main special interests!

I run the Transfem Voices Project, an outlet for transfems to speak up about the sexual abuse we face. Please feel free to make a submission! To read all submissions, view my tag "#transfem voices project"

Much of my writing on transfeminism can be found below in my Transfeminist FAQ, but you can also view my tag "#transfeminism"

If you've learned something from my writing or you enjoy my games, please consider leaving me a tip on ko-fi! It helps me pay for my transition, stay in college, and continue to have the time to devote to my projects :)

Positionality: transsexual woman, white, autistic, lesbian, able-bodied, cptsd, perisex, singlet

selfies are tagged "#me"

icon by: @cloroxcasserole

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⚧️ Transfeminist FAQ

Sexual Abuse:

Why do other queer people contribute to the culture of shouting down transfem survivors of sexual abuse?

How does transmisogynistic rhetoric put trans women at risk of sexual abuse?

How do the stigmas against dysphoria and bottom surgery contribute to the rape culture that harms trans women?

Are you exaggerating when you say trans women face sex slavery?

Trans women can commit sexual abuse too! Shouldn't you be concerned about that?

But what if a trans woman has a taboo kink?

Ok, but I just REALLY want to remind trans women that they have a capacity for harm too

TME / TMA:

What do TME/TMA mean?

What if I get mistaken for a trans woman sometimes? Am I TMA?

Aren't TME and TMA just the new binary?

Isn't everyone Affected by transmisogyny to some degree though? Why do only transfems get to be considered TMA?

Theory of Gender:

If gender isn't just a performance, what is it?

Why isn't it enough to just be able to change your labels?

AGAB Language:

Why do you have a problem with the use of AMAB/AFAB?

But what about AMAB/AFAB in a medical context?

How does the state use AGAB to oppress trans women?

Opposition to Transfeminism:

Why are so many trans men transmisogynistic?

Why do so many trans men feel threatened by transfeminism?

Why is there so much backlash against TME/TMA?

TERF Rhetoric:

What do you mean when you say TERFs are an apparatus of the patriarchy? Don't they think men are evil?

What do you mean when you say TERFs are misogynists?

Isn't it a privilege not to be able to get pregnant?

Why do you care about (cis) female only spaces? Why would you want to be where you're not welcome?

How is socialization theory weaponized against transfems?

Other Terminology:

Why shouldn't I write "trans women" as one word, like "transwomen"?

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Further Reading:

Hot Allostatic Load: Foundational article on how trans women and other marginalized groups are excised from ostensibly inclusive communities

Whipping Girl: Origin of many important transfeminist concepts and terms, such as transmisogyny and the distinction between misogyny/"traditional sexism" and oppositional sexism

The Transfeminist Womanism Archives: An archive containing works on the subjects of transfeminism, womanism ("Black feminism"), disability justice, and more

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My games:

🪱 Enter the Wyrm

My upcoming roguelike with 50 unique platforming abilities (and counting!) is in open alpha! You can play early development builds for free right now! Explore a giant worm and learn a unique moveset every run!

Download on Itch | Join Discord

Tag: #enter the wyrm

🐥 Pyo

A cute little $1 hand-drawn game about bouncing off beans!

Pyo pyo pyo!

#enter the wyrm

mousidy

i support trans people but im only into cis women and maybe afab nonbinary people. i don’t know why that’s a big deal. if you go on dating apps there’s also trans women saying they only want to date cis women.

not everyone is pan

me: "I don't give a shit who you're attracted to but you don't have to go up to minorities and announce that you find them unfuckable"

anon: "this gives me an idea"

mousidy

when people treat trans women's breasts as if they aren't real breasts and when they treat our vaginas as if they aren't real vaginas they are contributing to the idea that when we are raped it isn't really rape

mousidy

they relentlessly speak of our bodies as fake and then we are treated as inhuman sex dolls who don't suffer, unlike real human women. these are not two disconnected phenomena

mousidy

galaxy brain terfs have found this one and they're acting like I'M the one who invented the idea that rape is only rape if it's against a cis woman. I don't know how to tell you this my friends but this is one of your favorite talking points 😭

mousidy

actually astounding how the pieces on the board move when a trans woman says anything. like oh lmao I'm used to you bunch sweeping the fact that it's still rape when it happens to us under the rug, lmao. nice change of pace

mousidy

taking a break from the "only REAL women can be raped" mines are we?

found-in-vessel

they can hold the cognitive dissonance because they hold the belief subconsciously enough that they can point at us in shock when we clarify what they imply and say in their microaggressions.

*gasp!* "I can't believe you'd say something like that tranny! It's unbelievable that anyone could believe this! Let me correct you. You clearly don't know what you're talking about like I do."

They don't see us as human so they can try as hard as they can to instill self hatred in us for our natal genitals and then act affronted when we start talking about it without pretense.

mousidy

where are my transfem gamedevs pspsps cmere let's be devs together

tboy-trash

[seeing a cis woman upset after a cis man called her a hysterical bitch] omg why are cis people always infighting?? gender norms oppress all of them, they should be fighting together :3 cis women need to stop making such a fuss and be kind to their brothers

kayla-denker

"Why are they fighting when they could be kissing instead!"

mousidy

when people treat trans women's breasts as if they aren't real breasts and when they treat our vaginas as if they aren't real vaginas they are contributing to the idea that when we are raped it isn't really rape

mousidy

they relentlessly speak of our bodies as fake and then we are treated as inhuman sex dolls who don't suffer, unlike real human women. these are not two disconnected phenomena

mousidy

galaxy brain terfs have found this one and they're acting like I'M the one who invented the idea that rape is only rape if it's against a cis woman. I don't know how to tell you this my friends but this is one of your favorite talking points 😭

mousidy

actually astounding how the pieces on the board move when a trans woman says anything. like oh lmao I'm used to you bunch sweeping the fact that it's still rape when it happens to us under the rug, lmao. nice change of pace

mousidy

taking a break from the "only REAL women can be raped" mines are we?

TME people when they see a TMA person:

Seeing you made me think of sex, because you are a sex object who should be available to me, but I don't want to fuck you because you are disgusting therefore you just raped me

The TMA in question is just existing there minding her own buisness

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kropotkindersurprise

We salute an absolute icon 🫡

gaylor-moon

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ladyofspoons

this blog supports punching fascists

drmajalis

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notthegrouch

This is so important though: "You're gonna get in trouble for that" reveals so much. He was planning on nobody doing anything, not because nobody stands up to him, or nobody objecting to what he says. He expects good people to be goody-two-shoes rules followers, and he expects the rules to protect him no matter what he does.

Important lesson to learn from this standing up to fascists means getting into good trouble. Get into trouble if it's worth it. Fascists will never expect it.

neovagi

"Ableism tag on Tumblr be like: 80% Radical Disability Advocates complaining about anyone who isn't disabled". "Transphobia tag on Tumblr be like: 80% Radical Trans Liberationists complaining about anyone who isn't trans."

Do you seriously not realize how you sound? In what way is this not transmisogynist?

yossyislandd

racism literally bleeds through the cracks of everything and if you dare to even barely point it out everyone will kill you

yossyislandd

racism runs so deeply in people that if you call it out you are calling out them, and instead of sitting down and examining their own racism they lash out at you for being sooo meansies to them. you don't even have to be talking about anyone's racist behavior in particular because it makes racists so uncomfortable they will come forward themselves and act like you're targeting them specifically. it's okay when they do it because they're doing it in the correct way, in the nice way! they don't mean it like that. in fact they're actually being progressive. you're the cruel one for acting like their racist behavior is racist. you're the problem if you're bothered by their comfort racism. you're the bitchy colored person who makes eeeverything about racism when it so clearly isn't. i'm fucking sick of this.

mousidy

Sorry but I’m exclusively attracted to afab people. I wasn’t sent to conversion therapy twice as a teenager only to have people on the internet guilt me into trying to like people assigned male just like the Mormon counselors wanted. I will always advocate for trans rights but this kind of rhetoric will only hurt you. You cannot guilt or coerce people into sleeping with you or rather, you can, but you should’t.

I've been wanting to unpack this particular terf argument for a while but I'm not even sure what I wrote that you could be responding to here. yes it's bioessentialist to see trans women as our assigned sex before what we actually are, but that fact alone does not obligate you to sleep with anyone

it would be fatphobic to announce that you don't want to sleep with fat women, and someone simply calling that out alone would not constitute pressuring you to sleep with anyone you didn't want to

it's not carte blanche to announce all the minorities you don't want to sleep with and aren't attracted to

nornsdominion

Approaching strange women in order to tell them under what circumstances you would/wouldn't have sex with them is still, at least in the anglosphere, a socially acceptable form of sexual harassment.

I've seen variants of it used by organised misogynist/chauvinist campaigns online, but it also independently shows up all over the place.

Trans-exclusive misogynists (a.k.a. TERFs) tend to draw from the same playbook as other misogynists, so it's unsurprising to see them use the same tactics when they sexually harass women.

mousidy

ok wouldn't it be really really cool if we made a version of super mario bros with the spirit of those "reanimated" projects: every level is created from the ground up by a different dev (including mario and his movement and all the game mechanics) but reinterpreted mechanically, visually, and auditorally through their own artistic sensibilities

mousidy

powerup state, coins, and life count carry over between levels, and you have to restrict your control scheme to dpad + two buttons, but other than that there's no required consistency. you can reinterpret your level as an fps or make it a dating sim or whatever the hell go wild

ok wouldn't it be really really cool if we made a version of super mario bros with the spirit of those "reanimated" projects: every level is created from the ground up by a different dev (including mario and his movement and all the game mechanics) but reinterpreted mechanically, visually, and auditorally through their own artistic sensibilities

epicsause-official

on sharing one's opinons

sailatina3

The most beautiful women in the world are calling themselves "boys" on pornhub to afford rent.

Seeing all these TMEs in your asks is reminding me of when my own TME abuser asked me if I'd support their transition. I told them of course, but that I didn't want to be in a romantic/sexual relationship with a man.

After that, they told me it was my fault they didn't transition, my fault they were dysphoric, and used that as a means to delay my own transition for literal YEARS. When I finally did transition and tried to navigate sex with them they refused to let me do anything other than top.

When I see AFABs going on and on about how it's actually totally fine and based to be repulsed by the bodies of all trans women, I (a trans lesbian) think about how I could've been a girl in my early twenties if not for the fact that I refused to have sex with a man.

Fuck that shit forever and ever

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#transfem voices project

mousidy

the anon about feeling validated by support from tmes has me returning to thoughts ive been wondering for a while: i am tme, and i want to support trans women more, but am afraid of falling into an unintentionally harmful mentality. kind of like the way men act as 'white knights' towards women, or the whole 'white savior' mentality. i dont know what the equivalent would be towards trans women. ive been trying to listen, learn, and share online, but i struggle to make friends thus do not participate in local queer communities (if there even is one by me?) and, ive been rather oblivious to the extent of transmysoginy until recently. do you or any of your followers have thoughts on what tmes can do to uplift trans women, and where any lines might be in terms of letting our privileges get in the way? is there any idea on what is the healthiest way to support trans women online and in-person, without creating unhealthy dynamics due to tme privilege? especially since i want to be a participant in-person local communities and activism later. personally, am going to start online and get a grasp of whats best, and prioritize/trust the voices of trans women. im sorry if any of this is confusing or ignorant, either way my current priority is listening, learning, and uplifting my sisters however i can, and however they all need and want.

I don't have anything to say about this off the dome, but I will think about it

what I do want to say right now, however, is that we don't exactly have a lot of genuine allies in general right now, and at the risk of saying some words I'll eat, I'd rather have loads of clumsy allies who are genuinely trying (albeit ones who are open to feedback and criticism!!!!) than a small few perfect ones who are afraid to act lest they misstep

the truth is our numbers are small. we need allies willing to guard dog for us

theren5534

Good rule of thumb is if you wanna be a guard dog, you heel as soon as you’re told to stop. Guard dogs aren’t wild feral attackers that won’t stop even if the person they want to protect is begging them to. Guard dogs are intelligent and cognizant of their actions. Be willing to guard, but above that be willing to listen to the ones you are trying to guard. This means you are both using your privileges and checking your privileges in a complementary manner.

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