let me count the ways i'll get to you

madison mccarty here. ms. mccarthy to the little kiddos i teach. that's right, i'm eternally in the world of kids as a third grade teacher. though i'm also on the journey to have a wee one of my own. baby mccarthy is on their way, nov 2019.

[amargedom]

Sometimes you make choices in life, and sometimes choices make you.

Gayle Forman, If I Stay (via amargedom)

[msmadisonhope]

📲 Madison x Hunter

HUNTER: Oh...okay. Give me a few mintues to get settled and I'll call you.

MADISON: Yeah, okay.

[msmadisonhope]

📲 Madison x Hunter

HUNTER: He's not? So then where is he?

HUNTER: When...in November? When... did you..?

MADISON: I think... maybe we should finish this conversation in person? Or at least over the phone.

[msmadisonhope]

📲 Madison x Hunter

HUNTER: When you were with the father? He didn't break up with you because of it did he?

HUNTER: ...wait... you're due in November?

MADISON: He's not the type for that.

MADISON: That's what the doctor said, yeah.

[msmadisonhope]

📲 Madison x Hunter

HUNTER: How is it then? If you don't mind me asking. Did you and the father split up?

HUNTER: Did you know you were pregnant? Does he know?

HUNTER: Sorry, this is none of my business.

MADISON: Did I know I was pregnant when?

[msmadisonhope]

📲 Madison x Hunter

HUNTER: That's what I figured. Thank you.

HUNTER: Oh? So... you just wanted to have a baby?

MADISON: Not exactly?

MADISON: I mean, in general, yes, I've always wanted to have kids, but this was not exactly planned.

[msmadisonhope]

📲 Madison x Hunter

HUNTER: Sorry.. I looked up your number. This didn't feel like something to say over social media.

HUNTER: I'm sorry... I didn't know you were seeing someone. Of course you wouldn't want me propositioning you right now.

HUNTER: I'm sorry if I made you uncomfortable.

MADISON: Well, the teacher directory is typically for emergencies, but I'll let it slide.

MADISON: But... I'm not seeing anyone. So you don't have anything to apologize for.

[msmadisonhope]

windycityhunter‌:

I definitely wouldn’t mind that. Or leave it a bit open ended even. I get that, and it feels like it’s been going on forever but that’s even more a reason why it’s going to be a slower process than we’d like it to be. I feel like I can definitely see that with you.

Yeah, we can do that too. Changing half the world’s mindset is a struggle, but I also have twenty-some kids I can influence in the right direction on a daily basis, and they give me hope for it all. I gotta practice what I preach, after all.

[msmadisonhope]

@windycityhunter replied to your photoset: msmadisonhope made a post Not sure if it’s the spa...

Congratulations Madison. Lizzie will be sad that you’ll be off on Maternity leave during part of next year.

Thanks! At least most of my time off will be between Thanksgiving and Christmas, so she’ll have enough to keep her occupied! But missing the kiddos will be one of the hardest parts.

[msmadisonhope]

@windytina replied to your photoset: msmadisonhope made a post Not sure if it’s the spa...

So excited for you! If you need any help with your classroom set up I’m here because you’re not doing that anymore!!

Shhh. I can scoot desks around. I’ll use you for the heavy lifting at my apartment ;)

[msmadisonhope]

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Not sure if it’s the spa day or something else that has me glowing. 🤔 🤷‍♀️ #comingsoon #novemberbaby #babyandme

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@mamamccarthy: time to change my handle. am i “grandma”? “grammy”? hmm. decisions, decisions

[msmadisonhope]

windycityhunter‌:

Yeah, I get that too.  I’d say I’m not really a one off kind of guy, but maybe now that’s all I can really be.  You’re not wrong about that either; I mean that men who are pigs are men who are pigs regardless.  I see a lot of that sometimes in my work.  I think it’s okay to correct them if you feel the need to.  

There’s nothing wrong with that, really. But, if our schedules ever mesh up again, you could be a two off kind of guy. I feel like a lot of the tolerance for their crap is going away, not quickly enough, but progress nonetheless. No one has ever accused me of being afraid to speak my mind, so if they’re ever out of line, I will.

[msmadisonhope]

windycityhunter‌:

It works.   I can’t just up and proposition you right now.  You can’t come over because of who you are and if one of the kids wake up and see or hear you here… and I can’t just leave either.  I’m sorry.  Fair point.  The way I see it; and here I apologize for my gender as a whole, men have shown in the past to not always respect the bonds of marriage when it comes to women they are attracted to.  I can’t help but feel like that is in part why some people might feel the need to address a married woman with another title to make that distinction.  But it all goes back into why are there so many titles for a woman to begin with?  Why does a woman change her name?  It’s a richly steeped tradition that might not seem fair, and I’m not here to argue that, but at the time, it made sense. Maybe it doesn’t anymore.  

You don’t have to apologize. I get that things are more difficult than that. I’m not looking to be propositioned at the moment anyway. All of that is incredibly true, but at the end of the day, men who are pigs are men who are pigs regardless of a women’s title. So it may all be a moot point. I think, for now, I really just have to resign myself to being ma’amed now and again, and accept that it usually comes from a place of good intentions.

[msmadisonhope]

windycityhunter‌:

Hunter, Hunt, are both good with me.  If?  Ouch Madison. I thought we had a pretty good time.   Yes, I definitely can see that and I agree, that’s why I said someone the same age or younger would be Miss.  I suppose I can understand that, but at the same time, I feel like sometimes there just isn’t enough respect for people who have committed themselves like that.  

Hunter it is then. We did. But unless you’re propositioning me right now, still qualifies as an if. I could probably get into a long debate about respect for women in relationships, but I’ll be brief enough. The way I see it, if a guy is single or married, he’s still Sir. Why does a woman need a new title?

[msmadisonhope]

windycityhunter‌:

Exactly!  Smart girl.  

😘

[msmadisonhope]

windycityhunter‌:

Alright.  I’m on it.  Maybe I’ll go for something good.  It’s a big year after all next year.

What’s next year? 25 and celebrating your car insurance rate going down?

[msmadisonhope]

windycityhunter‌:

It definitely wouldn’t be the first time someone outside of family, and the Military, have called me Captain.  I have to admit, I kind of like hearing it during sex.   You should have set him straight.  I feel like there is an age or other subtle signs to watch for.  For instance if they are over forty and are older than you, then use Ma’am.  If they’re wearing a wedding band, no matter the age, use Ma’am.  It shows respect for the relationship.  Maybe that’s just me though.  What’s your take on it, as a woman?

It seems so formal. I think I like Hunter better. But I’ll keep it in mind, if we ever revisit that matter. I’ve always thought of it as an age thing. I never had a specific age in mind, maturity maybe. Elders, women in charge, and the like were ma’am. People at my equal would be Miss. I don’t think a wedding band is relevant. I could be a Mrs now and I still wouldn’t want to be a ma’am.