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People who like to be in control of things can have a hard time with intimacy. Intimacy is anarchic and mutual and definitionally incompatible with control. You seek to control things because you are afraid.
Jonathan Franzen (via wordsnquotes)
📲 Madison x Hunter
MADISON: I think... maybe we should finish this conversation in person? Or at least over the phone.
HUNTER: Oh...okay. Give me a few mintues to get settled and I'll call you.
📲 Madison x Hunter
MADISON: He's not the type for that.
MADISON: That's what the doctor said, yeah.
HUNTER: He's not? So then where is he?
HUNTER: When...in November? When... did you..?
📲 Madison x Hunter
MADISON: Did I know I was pregnant when?
HUNTER: When you were with the father? He didn't break up with you because of it did he?
HUNTER: ...wait... you're due in November?
📲 Madison x Hunter
MADISON: Not exactly?
MADISON: I mean, in general, yes, I've always wanted to have kids, but this was not exactly planned.
HUNTER: How is it then? If you don't mind me asking. Did you and the father split up?
HUNTER: Did you know you were pregnant? Does he know?
HUNTER: Sorry, this is none of my business.
📲 Madison x Hunter
MADISON: Well, the teacher directory is typically for emergencies, but I'll let it slide.
MADISON: But... I'm not seeing anyone. So you don't have anything to apologize for.
HUNTER: That's what I figured. Thank you.
HUNTER: Oh? So... you just wanted to have a baby?
📲 Madison x Hunter
HUNTER: Sorry.. I looked up your number. This didn't feel like something to say over social media.
HUNTER: I'm sorry... I didn't know you were seeing someone. Of course you wouldn't want me propositioning you right now.
HUNTER: I'm sorry if I made you uncomfortable.
msmadisonhope:
There’s nothing wrong with that, really. But, if our schedules ever mesh up again, you could be a two off kind of guy. I feel like a lot of the tolerance for their crap is going away, not quickly enough, but progress nonetheless. No one has ever accused me of being afraid to speak my mind, so if they’re ever out of line, I will.
I definitely wouldn’t mind that. Or leave it a bit open ended even. I get that, and it feels like it’s been going on forever but that’s even more a reason why it’s going to be a slower process than we’d like it to be. I feel like I can definitely see that with you.
msmadisonhope:
You don’t have to apologize. I get that things are more difficult than that. I’m not looking to be propositioned at the moment anyway. All of that is incredibly true, but at the end of the day, men who are pigs are men who are pigs regardless of a women’s title. So it may all be a moot point. I think, for now, I really just have to resign myself to being ma’amed now and again, and accept that it usually comes from a place of good intentions.
Yeah, I get that too. I’d say I’m not really a one off kind of guy, but maybe now that’s all I can really be. You’re not wrong about that either; I mean that men who are pigs are men who are pigs regardless. I see a lot of that sometimes in my work. I think it’s okay to correct them if you feel the need to.
msmadisonhope:
Hunter it is then. We did. But unless you’re propositioning me right now, still qualifies as an if. I could probably get into a long debate about respect for women in relationships, but I’ll be brief enough. The way I see it, if a guy is single or married, he’s still Sir. Why does a woman need a new title?
It works. I can’t just up and proposition you right now. You can’t come over because of who you are and if one of the kids wake up and see or hear you here... and I can’t just leave either. I’m sorry. Fair point. The way I see it; and here I apologize for my gender as a whole, men have shown in the past to not always respect the bonds of marriage when it comes to women they are attracted to. I can’t help but feel like that is in part why some people might feel the need to address a married woman with another title to make that distinction. But it all goes back into why are there so many titles for a woman to begin with? Why does a woman change her name? It’s a richly steeped tradition that might not seem fair, and I’m not here to argue that, but at the time, it made sense. Maybe it doesn’t anymore.
msmadisonhope:
It seems so formal. I think I like Hunter better. But I’ll keep it in mind, if we ever revisit that matter. I’ve always thought of it as an age thing. I never had a specific age in mind, maturity maybe. Elders, women in charge, and the like were ma’am. People at my equal would be Miss. I don’t think a wedding band is relevant. I could be a Mrs now and I still wouldn’t want to be a ma’am.
Hunter, Hunt, are both good with me. If? Ouch Madison. I thought we had a pretty good time. Yes, I definitely can see that and I agree, that’s why I said someone the same age or younger would be Miss. I suppose I can understand that, but at the same time, I feel like sometimes there just isn’t enough respect for people who have committed themselves like that.
msmadisonhope:
What’s next year? 25 and celebrating your car insurance rate going down?
Exactly! Smart girl.
msmadisonhope:
You’ll have to make up for it next year. Start thinking up your wish now, so you’ll be ready.
Alright. I’m on it. Maybe I’ll go for something good. It’s a big year after all next year.
msmadisonhope:
So, should I call you that too? Or is it a family thing? No need for a fight. The kid was trying to be polite while he bagged the groceries.
It definitely wouldn’t be the first time someone outside of family, and the Military, have called me Captain. I have to admit, I kind of like hearing it during sex. You should have set him straight. I feel like there is an age or other subtle signs to watch for. For instance if they are over forty and are older than you, then use Ma’am. If they’re wearing a wedding band, no matter the age, use Ma’am. It shows respect for the relationship. Maybe that’s just me though. What’s your take on it, as a woman?
msmadisonhope:
Birthday magic, Hunter. Birthday magic.
It’s your wish. I can’’t tell you what you want.
I only believe in magic for the kids.
Well then I guess this year at least, it goes wasted.
msmadisonhope:
They’re lucky. Truly. Yeah, Colonel or… Captain, you said? certainly have a nicer ring to them. Miss over ma’am any day though. I got ma’amed at the grocery store the other day, and I’m pretty sure it forced out a grey hair. I’m not old enough to be a ma’am.
Yeah, I’m Captain. Oh God, yes, you are way too young for ma’am and grey hairs. I feel like I should offer to fight them just on your behalf.