Too Many People

Moving on from toxic people and habits - Under 30s DNI

[mushroomsandroses]

“pole dancing for exercise” is the funniest shit we ever came up with during the Laci Green era of feminism

[wetheurban]

Highly recommend telling yourself: "I've gathered enough evidence. I don't need to keep returning to something to know it's not for me." And for your health, moving accordingly.

[mushroomsandroses]

CHEATING 👏 IS 👏ABUSE👏

SEX 👏 ADDICTION👏 IS 👏NOT👏 REAL👏

MEN DO NOT HAVE NEEDS THAT OVERRIDE YOUR PERSONAL SAFETY 🙅‍♀️

Just because it isn’t illegal - doesn’t mean it isn’t abuse.

[mushroomsandroses]

Tumblr is actually the worst possible place I could have chosen for a personal blog. Lmao

[mushroomsandroses]

Jesus H Chrysler and Dodge

[dafancyuhinspiration]

[icaseybaybee]

[jabberding0]

Art by Luo Li Rong

[mushroomsandroses]

[mushroomsandroses]

I know autism ADHD couples are doomed to fail because look at the Mythbusters.

[lessismoore]

Hachi is such an interesting character because she's self aware and knows that she idealizes the concept of love. She also acknowledges that she didn't feel actual love with her previous partners, but at the same time, she has such a low opinion of herself that she self sabotages when she has a chance to be happy.

She hates herself and hates her patterns of behavior, and she felt like if she accepted Nobu's willingness to hear her out, that she would still end up hurting him in the long run. Hachi thinks she's this damaged, tainted thing so she goes to Takumi.

But her going to Takumi is another pattern of her behavior of self sabotage and it seems like she doesn't know that, she had sex with him even though she knew she shouldn't because she felt like that is what she deserved. Dysfunction and being with someone who would take advantage of her. Which goes back to her first ever partner, Takashi Asano.

[nanhachiko]

The irony of the name Trapnest is actually making me sick.

We know Takumi is the one who named the band. He always claimed it was a "nest" to protect Reira, but in reality, it's just a nest built entirely on isolation and control. A cage with golden bars.

Hachi-wise: he swooped in at her absolute lowest, cut her off from everyone, and provided this comfortable "nest" so she’d mistake confinement for safety. She literally adapted to love her captor just to survive, to the point of even normalizing his affairs.

What Takumi running a band called Trapnest tells us is that it's his entire psychological blueprint for women. He creates the trap, makes it cozy, and waits for you to think it's love. But in his case, I find it particularly haunting because he doesn't even hide it. He openly shows you that he knows he’s a manipulator, and he’ll literally tell you the cons of getting into the trap beforehand. Somehow, he manages to make the downsides seem completely insignificant compared to the "nest" he’s willing to build for you.

Yes, he's a POS. But my goodness... I love how motherfuckingly well-written he is.

[thepeacefulgarden]

[mushroomsandroses]

I think I finally figured out why I hate the term ‘baby trapped’ so damn much.

You put the onus on the child, that’s completely fucked up from the start.

They did not ask to be born and you owe them only love and care as the person(s) who brought them to life.

It should be “partner trapped” or “ex trapped” if anything but to be honest this is used so often by men to rebuke their parental responsibilities I would suggest we never even use the term. But in the instance that you were legitimately fooled/lied to and had the baby and now can’t escape due to custody laws, money, safety etc. that baby still is not your captor. If anything you are both trapped by the deceptive person in the relationship.

It’s always someone else’s fault, even a literal baby, in the world of patriarchy.

The only person who is truly trapped is the child they are stuck with your genes forever.

[mushroomsandroses]

Ugh thinking about the way I was formed by my father to not go out with my friends a lot and be a normal teen, and how that pushed me straight into the arms of a man who never deserved me and tore me down the same covert ways. These weirdos who think having a man in the house growing up is better for your kids have never had to deal with a covert narc destroying their every sense of self and confidence.

[mushroomsandroses]

Getting over my fear of rejection/rejection sensitivity by arguing with people in the comments

[mushroomsandroses]

Sometimes tumblr has the worst posts, I have seen this stupid idea on this website for years that “maybe some women who say they are attracted to women are lying to themselves” like fucking gatekeeper bs.

Do you know how many women this keeps in the closet??? Like so many times I questioned myself instead of just getting some pussy and living my life because of shit takes like this. (The real key is to not live your life for anyone else but this took me a long time) Also SO WHAT okay fake women attracted to women oooh scary oh no what will we ever dooo?? Sorry someone wasn’t into you girl let it go.

To the women like me who sat in the closet forever, just live your damn life. Ask the lady out, eat the kitty, touch tha boob, do your thing!

The people who mind don’t matter and the people that matter don’t mind.