Remember that reddit story I found where that exact thing happened? Like right in the post the op talked about how his MtF husband was supported more by his family because “at least you won’t be gay”
I was also linked an article by the MtF husband themself, written years earlier when he still identified as a gay man, in which he talks about the homophobia he suffered and how his family disowned him when he came out.
I’ve discussed Jazz Jennings and how their parents supported childhood crushes on boys because they saw Jazz as a girl. Truly ask yourself if they would have done the same if, at that same age, Jazz simply identified as a gay boy? When was the last time you’ve seen “gay kids” celebrated and protected the way “trans kids” are? Hell, Jazz’s parents wouldn’t even let him wear a dress until they had transitioned him. During regression therapy Jazz dreamed they were a gay man still ‘hungry to be accepted’.
What about trans ally of the year, Cher, who kicked her daughter out when she was a lesbian but accepted her trans man “son”?
And what about stuff like this?
And the fact that there are religious institutions that will help fund some people’s transition…gotta wonder what the true motives are there. Have they helped anyone who was opposite-sex attracted or only the ones they see as sinners due to their same sex attraction? Why are so many of the “trans kids” we’ve been hearing about coming from religious households?
Speaking of the Christian faith, I have personal experience in knowing that a lot of them would sooner accept trans people than gay people, since I was also raised in that faith and saw this first-hand. The thought process was basically that being gay was a choice that dirty perverts made of their own accord, but trans people can’t help being born in the wrong body. Being trans was seen more like a disability and many people were sympathetic, believing trans people should be able to transition for a fair chance to be ‘normal’. We weren’t even really aware of heterosexual (opposite sex attracted) trans people back then.
This is not an unusual thought process in other religions, too. Lest we forget Iran’s pension for transitioning homosexuals, with the alternative being jail or death. And Iran is not the only country where homosexuality/gay marriage is unlawful but allows change of legal gender identity.
Hating gay people/preferring trans people has even been observed in the “religion” of gender.
In so-called “progressive” spaces, homophobia is still astonishingly rampant (though often masked with terms like ‘cis’) while anything that can be construed as even slightly transphobic is very quickly and forcibly shut down.
All this to say that, sure, trans people don’t always have it easy. And yet, a lot of what we consider “transphobia” is either homophobia or just general hatred of GNC people whether they identify as trans or not (often still a form of homophobia). Heterosexual (opposite sex attracted) MtFs still receive a lot of male privilege despite being trans, and it’s not like your average nonbinary is at high risk for being hate crimed in the street. Remember that most transphobic violence in the world is leveraged against homosexual prostitutes, often because their ‘buyer’ discovered that they aren’t actually female at some point during the encounter.
You say this view point has no “basis in reality” and yet we don’t have to look very far to see it at all. Even right-wing-leaning new sites can see it. Homosexuality is often treated as a symptom for transness. Listen to detransitioners’ stories about how all they had to do was mention their same sex attraction to get almost immediate access to cross-sex hormones. A bit fishy when similar hormones were given to gay people in the not-so distant past in hopes of “curing” them….and what of all those studies they used to include in the Standards of Care document about how “most kids with dysphoria” grow out of it?
It’s clear that societies that hold tightly to their gender roles are more likely to accept trans people or additional gender categories, even if begrudgingly, if the only alternative is that person remains gay and GNC. And while I’m sure there are some individual examples of people begging their kids to just “stay gay” rather than be trans, even those cases seem disproportionately low when considering the monetary costs and health risks associated with transition. You’d think way more parents would be hesitant. Often times when I do come across stories of such parents they are either 1) gay themselves or 2) their kid isn’t.
Just some food for thought.
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