Real Love Starts After Nikah

Good people deserve good spouses and bad people deserve bad spouses. Verse 24:26 Instagram | MuslimSpouses Facebook | Real Love Starts After Nikah (Fb.com/MuslimCouples)

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We often hear about the appalling things people do in the name of religion and community. It certainly boils our blood to see innocent people getting slaughtered merely because the so-called protectors of the religion find it justified. . Like many others, I too condemn people who have sworn in the name of God to make earth a deadly place to live. While I detest them - I often remind my conscience that no particular religion or community is to be blamed for this entire fiasco we're experiencing in every corner of the world today. . I was very proud of being an intellectual, a person who sees everything in positive light and doesn't believe in discriminating any caste, creed or sect - until the day I had an embarrassing encounter with myself. . It was like any ordinary day. My husband and I were enjoying the evening stroll within the walls of a lake centered garden - which happens to be among the major tourist attractions in the city. . Being a public holiday, we could spot a number of people - who like me, were there to escape the stressed lifestyle and enjoy some quality time with their loved ones. . I felt at peace and was completely enjoying the silence which dwelled within despite so much of hubbub. . Just then a young woman approached my husband and asked for his mobile as she wanted to make an urgent call. She had a pleasing smile and an innocent look. But my fondness for her disappeared when I saw her fully - she was wearing a burqa. For a second, the intellectual person in me turned to an intolerant and inhuman evil. Before I could reprimand my husband, he had already handed over his phone to her. . She talked for a minute, gave the phone back and thanked my husband saying, "Shukriya". . I was very restless about the phone call she made. However, my husband was calm and I noticed no sign of anxiety on his face. I couldn't bear his silence anymore and started shouting at him. I rebuked him for being so irresponsible and allowing a stranger to use his phone that too when he knew she was a Muslim. . Cont... 🔽🔽

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“Many marriages break due to mismanagement of time. Wasting time with friends till late at night is wrong.
Wasting time on your mobile device or internet surfing or chatting with others whilst your spouse or family members await you, is wrong. 
Many social networking sites are very addictive, with people interacting at times with those they do not know or who do not mean as much as their immediate families. 
The urge to keep refreshing social applications, checking on messages or remaining online waiting for people to appear is a disease that overtakes some.
Failure to realize that your friends are “second class” and rank only after your spouse and children can be classed as immaturity. 
Not spending quality time with one’s spouse & children can have the most disastrous effects within our homes. 
Be self-disciplined and learn to prioritize correctly in life and you will find problems minimize or even disappear by the Help of the Almighty.”

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Beautiful advice on Marriage . 1. Never stop courting. Never stop dating. NEVER EVER take that woman for granted. When you asked her to marry you, you promised to be that man that would OWN HER HEART and to fiercely protect it. This is the most important and sacred treasure you will ever be entrusted with. SHE CHOSE YOU. Never forget that, and NEVER GET LAZY in your love. . 2. Protect your own heart. Just as you committed to being the protector of her heart, you must guard your own with the same vigilance. Love yourself fully, love the world openly, but there is a special place in your heart where no one must enter except for your wife. Keep that space always ready to receive her and invite her in, and refuse to let anyone or anything else enter there. . 3. Fall in love over and over again. You will constantly change. You’re not the same people you were when you got married, and in five years you will not be the same person you are today. Change will come, and in that you have to re-choose each other everyday. SHE DOESN'T HAVE TO STAY WITH YOU, and if you don’t take care of her heart, she may give that heart to someone else or seal you out completely, and you may never be able to get it back. Always fight to win her love just as you did when you were courting her. . 4. Always see the best in her. Focus only on what you love. What you focus on will expand. If you focus on what bugs you, all you will see is reasons to be bugged. If you focus on what you love, you can’t help but be consumed by love. Focus to the point where you can no longer see anything but love, and you know without a doubt that you are the luckiest man on earth to be have this woman as your wife. . 5. It’s not your job to change or fix her… your job is to love her as she is with no expectation of her ever changing. And if she changes, love what she becomes, whether it’s what you wanted or not. . 6. Take full accountability for your own emotions: It’s not your wife’s job to make you happy, and she CAN’T make you sad. You are responsible for finding your own happiness, and through that your joy will spill over into your relationship and your love. . (Continuation in below comments 🔽🔽)

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The only time you should raise your hand at a woman is when you wipe away her tears of joy after you finish telling her that you love her. - Shaykh Aslam

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"Time is a very important healer, but sadly, sometimes we lose loved ones before we have the time to reconcile with them." - Ustadh Usama Canon

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On the day of their #marriage, a scholar gifted his #wife the Qur'an. She #loved that gift so much that she used the same copy for the rest of her life because she loved him so much that she wanted that he be rewarded each time she recited a letter. #TrueLove

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I remember the first moments of holding your hand- it felt instinctive for you to offer your hand to me, and only natural for me to take it. My heart was filled with a strange relief, as though all our shouldered worries were as light as snowflakes brushed away by mittened hands, as though my previous life had disappeared into a past that I would never revisit. It was your hands, your kind, unquestioning hands. They made me want to tell you that you had repaired something broken and weary, sewed the ripped hems of my heart back together. Your hands, holding me steady and keeping me balanced were a response to my silent prayers, my quiet moments of gratitude and trust in God. When I was waiting for them, waiting to be held and to hold, I wondered if you'd ever come – and I doubted myself, doubted that any other hand could fit into mine, could feel as comfortable and smooth against my palms, could store an exponential love between ten fingers, intertwined. So we held on tight as though we were making up for lost time, as though we would fall apart if our fingers weren't locked. And I thought I would – that is, I thought I would fall apart without your hands. And then you let go. Your hands fell to the pavement, and I wasn’t there. My hands fell to my sides: hanging, waiting, grieving. I wasn’t there to hold you as your soul departed your body. I couldn't reach you to help you, to carry you, to wrap you. You were held by someone else, ascending to where your Lord, Most High, was waiting for you. I hope He filled your hands with rewards and coolness and peace. I hope you rejoiced with what He gave you. And the truth is I didn't fall apart without your hands. I continued to walk, to pray, to breathe, to live, even when I didn't want to. Even when the earth seemed like a wasteland. Even when the night was dark and perpetual. Even when my utter brokenness was rattling inside me and the seams of my heart were almost undone. I didn't fall apart. But the weak, torn, imperfect, human hems around my heart still hope that perhaps you are somewhere, standing, hands outstretched, waiting.

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Someday. someone's going to look at you like you're the best thing in the world. #love #couple #Partner #HusbandAndWife #LoveForever

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Your in-laws. From an *Islamic perspective* . If you are a #wife:
They (the in-laws) do not have the right to force you to do anything, such as how to cook, how to dress or other things such as working and teaching etc, unless that is by way of advice and kind treatment, not by way of compulsion. . It is not permissible for them to interfere in your and your #husband’s private affairs. You do not have to ask permission from any of them to visit your #family; that is not their right. You have to ask your husband’s permission, and if he gives you permission then you do not have to ask permission from any of them. . They do not have the right to know the details of your life (you and your husband), and it is not permissible for your husband to tell them of any private or intimate matters between the two of you. . Your husband has to honour his parents, and you should help him in that. You should not be the cause of a split between him and them. You will see the consequences of that in your #children in sha Allah. . Your husband’s visits to his parents should be on the basis of need. Something may happen to his parents which requires their son to visit them a great deal, such as sickness and the like. You husband has to pay attention to that. . With regard to your serving them and doing housework, you are not obliged to do that, but if you do it as an act of kindness towards them, or to please your husband, that will be good and you will have the reward for that in sha Allaah. This is something that will raise your status in the eyes of your husband and his family in this world, and will raise you in status in the Hereafter too, in sha Allah. . With regard to your living separately, your husband has to ensure that you have a place where you can live separately, but there is nothing wrong with his parents living in the same place with you if the house is big enough, and if that will not cause you any harm. . 🔽(for continuation follow below comment)

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#Reminder

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Stop comparing your life because what you see on the #social_media. People always show the good sides. Many times, it's only an illusion. . Some #couples might not be displaying #love openly on #FB but they are the ones who are deeply in love in real. . Some might not be showing the gifts they receive from their #spouse, but they might be the ones who receive the best gifts and are genuinely #happy. . Similarly some might be showing a happy life on Fb but the #reality is different. . Don't compare.

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When you learn to #love a #woman, not because of her #beauty or #status, but because she is from the ummah of the #Prophet of #Allah, the only tear that you'd ever allow to roll down her cheek is when you tell her that you love her. #PropheticMercy صلى الله عليه و سلم - Shaykh Aslam