moon

| he/they | 20 | mcr, tøp, paramore, idkhow |

[mydahliamoon]

have to keep reminding myself that yes, i have adhd, im not faking it, ive literally been on medication that i could feel it working (sad the side effects were bad)

be kinder to yourself

[mydahliamoon]

a bit long but anyone with adhd or is neurodivergent please read.

does anyone feel like they are lost potential?

i sit, often, thinking that if maybe i got diagnosed way sooner or if i didn’t have adhd at all, that i could have so much potential.

i left school when i was 15 to go to college. school was SO difficult. i never understood what the teachers were teaching, it didn’t matter how many times i would stay behind to do extra lessons and it didn’t matter how much i studied. i didn’t get it. i made the choice early on in my life to leave when i was 16/17 to go into a creative field but i left earlier cause school was causing me so much stress and my mental health was in shambles. the education system had made me feel so dumb and i had no clue i had adhd at the time.

this month five years ago i left school and i am burnt out. i’m no longer in the creative field i was in due to covid and the colleges own shit education system but i am so burnt out and i just keep thinking. “i had potential” “if i didn’t have adhd, i would be doing *insert some academic career*”

last year i dropped out of college and ive spent the past year working. friends i know have been at university, hell my coworkers are ALSO at college or university and i feel like im so behind.

i just want to know if ANYONE feels like this. i feel like if i didn’t have adhd, or got diagnosed sooner or hell even got better treatment than what i am the now. i could of went so far in life.

[yourlocaladhder]

Ok idk if this is what is called mindfulness but now I am able to come to the present some times and just say to myself "u notice this moment? it's a really good moment. you're just here and it's quite ideal."

Hopefully, im doing this right. It's nice.

[angelsonthesideline-deactivated]

So, I’m changing departments/jobs at work, and my future supervisor and I were talking during a shift. I mentioned that I have to be careful when I have a drink with dinner because it can be amplified by my meds. He stopped me mid-conversation and asked, “Now, what happens if you don’t take your meds?” with genuine concern. I explained that a day without meds is nothing crazy, less focus, more erratic but I can function. The bigger issue is if I can’t get my meds (due to supply), where my mood swings, anxiety, depressive dips etc start to really kick in, but it is mostly an internalized struggle and I would warn him in either situation.

The fact that he wanted to make sure he was prepared, and what I cope with, and how my meds affect me (or lack thereof) was very endearing and I greatly appreciated it. He has seen my struggles some days, between my AuDHD and my OCD and has been supportive and helpful, and checks on me and my well-being, so him now being my boss is a huge plus.

As hard as it can be to be open about your mental health and struggles, it is SO freeing once you are. Sometimes people won’t understand, or even try, but I have WAY more people who are happy I am, because they can be more understanding and compassionate, and work with me vs against me. It isn’t all “it’s all about me” but if you have open communication about each others needs, you are much more likely to be able to build healthy interactions and relationships.

[yourheartinyourmouth]

getting real aggravated with how all the content around ADHD these days seems to be slipping back towards “ADHD makes you a fun silly Manic Pixie Dream Girl and yeah losing stuff and being late all the time is annoying but ha ha squirrel”

ADHD ruins lives. The suicide rate of ADHDers is heartbreaking. ADHD comorbid with major depression is the norm, not the exception. ADHD also comes comorbid with fun things like Binge Eating Disorder and substance abuse addictions, because our brains literally don’t make enough dopamine to function. The rate of comorbidity with autism is sky high, often compounding the issues we face and the difficulty we have in getting proper help.

People are destroyed by this disorder and how it makes adapting to neurotypical society basically impossible and the absolute wrenching agony of that reality. We all have horror stories of medical providers, teachers, bosses, parents, telling us we’re making things up, or we’re exhibiting “drug seeking behavior”, that ADHD is fake, or the bizarre notion that one just “grows out of it”. Getting assistance for things like work and school accommodations can be a nightmare, because many neurotypicals making decisions about who can access these accommodations consider ADHD to be a mild annoyance at worst, despite it being a disability recognized and covered by the Americans With Disabilities Act.

sure, it can be fun to be the MPDG ADHDer. but 9/10 times it’s nowhere near as fun as it looks, and you don’t see the pain that being a messy, frantic, cupiditous, fickle, mercurial, hypersexual, chaotic, distracted, manic-depressive bundle of hyper sensitive nerves who can’t keep track of anything or finish anything or stick anything out, pay bills on time, or basically exist as a functioning human in society, brings with it.

my ADHD isn’t cute and quirky. It’s a nightmare.

[psikind]

I love the neurodivergent power of seeing something related to an interest you haven’t touched in a bit and your brain going “oh yeah! *vibrates enough to break the sound barrier*”

[infectiouspiss]

CAUSE IM HER KINDA BOY. AND ALSO, HER GIRL.

(via xocylia on ig)

[dishevelledghost-deactivated202]

[chanapontmblr]

rushes to make gerard fanart bc i can't resist it even though i am studying

[owlmylove]

“why is hunger so easy to ignore when it’s so essential to the body’s well-being??” i say, closing the “new system updates available” window for the 374595th time

[zillanovikov]

Surviving under late stage capitalism is hard, especially when you’re out of spoons and you’re lucky if you have a plastic knife. We’re here to help. 

The Sad Bastard Cookbook: Food You Can Make So You Don’t Die is a community-built, vegetarian/vegan guide to getting food in your facehole when you’re suffering from depression. Or other mental illnesses or physical illnesses or *waves hand generally at the state of the world* anything else. 

We’ve made it free on our website because life sucks enough without having to give Jeff Bezos money, but we also do have a paperback copy available for sale over there too, since we also need to eat.

https://nightbeatseu.ca/the-sad-bastard-cookbook/

[adhd-vibin-n-tryin]

ok gamers time for my yearly post

eating! if u have an adhd, a autism, a ed or any sort of disorder that makes feeding urself difficult! here is an advice!

make shopping list!! infinite shopping list for ur safest foods that make you comfortable!!

this isnt "lists of food i dont have but want" this is "lists of good foods"

a good time to do this is when you have a fully stocked kitchen, so you can just take a wander and write down the things you see!

if youd like to take a gander at mine, here it is atm (work in progress)

this isnt things i can always get, but its things for me to consider when at the shops and brain empty no thoughts! bc adhd is usually underprepared and impulsive!!!

[adhd-induced-happiness]

A Checklist Of Possible Reasons I Am Upset, To Review When I Can't Seem To Figure It Out:

did not eat

new hyperfixation and no time for it

have not done a creative in 24 hrs

Bad Sounds

clothes are touching my body

cold

people

one (1) comment is stuck in my brain like a popcorn kernel

last time I drank water was ??????

nervous nervous nervous nervous

got a Slightly Worse grade than expected

last hug was ??????

slept a full 45 minutes

lonely ............

guts are shredding (again)

have not seen sunlight in 24 hrs

stuck inside

too much screen time

Yay Overwhelm

room is disaster area

have not talked to Person in a while

bored

imposter phenomenon (again)

no current routine

how long have I been working???

Too Much Socialization

and then. and THEN. I may consider:

something is actually wrong

[zenithsys]

Do you feel, like, constantly overwhelmed? Unable to focus on tasks and self-care like showering? Have I got the tip for you

I recently got put on this method through a YouTube video recommended to me called the Sharp Ax method. Name doesn't matter, I'm gonna skip right to telling you what to do.

You have a notebook? Maybe one that you've horded and used once or twice before abandoning? Grab that shit. Get your favorite pen. At the top of the page you're going to write "Brain Dump". For like, 10-15 minutes, just sit there and write down every thought that comes to mind. Does your back hurt? Write it. Do you have to make breakfast? Write it.

But here's the thing: if there's something you need to do (paperwork, showering, shopping, etc) you're gonna write it like this.

"I want to shower." "I want to check the mailbox." "I want to do my laundry today."

For whatever reason, reframing things you need to do as things you want to do has helped me so immensely, and even when I can't finish all the things I want to finish, I still feel good for finishing the ones I was able to.

This stupidly simple journaling technique (which doesn't even feel like journalling to me) has caused me to go from being chronically overwhelmed to feeling like, even just for a little bit, everything is going to be okay.

[autistic-af]

I am very aware that I'm mainly an autism blog, but I also have inattentive ADHD.

I am married to a man who has combined ADHD.

And I want to say something on his behalf, because it's not said nor recognised by the mainstream enough:

ADHD is a disability.

It's badly named, and it's treated with complete disdain. See a hyper kid? "oh, he's just a little ADHD". Get distracted by something shiny? "oh! It's all ADHD! like a squirrel! Lol"

They treat it like my husband doesn't struggle to move some days, can't think, can't get himself organised, can't perform basic levels of ADLs on some days, can't engage, can't disengage, can't cope.

It's not fun, it's not quirky. It's a self-regulation disability that literally ceases his life from moving forward for long periods of time.

He's not distracted by shiny objects like a squirrel.

He can't sit, can't stop moving, can't concentrate, then gets stuck staring, almost locked in himself for hours because he can't function.

The ADHD community gets blocked out by the disability community because it's not mainstream recognised in many places as the disability that it is. But there are places, like here in Australia, that are actively trying to change that.

It should start in the community, too.

[autistic-af]

I am very aware that I'm mainly an autism blog, but I also have inattentive ADHD.

I am married to a man who has combined ADHD.

And I want to say something on his behalf, because it's not said nor recognised by the mainstream enough:

ADHD is a disability.

It's badly named, and it's treated with complete disdain. See a hyper kid? "oh, he's just a little ADHD". Get distracted by something shiny? "oh! It's all ADHD! like a squirrel! Lol"

They treat it like my husband doesn't struggle to move some days, can't think, can't get himself organised, can't perform basic levels of ADLs on some days, can't engage, can't disengage, can't cope.

It's not fun, it's not quirky. It's a self-regulation disability that literally ceases his life from moving forward for long periods of time.

He's not distracted by shiny objects like a squirrel.

He can't sit, can't stop moving, can't concentrate, then gets stuck staring, almost locked in himself for hours because he can't function.

The ADHD community gets blocked out by the disability community because it's not mainstream recognised in many places as the disability that it is. But there are places, like here in Australia, that are actively trying to change that.

It should start in the community, too.

[autistic-af]

There's just one major thing that I don't think is acknowledged enough about late diagnosed autistics/ADHD (and probably other neurodivergences):

The floor drops away from under you when you're diagnosed as an adult.

You've spent years perfecting coping mechanisms, setting masks perfectly in place, practicing socialising, forcing things that made you uncomfortable or confused (for reasons you couldn't comprehend).

Then you get the diagnosis and... That's it. No one tells you what to do. How to cope, how to survive.

All you know is that you've spent your life hurting yourself. Your mental health is shot, you're most likely depressed, anxious, burntout...

And you never had to do that. It didn't have to be that way.

I'm not saying I wished I was diagnosed as a child. I don't. That would have a whole other bag of problems.

I just wish there was more in place for us. I wish we weren't abandoned by the medical community at 18.