EXEGESIS OF A FRIEND REQUEST MESSAGE. (OR: happy 1st friendiversary, patricia!)
background: while in the philippines last year (and through a quite unusual set of circumstances), I came across one particular girl’s facebook page and tumblr blog. After being in awe of her for about 2 weeks (and after considerable prayer), I decided to send her a message.
What follows is a brief exegesis (explanation/interpretation) of my initial message. The rest, as they say, is history. (:
“hello! I know it’s a little strange to get friend requests from people you don’t know, but I’ve been doing ministry w/ ptr. brian lopez in baguio city, & I happened to come across your blog somewhat randomly. it’s awesome! & you’ve got great taste in literature & music. I hope that’s not too weird. That is all!”
“hello!”: A cheerful greeting. Please understand that the exclamation point is wholly merited, as I am indeed quite happy to strike up a conversation with you & see where it might lead. What you may not understand at this point is that it has taken me probably an hour or so to write, revise, and carefully punctuate this simple 6-sentence, 58-word paragraph. (even my lack of beginning capitalization is calculated for nonchalance. As you will soon find out, I am a Writing major. (: )
“I know it’s a little strange to get friend requests from people you don’t know”: Understand, I’m fully aware of the fact that you don’t know me yet. So really, I empathize with your plight as you read this message. (Read: please don’t decline my friend request. Pleeeease. (: )
“but I’ve been doing ministry w/ ptr. brian lopez in baguio city”: You see, I’m very much like you! I love God & enjoy serving him. Oh, and I think you know ptr. brian Lopez in Baguio City. He's the reason I came across your blog, you know. See, I can’t be toooo much of a creeper.
“& I happened to come across your blog somewhat randomly”: I do rather believe it was divine providence over sheer randomness, but the fact remains.. seeing you here was pretty unexpected. (:
“it’s awesome!”: I should know—because I’ve been lurking on your blog for like, 2 weeks, in awe of your love for Star Wars & Jesus & good music & pop culture & your good looks, and you didn’t even know I existed. Until nowww. Hellooooo.
“& you’ve got great taste in literature & music”: Because it would seem you enjoy reading, perhaps you will find my frequent use of the ampersand (“&”) subconsciously hip & classy. But probably, I am just being a nitpicky Writing major who is spending way too much time on a simple message to a girl he seems to be in love with before he has even really met her in any sense of the phrase. But forreals. C.S. Lewis AND Anathallo? Explosions in the Sky AND Dostoevsky? WHO IS THIS GIRL? We should be friends or something. (:
“ I hope that’s not too weird”: helps balance out the chiastic structure of this message that I have unwittingly created! I’m serious! Wanna see? (:
CHIASTIC STRUCTURE IN CARLO’S OPENING PARAGRAPH TO MS. PATRICIA ADDUN
Cheery, nonchalant greeting (“hello!”)
2. Acknowledgement of the possible awkwardness this message may entail (“I know it’s a little strange…”)
3. Acknowledgement of commonalities, thus blunting the possible awkwardness this message may entail (“but I’ve been doing ministry w/ ptr. Brian lopez in baguio city…”)
4. Indirect acknowledgement of your extreme awesomeness in hopes that you will want to talk to me some more. (“it’s awesome!”)
3’. Acknowledgement of commonalities, thus blunting the possible awkwardness this message may entail (“you’ve got great taste in literature & music”)
2’. Acknowledgement of the possible awkwardness this message may entail (“I hope that’s not too weird”)
1’. Cheery, nonchalant ending (“That is all!”)
(CHIASMUS: a literary device wherein words and sentences are arranged in a symmetrical or otherwise parallel fashion. for the record, I wasn't thinking "chiasmus" when I wrote this. but it did probably take an hour or so to write :P)
“That is all!”: I really hope my casualness provokes further conversation. I really hope this is not “all.” I really hope you respond to my message. (:
“Hey! No worries. You like Star Wars so that's good enough for me. Hahaha. You're a lit major. That's pretty cool. I take it you're into music ministry, too?” [Pat’s response, several hrs later]: YES, she responded. And gleaned that I like Star Wars, am a Lit major, and am musical in some way on my Facebook page. Praise the Lord. God, please let your will be done as we strike up further conversation.
POSTSCRIPT: I sent the above message on september 24th, 2011. today is september 24th, 2012. I have literally been captivated by this girl for over a year and the state continues.
Pat, words can’t express how amazed I am at who you are & all that God has done. I am in awe that you would want to hang out with me, much less be my girlfriend. And I am utterly grateful to God that our paths have crossed—somehow, some way!—and that our friendship has continued to this very moment. May he continue to guide our relationship as he so desires, and may we be a blessing to him and to all we meet. So now I raise a bottle of Smart-C as I say cheers to the future and whatever may come our way. Happy friendiversary, Ms. Ana Patricia Addun. (: I love you!