currently experiencing horrors (affectionate)

Hi, this is my blog! You can call me Spiral, my preferred pronouns are they/them. Here you can find my art, my thoughts, and my writing, but mostly anything I thought was cool. You can consider me a curator of all my favorite things! I jump around fandoms a lot, but I always circle back to ATLA, TMA, UT/DR, and a few others. Remember, when in doubt be kind, and I hope you have a wonderful day!

[murder-huzbands]

older grace doodle, a random day in the life on erid. grey haired grace 🥲🥲🫶🫶🫶🫶🫶🫶

[asters-28]

that one scene in the book

[whomst-this-again]

Chapter 5 is around the corner baby!!!

In celebration i decided to redraw this post i did last year in july, super exited for what the next chapter of this story will bring!!

[pixelartjourney]

Quaso au chocolat 🥐🍫

[duketod]

[unofficially-ace]

Hey guys is this anything idk

[elexuscal]

Something I've noticed over the years is that I get very similar reactions when I tell people I don't drink or that I'm ace.

A sort of initial surprise, a need for clarification. And then some selection or combination of a) an insistence I'm wrong/lying, b) defensiveness, or c) anger.

And I think there are a lot of underlying reasons for those responses, many of which are probably difficult to untangle But I think some part is that people feel judged, even when i'm just neutrally stating my own preferences.

This can probably happen any time someone admits they're not interested in something you are, even stuff as innocuous as a sports team or media genre. But alcohol and sex in particular... These are topics with very strong but contradictory associations within society. To be cool, you're supposed to have sex/drink-- but only the Right Way, with the Right People. Otherwise it's "cringe" at best, "immoral" at worst. More than that, what counts as the Right Way, and the Right People, will vary from (sub-)culture to (sub-)culture, which means you're trying to adhere to a set of "rules" that is ever changing, ever shifting.

I do not believe that. I believe that both sex and drinking are, in of themselves, morally neutral acts. I believe that you can do immoral things with(in) them (e.g. Sexual assault, driving under the influence). I think there are possible health impacts you should be aware of before engaging with them (e.g. the risk of STIs or liver disease, etc), and that there are precautions people might want to consider to minimize those risks. But that's the true of frankly every activity, to a greater or lesser extent.

People who get uncomfortable about my asexuality and non-drinking rarely ask me my attitudes, and won't be particularly receptive to my attempts to clarify them. I suspect that's because they haven't actually interrogated these attitudes themselves. They are still harbouring internalised guilt, that sense on some level that drinking and sexuality are wrong.

In other words, they're feeling judged, but not because I am judging them. But because my simple act of abstaining from them is making them suddenly acutely aware that engaging with sex or alcohol is a Choice. In doing, it confronts them with a fact that it's a choice they're making. And if on some level they think they should be making a different one... they get defensive, angry, or judgemental in turn.

[mush7221]

Sofa Soulmates

[dotstronaut]

bloodymary was a funny concept at first but then i remembered that they are exactly my type

[bluemuffin-draws]

Eridian OC but they are the same shape and size as Grace

[puncertainty]

continuing traditions

[mellosdrawings]

Maybe -- just MAYBE -- don't spit on other characters and ships and works when the artist you congratulate and reblog from also draws those?

[comedydoctor18]

FANDOM ETIQUETTE NEEDS A RETURN SOOOO STRONGLY

[starlingabyss]

Time for Grace to sleep 😴💙💤

[enki2]

[androdragynous]

[ID: A tweet by TylerAlterman:

"In the middle of a "forcing party" where friends and I are forcing one another to do the things that we've been avoiding.

So far: [bullet list] A passport has been filed for; An inbox has been zero'd; A personal website has been created; & more.

I recommend this format!"]

[anathemaegg]

call that attending an Executive Function

[bramblepunk]

thrifted THREE pairs of pants and none of them fit so. time to amalgamate them into a comfy pair of shorts

[bramblepunk]

folkpunk shorts....

[normal-with-adhd-is-a-joke]

Conservative beauty standards are back with a vengeance which means it's especially important to go out this summer with bellies out and bodies unshaved. Also be unapologetically disabled with mobility aids and wearable medical devices and stim toys and ear defenders and all that stuff. You need it. People need to see it. Everyone needs to be reminded that life is unquestioningly more enjoyable when you're not living inside an arbitrary set of rules created by people who are offended by all the wrong things.

[monstersovka]

✨🌙 This wild star wolf bites, but maybe you can make friends with him? 🌙💫

74 preorders! We need to collect 200 to realize a plush wolf! ;; 🖤 making a preorder will cost $2