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When Will This Come To An End?

Another school shooting. My heart sunk when I heard Parkland the first time I heard this on the news because we have a Parkland school as a neighboring school. This isn’t about politics or religion. This isn’t about the color of someone’s skin or what nationality they are. I’m sure DT (Donald Trump) knows that most school shootings are not committed by immigrants. This is also not 100% to blame on mental illness although there are so many holes in that system as well. This, and every other disgusting crime that I don’t want to write about has everything to do with the weapon.

I’m not a politician, in fact I would go down in the second round against any staunch Republican or Democrat for that matter. I just believe what I believe. Our country is not run by our president, it’s not run by our congressmen and senators and it’s not run by our military. Our country is run by healthcare companies, pharmaceutical companies and the NRA. That’s who runs our country. That’s why after a mass shooting you hear “we can’t talk about gun control right now”.  I believe in the right to bear arms you better believe I do, just not semi-automatic one’s. There is no purpose, there is no reason for anyone to possess this type of firearm. We CAN talk about gun control and they SHOULD talk about gun control. AND BTW if you don’t have enough staff to conduct background checks HIRE MORE PEOPLE.

Kids should not be afraid to go to school. When I was going to school you didn’t have to worry about this stuff what has changed since then and now? I don’t think any large companies actually care about people anymore it’s whoever dies with the most money wins and we are just pawns in that game.

One kid with mental illness and access to a firearm that should be illegal killed 17 children who had hopes, dreams, families, love and now we will never see what they would have turned out to be. This is not God’s plan it can’t be. My heart goes out to their families and the communities affected.

One student said “if he had a knife he wouldn’t have been able to kill so many people” I don’t understand why it’s so hard for the decision makers to do something? How can they sit back and be okay with this? That whole school should go to Washington. EVERY school should go to Washington in the hopes that one day this will come to an end.

Protect our children.

Gob bless the families, students and teachers of each and every school.

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Girl Power!

I have never completely bought into the thought of “girls can do anything boys can do” simply because there are things that boys do that I don’t want to do like drive a truck, operate a tractor, lift really heavy things….I could/would if I had to but I don’t want to there’s a BIG difference. I don’t think it’s a secret that I am raising 4 girls, two of which are twins : ), not a boy in the bunch, except for my husband.  Even the dogs are girls. 

I think everyone understands history and the fact that women didn’t have certain rights, they took the back seat to many things and weren’t quite really treated equal. A woman with a strong opinion is considered a bitch (this is still the case today). We have come a long way since then….right?  Well it’s not far enough. Not when it comes to sports even at the local level.

I lived through this a few times and I am happy to say that our girls varsity soccer team made it to state semifinals. It’s funny this was a crazy year where both the girls team and the boys team won districts and what seemed like each step of the states up until the semifinal round. It was so exciting and I am so happy for both teams! Hard work and talent pay off.

Okay, so what’s this blog really about?? It’s about all girls games being schedule to start on or before 5:00 and the boys games were ALL scheduled at 6:30PM and 7:00 PM. Take the state championship game for instance…the girls are scheduled to play at 11:00 AM on a Friday morning and the boys 6:30 PM on a SATURDAY evening ARE YOU KIDDING ME. First of all how many parents have vacation days left at this time of year and not to mention, once again, because I am a parent of a female(s) I would have to ask my employer for more time off.

I don’t know about you but most normal working hours are until 5:00 PM so it was a little difficult to get to some of these playoff games for a lot of people. I am fortunate enough to work for a great employer who allows flexibility and sees the value in family. Trust me when I tell you I appreciate that so much and so do my kids. There were times I was still late to games and driving 80 miles an hour to try to get there on time (Mr. Amey, your car sign is a great idea! If silly bands can make millions this is sure a hit. I will buy the first 3!) Why do the boys get all the great game times? And if you gave birth to a boy who is good in sports no worries, relax, take it easy you will get to every game on time, driving at a decent speed limit and you will not have to ask your employer if you can leave early to see a single game, rest assured, because you have all the great game times. All that stress is placed upon parents who gave birth to females. At least that’s how I felt this soccer season.

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Love. Hate. Love. This is what my every other minute of the day feels like with 13 year old twin girls. If they aren’t fighting over clothing (which some are exactly the same like soccer uniforms) they are arguing over who’s faster or who’s smarter or who emptied the dishwasher last. Sometimes I quietly hold my breath and wait until it’s over, don’t worry, trust me it’s literally over in less than a minute. But, in between every “you’re so annoying” there are laughs and giggles so as long the love is still there I think we can get through this. I love that they can make each other laugh and they always stick up for each other. I love having twins.

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Being The Best Gift Giver

I love it when I hear that people are buying our products as baby shower gifts! We get such great feedback about how people raved over the twin specific onesies and twin mom tee’s.

I don’t know about you but I love being the best gift giver at the baby shower, birthdays, Christmas...it’s all about finding that truly unique gift that looks like you spent so much time looking for.

Shop our twin clothing line and the be the best gift giver! www.mytwinsarecuter.com

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College is for learning right?

So I always thought the next step after high school is college, period end of story. You already have your foundation from 12+ years of school now you have to build. Build your knowledge. Build your future. Build your life. Learn how to be an adult right?

With my oldest in her second year of college I’m realizing that perhaps college isn’t just for learning. College is a way to ease parents into the fact that their babies will not be around 24/7 and you won’t see them everyday. College is a way of easing parents into adulthood for their children....... and I don’t like it. Don’t get me wrong I am thrilled that my daughter is growing up to be decent, loving, hard working adult but I miss seeing her everyday and hearing her stories and laughing with her.

College isn’t just for learning....

Try to enjoy every minute.

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Today is the Day!

Today is the day I dreamed of when I started this business. This is the one place I wanted to be, the one place I saw this brand, the one place everyone eventually goes when they find out they’re pregnant. Today is the day we launch on Babies R Us! This is truly an amazing day for us. This whole adventure was a year in the making and well worth the trip. We have great things on the horizon for this brand and they expand well past clothing. We are looking forward to this relationship with Babies R Us and plan on making it long lasting.

We are so thankful for the family, friends, teachers, neighbors and twin families at all the events we have been to over the past 3 years who supported us, believed in us and even contributed to us. We are not just  “ the lady who sold t-shirts at that event” anymore thanks to you! We are a brand. The only clothing brand for twins.

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One Thing I Learned

Well, I learned many many things in my #& years. (that’s right, I’m not tellin :) but this one thing I could never figure out is how my middle daughter (Is she really “middle” if I have 4 kids and 2 are twins?) could always tell the twins apart. Maggie is 2 and a half years older than the twins and she was always spot on with who was who. I found it fascinating and thought she was a super genius until one day we were all swimming together and it dawned on me....she is on their level all the time so it’s easier to tell them apart. In the pool we are all on the same level and it was so much easier to tell them apart. 11 years later Maggie just calls Olivia and Sophia “twin” because I think it’s more difficult to tell them apart now but then again when I look back on baby and toddler photos it’s still hard to tell them apart I mean come on they are identical twins.

Truth be told I think I would have left the housework go for a couple more hours and opted for some more time on the floor with my kids. It’s not that I didn’t do it but I don’t think I did it enough. Or maybe I did do it enough and now that they are grown I just miss it. Either way take time to have some floor time with your kids. This is one of those life lessons I will teach my kids when they have kids. Life just always seems so rushed.... get on the floor and play with your kids.

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To Dress Alike or Not. A Twin Question

A question can come up when preparing for twins and again once they are born.  Do you dress them alike, or not?  You can hear some strong opinions on this one.  I heard from people to absolutely never dress twins alike.  You will ruin their quest for individuality. I've also heard of course you should dress twins alike- they need to feel the connection to their twin.  I think the actuality of what should happen falls somewhere in between.  Let's take a look at the pros and cons.

There are some downsides to dressing twins alike. In the early days when it can be hard to tell who is who.  Even with different gendered twins you can get confused. It is better to keep clothing different until you feel more confident in telling your babies apart.  I even went as far as to write down what each of my girls was wearing every time I changed their clothes.  It is worth the extra few seconds and potential ridicule for peace of mind.  Any time I am worried about identity questions I go ahead and dress the girls differently.  Generally if we are just hanging out at home they are dressed differently.  I like to be able to tell at a glance from across the room who is who, and different outfits make that easier.  (This is true even for boy/girl twins.  Babies tend to look like, well babies. It is so easy to make a mistake and doubt yourself.  It never hurts to be safe.)  My girls almost always sleep in non-matching pajamas too. I don't want to have extra worries or honestly any extra thinking in the middle of the night.  Not matching makes it just that much easier to know who you are tending to.

Two times I always dress my twins differently:

1) Doctor appointments.  This one might sound silly seeing as babies spend half their well check appointments sans clothing.  But when medical attention is involved you don't want to question who is who.  There might be lots of people looking at your twins- the doctor, nurses, medical assistants- all who probably don't know the tricks of telling your babies apart.  Even well check appointments can be a bit chaotic.  There is a lot of information that needs to get relayed quickly, and let's be real babies often cry at these making it even harder to focus.  Keep it easy on yourself, dress the babies differently.

2) When someone else is watching the babies.  It is so cute to show off your adorable twins in matching gear, but help your sitter out.  They are probably nervous about knowing who is who and babies can't tell you.  It is important that each baby gets all their needs met, and you don't want one baby getting changed twice or not fed.  This is extra important if one baby has a need the other doesn't, like one twin is on a medication.  Maybe even take it a step further and start a note sheet for your sitter.  Baby A is wearing blank, Baby B is wearing blank, and then leave lines to note when they are fed and changed.

The other drawback of dressing twins alike is purely practicality.  Sometimes it is hard to find the same clothes in the same size.  This is especially true if you clothe your kids based off mainly hand me downs and clearance items like me. Despite some drawbacks, dressing twins alike is fun.  Quite honestly I think it is a perk of giving your all to not just one baby, but two! The fun I think is the biggest pro of dressing twins alike, but it isn't the only one.

Pros of dressing twins alike:

1) Saves time. You only have to pick out one outfit.  One less decision to make can save some real time on busy mornings.  It also saves on shopping time if you can just grab two of an outfit you like.

2) Easy identification in a crowd.  You can easily pick out your two in a crowd if they are dressed alike.  This comes in handy at parties or outings when you won't be glued to your children, but want to be able to find them quickly.

3) Crowd favorite. Everyone loves seeing baby twins match.  It is just so cute, and it can really make people happy to see it.  Sometimes you have to give the people what they want.

But what about fostering individuality in twins?  This is important for older children. For babies I don't think it matters at all.  My singleton didn't care in the slightest what he was wearing as a baby, and safe to say the same is true of twins.  Once the children are old enough to have an opinion I personally think it is best to let them decide if they want to match.  I of course hold final say, but I like to save my outfit commands for important events like holidays or formal occasions.  But hey, if my girls want to dress alike sometimes when they are older they are welcome to do so.  I remember getting a kick out of dressing like my friends, so I think it is harmless.

I personally love having a couple of matching outfits to wear, and the rest of the time the girls dress differently.  It's a nice middle ground.  Plus with sites like My Twins Are Cuter, it is easier to find great twin wear!!

-Kim

Kim is a mom to a three year old son and one year old identical twin daughters. She loves coffee, reading, taking care of her family, and blogging at teamcartwright.blogspot.com

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Snow Day!

It’s mid March I would have preferred an epic snow storm in February but I will take what I can get. The twins enjoyed it and I know they had their Sparkling Snowman Long Sleeve tees underneath their snowsuits : ). I am fortunate enough to work for a company that allows you to work from home in severe weather so while I was working I got to enjoy some twin siliness, twin fun and twin baking. The girls made homemade soft pretzels, a recipe they brought home from school, and they were as delicious as they look!

If you had a snow day I hope you enjoyed it as much as we did!

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twin

noun

being one of a pair; identical: 

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And Then It Hit Us.

Up until now cancer was something that other people had, I never thought it would get to my immediate family. I know that is a bit naive since it seems everyone on the planet is affected one way or another by this horrible disease that comes from who knows what. Is it diet soda, is it pesticides, is it smoking, is it meat….all I know is I don’t know anything about it but I am going to learn very fast whether I want to or not. Cancer commercials were just commercials now they stop me in my tracks.

On Wednesday night my mom called me to tell me the results of a test that she had. When we talked previously we both thought it was nothing then she said “I have breast cancer, I have to go for a biopsy” my body became instantly hot or cold I can’t remember. I wasn’t expecting her to say that. She probably wasn’t expecting the doctor to say that. We talked about who in the family had it, as it turns out quit a few. Both of her aunts and quit possibly her mom if she had lived long enough. Then I had this sinking feeling...what if I get it or worse yet my girls. We will all have to get screened and pay more attention now. I really am concerned about my girls because now it really is in the family.

It was hard to tell the girls. I told Maggie first and then the twins. I waited until Angela came home from college I didn’t want to tell her over the phone. Maggie cried, the twins cried and asked if nana was going to die (that is so heartbreaking to hear) and Angela was upset and concerned that she would get it as well. I have a ton of questions myself. I know my mom has a great attitude about it which is great. In the coming weeks we will learn about this awful disease together and I will be with her every step of the way. Prayers are definitely needed and appreciated.

If you have a story to share please share. If you have any suggestions on what kind of help is best and what is needed the most from a patient perspective please let me know.

Mom, this will be a true test of your faith in God and what a tough cookie you really are. “You got this”  and I will be here to help you.

All my love.

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I’M NOT READY FOR BEYONCE TO HAVE TWINS!

We, as a company, are on the verge of bigger things. Talks with major retailers, expansion of the line...I just needed her to wait maybe another year. On the other hand this is GREAT news! What better connection to have with someone than being a mother of twins and who better to have it with!

Being a mother of twins is truly a unique blessing. I recommend trying to savor every moment. Write everything down! Always try to make time for older siblings. I was so busy being a momma of twins that I feel like a few of the years with my older girls was a blur. Being a parent of twins is exhausting that’s for sure, especially for the first 3 years, but I wouldn’t trade it for the world!

Congratulations Beyonce! Our company will grow with your pregnancy. We are so excited for what the future holds!

Enjoy every moment.

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One Of My Best Days EVER!

Did you ever have that one celebrity you wanted to meet?  That one celebrity that you would stand in line for hours just to say “your my favorite” if you had the chance? Most people never get that chance but fortunately for me the one person I wanted to meet also happens to own shares of a vodka company that he is the spokesperson for. Lucky for me, and my girls, that apparently when you’re a spokesperson you are expected to do bottle signings at local wine stores. 

It’s no secret, anyone who knows me knows that Curtis Jackson (A.K.A. 50 Cent) is my favorite rapper. Yes, I listen to rap. I listen to a lot of different music but the music I love the most is the music that gets you on your feet. I also listen to Dean Martin, Frank Sinatra, Michael Buble’, Beyonce’, Bieber...

I pass by a Wine & Spirits store every morning when I get my coffee and on one particular morning I noticed something new in the window and it happened to be a poster of 50 Cent.  I kept meaning to stop back when they are open to take a photo of the poster and send it to my daughter but I never got around to it. One day, she has an away soccer game and walks by a Wine & Spirits store and she sends me a text that says “WE HAVE TO GO” with a picture of the poster.  I never knew what the poster said exactly I thought it was just an advertisement for his vodka so I zoomed in and low and behold, time stopped for a moment and so did my breathing, 50 CENT is coming to our town, our local Wine & Spirits, for a bottle signing.

We are all fans, me and my four girls, my husband not so much. So we are all going....except Angela because she has a soccer game in West Chester.  The first time ever in 14 years of watching my kids play soccer that I wish they would lose so she could come home. Ang was the only thing missing this very sunny, beautiful fall day.

My husband took the twins to a soccer game at 8:30 AM and shortly after that Maggie came in my room and said “mom, come on. You gotta get up you gotta get ready we have to go”. About an hour later we are out the door ready to see what this line for Curtis looks like. I’ll be honest when it comes to crowds I’m not a big fan I’m also not a big fan of waiting. In fact I do believe Curtis Jackson is the only person I would ever wait over 4 hours in line for unless it were my own kids of course, but then I wouldn’t have to wait would I ; )

As it turns out the line is not that bad we are about 50 people back and it is almost guaranteed that we will see him because we are pretty much at the front of the line.  Keep in mind it’s about 10:15 AM and the signing is from 1-3 PM so Maggie and I have a little bit of time to stand around and kill. My husband drops the twins off after their soccer game around 12:30. The line has started to serpentine at this point and growing every second. They start to tell people to move up and the crowd goes crazy but it doesn’t really move much after that. At around 1:30 they let about 10-20 inside the store to start to form a line inside then it happened....A shiny Suburban with tinted windows rounds the corner, the window goes down and a cell phone comes out with a hand waving as Curtis Jackson records the crowd. (you can view it on his Instagram).  That’s when I knew this was for real, this was really going to happen. For my 40th birthday I told everyone all I wanted was to meet Curtis Jackson. It’s a few years later but it’s actually going to happen. it is!

The girls and I are escorted into the inside line (yeeha!) and the line moves pretty steadily. We are next and I am getting very anxious like this is really gonna happen I couldn’t believe it. I didn’t know what to expect and neither did the girls. Curtis was taking photos with everyone and it was our turn Maggie went around the corner first, then me, then the twins. OMG! I said “if your really my ....you hollar G-Unit” then he smiled and he asked if Olivia and Sophia were twins and I said “yes”. Maggie was talking to him and he took a selfie with her. After all the photos were done being taken I turned to him and told him about a show that I wanted him to produce and he laughed so we will see what happens. I gave him my business card with the show title on it and he took another picture with Maggie and the twins so you never know.

It was worth the wait and my girls agree. This is hands down one of my best days ever and 50 Cent was so nice to me and my girls!

Savor every moment even the ones that are hard to believe!

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Can We Talk?

I guess I am automatically under the assumption that if you have twins you are happy to meet another mothers who have twins or perhaps that’s just me? But it can’t be.  I love talking about my twins, I actually love talking about all my kids because I am proud of them in one way or another because they are each different, yes, even the twins!

When I found out I was having twins, after I got over the shock I mean, I though wow! what a unique gift. I will practically be in a group all of my own.....or maybe not.  Three months after I found out I was having twins I found out my neighbor, on the same block, was having twins. Yep, you guessed it, twin girls. Needless to say we grew out of our house so we moved to a new neighborhood with twin girls up the road and twin girls across the street. Both sets of twins were about 8 and 10 years older but still...it’s ironic.  Then my twins started school and there are 5 sets of twins in their elementary school in their grade alone.  I began to think that this isn’t such a unique little group.

Anyway, my point is I have run into quite a few twin parents and some love to talk about having twins, other siblings and everything in between and some don’t want to talk at all.  It’s almost as if you invaded their privacy by telling them that you also have twins. That’s okay though, I get it.  I like to give people the space that they need. I’m not an extrovert and I typically do need to find a comfort zone so I respect that about others as well. I do love being a mother of twins (plus 2 older siblings) so please, if you ever see me let’s talk twins or just children in general.

Try to enjoy every second they sure grow up fast.

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I’m Just a Mom

This blog may seem more like I’m venting than anything else but there comes a time when everyone needs to vent now and again.

I recently took my daughter, who has asthma, to the doctor because she wasn’t feeling well. The doctor said I don’t know if this is her asthma or if it’s a cold neither need antibiotics so up your asthma medication (blah, blah, blah). Here’s the thing....if it were her asthma, which she has been diagnosed with for about 13 years now, than I would probably know and we wouldn’t be at the pediatrician we would be at the allergy specialist. ; ) I’m just a mom though, not a doctor. Count with me....that’s 1 copay $.

A few days later my daughters symptoms seem to worsen and it’s hard for her to breath. Keep in mind when you have asthma and you get sick you get more sick than most people and you hang onto it longer. We call the doctor because she was just there 3 days ago and they have no openings. So we take her to the emergency walk in, that seem to be popping up on every corner these days, they give her antibiotics and send her on her way. If you are keeping count with me that is copay #2 $$ as well as antibiotic #1 $.

7 days later, my daughter, who is also an athlete can’t breathe and her symptoms are getting worse. This time we call the allergy specialist, and anyone who knows what it’s like getting an appointment with a specialist knows that this takes months but somehow my husband managed to have her seen that day. As it turns out she has an upper respiratory infection, the medication that the walk in gave my daughter wasn’t strong enough to help her (BIG question mark here)? Again, I’m just a mom, not a doctor but shouldn’t they know that? If you are still keeping count with me that is copay #3 $$$ and antibiotic #2 $$.

First I would like to thank the specialist and my husband for getting our daughter seen before this turned into something more serious than URI. 

Second I should be able to ask for my copays back and to be reimbursed for the first antibiotic that my daughter shouldn’t have even been on, don’t you think?

Third what is wrong with our healthcare today???  Isn’t it supposed to be better? I shouldn’t have to pay 3 copays in 3 weeks for the same illness in the same child. 

Enjoy your children.

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What is a Gift?

Some gifts are tangible, something you can touch and put a value to, while others are not and to me these are the true gifts. There are many times as a parent where I thought “oh I didn’t do that right” or “I should have handled that differently” and other times I wish I could go back, handle it differently and have a different end result, I think every parent has at least one of these moments.

I had a conversation with my daughter recently, about an incident that happened when she was little, it turns out that her recall of what happened ended up as me being the hero and my recall had me beating myself up over the incident for years. I'm sure my daughter is not aware of the gift that she had given me that day. This information was truly a gift..not something I could touch or place a dollar value on, It was peace of mind and for that I thank my daughter (and God) for that gift and I am so grateful.

Being a mother of twins is not easy, but parenthood, even with a singleton, isn’t easy it’s the hardest job I have ever had but it is honestly the most rewarding. With my oldest daughter I feel like I was there for every step for the first 4 years then my second daughter was born and I feel like I was there for every other step. Two years later the twins were born and I lost track of steps we just did the best we could. Yes, there are things I would change if I could, like having more patience and enjoying more moments and not working as much but I can tell you this my girls love me and they appreciate me so I must have done something right.

Do your best. Try to enjoy every moment.

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I Can’t Wait....

I can remember saying, when my kids were little, “I can’t wait” on so many occasions....”I can’t wait until they are out of diapers”, “I can’t wait until they are out of strollers”, “I can’t wait until they start kindergarten”.....When you are in the moment it’s easy to think that things will be easier later but I have to tell you I would take those crazy, busy, diaper changing days back in a second.  There were many many days, with 4 young children, that I was too exhausted to even pour a glass of wine after everyone went to bed.

My sister was in town recently for her yearly visit so I pulled out the sofa bed and any parent cringes a little when they pull out the sofa bed because they never know what surprises will be under the couch.  Well, I pulled out the sofa bed, looked down and instantly had somewhat of a sadness come over me....there were no surprises. No popsicle sticks, no socks you can’t find the match to, no toy that someone was looking everywhere for, no bouncy balls, no little plastic toys that aren’t with their other pieces....you get the idea....So I looked up and I said “You know your kids are getting older when......you don’t find a mess under the couch when you pull out the pull out bed”.  Yes, oddly this made me sad, I would much rather have the mess of young, happy, tiny voice little children than a clean space under my couch.

Don’t rush to easier times because there are many reasons why they won’t necessarily be easier.  Enjoy every moment no matter how exhausting : )