i feel like at the end of the day, (and his life), toji respected woman, he grew up being treated almost exactly how the women were treated in his household, like a lower insignificant being. so he saw what their life was like through their own eyes.
he probably became the man who would help woman take their groceries to the car, giving pep talks to children with single mothers, beating down men who harass women, even going as far as watching his female friends cups whenever they decide to go to the dance floor.
so when he met you, he swore to never treat you how the men in his family did. a hidden line in his wedding vow too. he wouldn’t even dream of bringing you around them, or anyone, who’d disrespect you. his actions probably rub off on megumi too, something he’d be proud of.
toji was one of those “me and my wife don’t get into arguments, she tells me to do something, and i do it” kinda guys.