Basically, people who proclaim to “ hate drama” or “ don’t have time for drama” are essentially announcing to the world that when shit hits the fan....they won’t be around to support you through it. The dating world is such a harsh reality because so many people are shopping for the smiling selfie personalities who only have fun and spend money and spread positivity like jam across social media. “That’s what I want! Someone who knows what they want, who has success, has found happiness and who adds pleasure and joy to my life...” Those are unfortunately the thought patterns that are surfacing again and again in our digital age. It’s fake and unrealistic, just like all the highlight reels of everyone’s life that you see splattered across the internet. I’m not saying that everyone is miserable, but I AM saying that everyone faces their own struggles. I always thought I would be a very tender hearted, soft, understanding relationship coach until I realized that there was this whole, “Joan of Arc hates fake bullshit and is going to war for the sake of truth...” Side to me. I’ve actually had a client once say, “ sometimes you sound like a cold-hearted bitch.” That’s actually a huge compliment! In reality, I was refusing to spoon feed them the fluffy ego-stroking bullshit that they so desperately hoped to hear from me. Here is the thing, I choose who I work with. I can only work with courageous people who are brave enough to face themselves in the mirror . One of the reasons so many people remain drowning in grief after relationship loss for so long is because they perpetuate denial. They deny that they might have been wrong. They deny that they might have messed up. They deny that they are a huge cause of the breakdown. Family and friends are there to comfort them with words that soothe their ego. What is drama anyway? I can handle your drama. Drama doesn’t scare me, or anyone else who is ready to commit for love. What about you? Are you actually aware of what you can handle in a relationship when things get tough? If emotional moments or discussions push you away, you might be suffering from the fear of intimacy. #intimacyissues (at Aylmer, Quebec) https://www.instagram.com/p/Bq5cyjzFjVm/?utm_source=ig_tumblr_share&igshid=1jglc8r7c0pni