[alovesogentle]

I just don’t see what hookup culture has actually done for women

[heavyweightheart]

i’m very wary of the idea of “avoiding other people’s negativity”

if by “people’s negativity” you mean their projecting or attempting to transfer their own suffering onto others, or constant catastrophizing, then yeah, that’s usually best avoided

but if when you say that you avoid other people’s negativity you mean their normal expressions of grief, anger, and fear, or narratives of their own suffering, then what you’re doing is avoiding their full humanity, and likely your own as well

[fluoresensitivearchive-deactiva]

bey at us rn:

[halfhardtorock]

Tbh I don’t know a single bi woman who doesn’t struggle with her attraction to men in some substantive, orientation-informing way…

Be it her frustration with trying to vocalize the nuances and differences between her experience of same gender attraction and her attraction to men…(or the social pressure NOT to vocalize this because bi women are seen as inauthentic if we have varied experiences of attraction instead of equal, etc).

Or how her experience of biphobia/homophobia is innately and irrevocably knotted up with misogyny in many painful ways and is suffered in her most intimate of relationships…

Or how her attraction to men isn’t always positive or a blessing but can be confusing and highly unwanted, making her question how much her experience of attraction is informed by internalized homophobia and compulsory heterosexuality.

But these kinds of feelings and discussions are often neglected because there’s so much pressure to perform this kind of bi pride where we’re all totally comfortable with our experience of attraction and totally confident with our label and our embodied experience of it.

[iv-fischer]

Click here to support Iv Fischer Facial Feminization Surgery organized by Ivana Fischer

As  some of you may know, I have been medically transitioning since 2016. The past 2 years have been filled with a great deal of personal g

Hi everyone!! I haven’t made a post like this literally in 3 years because I have been doing okay financially. My transition was kickstarted thanks to a GoFundMe I did and I have been holding myself down ever since. Going into 2019, I am determined to implement the surgical alleviation of my dysphoria into my life, but I need y’alls help.

Please consider reblogging/donating to my GoFundMe, because I cannot do this alone. You have no idea how happy it would make me to see the changes I need to have in order to feel 100% unified mind, body, and soul.

If you don’t like GoFundMe posts you can unfollow because I will be reposting this until I reach my goal.

Thank you!! 😘

[capacity]

I want this so bad

[iamatinyowl]

Men say the most disgusting, hurtful and offensive things to women every day and don’t get murdered for it, but women get murdered for saying ‘no’.

[givemelovelikeneverbeforx]

isabella

[babyfairy]

people trying to say that ariana’s tan is natural…..please don’t be daft on purpose LMAO like let’s please just not even go there this time around

[babyfairy]

it’s like listen y’all were all bent the fuck out of shape over this bitch

like < 2 weeks ago and now suddenly when it comes to ari’s VERY clearly exaggerated tan people wanna argue about it being natural…please just admit you’re looking the other way because you like ariana or whatever and don’t want to admit that she pushes her tan too far. there’s definitely something to be said about this weird blackfishing/fake tanning epidemic and ari really isn’t exempt from that discussion. no it doesn’t matter that she’s italian. y’all are acting like she’s laying outside baking in the sun to achieve that color naturally. it’s december. why do y’all always refuse to be even 1% critical of the celebrities you’re obsessed with? like what’s up with that

[bideogaymes]

some of you may know i got sex*ally assualted by my supervisor this week

and i cannot afford to leave my current job. i reported it to our union rep and am currently waiting for action to be taken against him. i’d really appreciate any help and all help with making rent in the meantime while i look for other seasonal work. my goal is $700 and however close i can get to that would be a great blessing to me and my family and my mental/physical health.

paypal.me/sleepisforlovers

cash.me/$sheisresting

venmo: @ sleepisforlovers

thank you for taking the time to read and share this and for the messages of support i’ve gotten so far, im really thankful to have a loving online community such as this one. ❤️🧿

[bideogaymes]

wow thank you so much y’all im literally in tears with all the kind messages i’ve been receiving! & to other victims of workplace sexual violence like this i just want to say im with you too and you are not alone.

currently at 258/700

[bagelriri]

CupcakKe photographed by Elizabeth de la Piedra for Butterfly Book

[fluoresensitivearchive-deactiva]

thank you, next ( shade )

[lunaeregia]

thank u, next!

[veryfunnymemes]

[bideogaymes]

i want to go grocery shopping but i don’t have extra money for it in my budget, i would be appreciative if y’all could help me get to $150 for food in the house.

cash.me/$sheisresting

paypal.me/sleepisforlovers

venmo: @ sleepisforlovers

thank you for the love and consideration 💗

[babyfairy]

i have $10 in my account and i’m sick with no food in the house so could somebody send me $20 or so to buy myself lunch and some nyquil at least? i’d really appreciate it 🙇🏻‍♀️

venmo and cash.me: moonvirgos

paypal: https://www.paypal.me/megamilks

thank you 🤧

[ugotchi]

these white women living in literal black face are the least deserving people when it comes to sympathy for people impacted by body dysmorphia. you have countless non-white young girls suffering from internalized self hatred as a direct consequence of eurocentric beauty expectations and an environment that reaffirms this view yet you want us to turn the other cheek to women who call us slurs and in the same sentence proclaim their love of ‘exotic’ men? no bitch!

[pumpumdemsugah]

They’re fixated on a highly sexualised idea of Black and mixed women. They dont need to do any of this to gain access to resources or respect, white women on Instagram and society at large do just fine without any of it. There is alot to say of the impact of social media on how you see your self but this isn’t just that

white women aren’t harmed and often arent even aware of how women of colour internalise eurocentric ideas and changing them selves out of self hate but some of these women might become mothers of mixed kids and then what do those kids do that their mum thinks of them in terms of a racialised ideas of sexual appeal? what might happen if Black and mixed women come in contact with them and these women are in positions of power?

They will grow up and wash the fake tan off and ’ return’ to white society and giggle about their silly Black phase and wanting to look like “ that” while the ideas about Black womens looks and bodies remain. Woc that recover from changing them selves to fit eurocentric will still live in a society that tells them to change and will often have years of work ahead and perhaps these white women might still have to deal with whatever body issues they have but there is no pressure to be Black

None of them need to do this to survive they way woc may need to

They know what they’re doing, maybe not in detailed terms but they’re chasing a racialised thrill