Mindset
Every once in a while a book comes along that you just simply can't put down; Mindset, a psychology book by Dr. Carol Dweck, is one of those reads.
The book describes two types of mindsets that people can adopt, Growth vs. Fixed, and simply by knowing both, you open the door to change.
However, perhaps the biggest draw of the book is reading about the actions people take while in a particular mindset, and being pleasantly surprised by which category you think you fall into.
For example, those who adopt a growth mindset:
Are full of gratitude
Constantly want to upgrade
Ask how? Not is it possible
View setbacks as a wake-up-call
Praise the effort not the person
Believe that abilities can be cultivated
View real self-confidence as a readiness to grow
Believe people can change if they really want to
When depressed, exhibit increased action to fix it
Love what they are doing, even in the face of adversity
Find it inconceivable to want something and do nothing
And those with the fixed mindset:
Are full of bitterness
Keep mental counters of daily wins
Surround themselves with worshippers
View themselves as a finished product
Worry about perceptions over realities
Don't want to expose their deficiences
Expect flawless perfection, right away
See others' successes as their failures
Are the genius with a thousand little helpers
Fear trying and failing without an excuse
Believe you need effort OR ability, not both
Rely on blames, execuses, and the stiflings of rivals
Spend too much time on things to enhance public image
See others' potential as a threat to unmask their flaws
Only want feedback about their abilities: Right or Wrong
May seek weaker obstacles, to improve superiority complex
When they think they are smarter, they treat others harshly
Believe that one failure can define them; every mark matters
Study in an earnest, but superficial way, then hope for the best
Lose focus when things go wrong and put their dreams in jeopardy
Memorize like a vaccuum cleaner instead of learning for understanding
Like quick results to meet expectations, rather than pursue the new
If any of above sound familiar, you'll instantly realize what camp you fall into with certain aspects of your life. Of course, as long as you are willing, you can always change your mindset. Here's how:
Discover the joy of learning
Drop the good-bad, strong-weak thinking
Change your framework from judging to learning
Use every [ethical] strategy possible to help yourself succeed
Vowing never works. Make a concrete plan you can visualize
Remember, if you catch yourself falling into a fixed mindset, realize that you are actually making your confidence more fragile, which in the long-run, will create a self-defeating cycle. The fixed mindset lures you with the promise of a lifetime of success just for sitting there, while the rest of the world moves forward; if you think that sounds too good to be true, it is.











