I recommend sending your emails via the same account you used to sign up for Discord. This only applies to Discord users within the US and Canada.
When to do it: As soon as possible. You have 30 days from clicking the "Agree" button on a new TOS notification (or from signing up for Discord for the first time) to opt-out of this part of the agreement. I received my new TOS agreement right on the 29th of September, so I'd have until the 29th of October to opt-out.
What to say: You really don't want to give a company any room to weasel out of doing what you've asked them just because you worded things in an unclear or indirect way. Use contract jargon where ever and whenever possible when tangling with a company's internal bullshit or else they will find a way to hand wave correspondence that you've sent them as "unprofessional" or "not adequately clear"
Here is a draft of the email I have sent ⬇
Subject: Opt-Out of Arbitration Clause
I (username: [YOUR DISCORD USERNAME]) am writing to you today, [DATE], to opt-out of the Arbitration Clause in my agreement with Discord (Terms of Service Update: September 29th, 2025) that requests that I waive my right to a jury trial in the event of a dispute between myself and the company.
Secure a copy of this email to keep for your records, because Discord will not keep it on their record out of the goodness of their hearts. Star it or put it in a brand new folder that you'll never remove stuff from, or at least take a screenshot of the thing and secure it as a file on your computer, whatever you do, do not risk losing evidence that you asked to opt-out, they will happily misplace or delete or have never received your correspondence if they think they can get away with it.
If you're someone who has engaged in the realm of nsfw commerce, this is especially relevant for you currently. As the legality of merely engaging with nsfw material comes under threat we need to keep our hands on every legal right we've got to oppose the potential crackdowns. Discord is not and has not been your friend. Keep yourselves safe out there.
And on that note, if you're in the US:
tangentwithtanner
stormborns
