𓃺 @nil-durum-volenti - Tumblr Blog

Taking a break so I don’t feel tempted to deactivate. See you around, my friends xx

There's nothing wrong with people falling in love online—it's human nature.

The problem arises when people use others' reactions to their love as a justification for their own neurosis. At some point, though, it stops being love and becomes an unhealthy attachment, because they start using it as an excuse for their behavior.

Some people treat love like an umbrella that permits them to say or do whatever they think is acceptable.

I don’t think there’s anything wrong with falling in love online or elsewhere, what I find unacceptable is people claiming to know me or have these supposed feelings when I have not done a damn thing to encourage said feelings. Anyone I have loved, I’ve taken the time to know them deeply, not just some surface level fascination. I make that known, I don’t hide behind anon messages with passive aggressive declarations of supposed love. What I find especially cruel, is for someone to notice when I am going through a loss only to pretend you are that person, in my messages. That is sincerely fucked up, so my reaction to you is pretty just, albeit nicer, than you deserve.

I’m sorry but I don’t think that’s a proper excuse to conduct yourself that way. I don’t think that is love to project your feelings onto someone and getting upset when the feelings are not mutual. Like I said before, leave me alone. Drive that fixation onto things that are one, possible, and two, healthy for you.

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In the end I left the platform and I don't think I'll go back. I met an amazing girl, but she ended up blocking me for no reason. Moral of the story: don't fall in love online.

Good luck 🍀

what is genuinely wrong with you people lol

I didn’t block you for no apparent reason. You took it upon yourself to leave asks in my inbox role playing as the person I am actually hurt by. That’s mental. Seek help.

Moral of the story? Don’t form unhealthy attachments to women online who don’t even know who you are, maybe? Idk. Oh and I’m very sure you’ll leave this platform..take your meds and leave me the fuck alone.

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But I don't understand, did some idiot bother you? Who hurt you? You looked so happy here.

Just because a person appears happy doesn’t mean they don’t have other things going on, which I think I explained well enough to understand. This may be a place for me to vent at times, but I don’t wish to discuss every single thing that happens in great detail to everyone. Some things, you can keep for yourself.

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Please don't go, seeing you is the only thing that makes me happy

I’m still around..just limiting my time to things that hurt me. Please understand

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He knows he's a loser!

At the same time he's sorry and wishes life was different but life has it's lessons and he is his biggest one.

I’m sure the intent of this is to make me feel better about being rejected but it isn’t the most helpful.

instead of bad mouthing I would just prefer to take the loss with grace. Thank you x

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What happened? Who is the loser?

I uhm..don’t even know how to answer this..

sometimes you have to cut people off for your own peace of mind..even if you love them. That’s all I will say about it.