Navigating life poorly

Here for the gifs

[nocassandra]

It turns out that my favourite relationship dynamic is between

Woman who knows what she wants to do and does it TM

And

Man who goes, 'That's my girl' and provides the occasional assist TM

[nocassandra]

Xiao Hua Yong and Xiao Chang Ying

[nocassandra]

I just saw someone call Xiao Hua Yong a Green Tea Man!

Never heard this before!

It fits perfect 👌

P.S Not to be confused with green flag.

[cuppydogshane]

all the rights that come with marriage you should be able to have without marriage btw. you should be able to designate a person who can visit you in the hospital regardless of your relationship to that person.

[nocassandra]

Shen Xi He refusing to plan and organise the banquet has 'Act Your Wage' energy.

Love that for my girl 😍

Or maybe she's watched enough cdramas to know it's not worth it.

She learned from Shao Shang!

[nocassandra]

How has Tian Yuan not died from second hand embarrassment!?

I almost imploded with cringe when Xiao Hua Yong was begging for the 'knot'.

[ranaroy]

[nocassandra]

Xiao Hua Yong's thoughts on Fireworks:

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Size matters...

[nocassandra]

Shen Xi He's thoughts on Fireworks:

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Size matters

[nocassandra]

Prince Xin thoughts on Fireworks

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I poisoned myself!

[nocassandra]

Xiao Hua Yong's thoughts on Fireworks:

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Size matters...

[nocassandra]

Shen Xi He's thoughts on Fireworks:

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Size matters

[sashayed]

has anyone figured out how to turn off the thing where you love your pet so much it slides inexorably into grief-borrowing

[boomstab-papa]

[your-cosmic-creature]

“For me this glass is already broken. I enjoy it; I drink out of it. It holds my water admirably, sometimes even reflecting the sun in beautiful patterns. If I should tap it, it has a lovely ring to it. But when I put this glass on the shelf and the wind knocks it over or my elbow brushes it off the table and it falls to the ground and shatters, I say, ‘Of course.’ When I understand that the glass is already broken, every moment with it is precious.”

[nocassandra]

Xiao Hua Yong's thoughts on Fireworks:

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Size matters...

[nocassandra]

Gu Qing Zhi (Shen Xi He) is a fascinating character.

I initially didn't care for her, because there was so little insight into her thoughts.

But now that I've had time to watch her, she's surprisingly contradictory.

For someone who's as 'cunning' and 'ruthless' as her, she is surprisingly inflexible.

Even though seducing Xiao Hua Yong would be the logical play, she chooses to be honest with him about her lack of feelings.

She's cruel to her ex(?) despite the potential of it backfiring.

She wants to break up with Xiao Hua Yong because he lied to her

(turning down a crown prince might not the best move).

She abides by her moral(?) code inspite of the potential cost.

For someone who was very private and cold, the warmth of Shen Xi He's family genuinely moves her, which does indicate her previous life was one in which she couldn't really be warm and vulnerable.

Of course all this contradiction can be easily explained by writers wanting her to be a moral protagonist who's only experiencing love for the first time 😜

[hellynas]

YOUR NAME / KIMI NO NA WA (2016) dir. Makoto Shinkai

[dangermousie]

someone died falling off a cliff in Key to the Phoenix Heart.

A MIRACLE

[nocassandra]

[justangrymacaroni]

shaking women by their shoulders with all my strength, screaming YOU DONT NEED TO GET PERMISSION TO BREAK UP WITH SOMEONE!!!!

[justangrymacaroni]

you can choose to break up with someone for any reason. and it’s your choice. you’re allowed. you don’t need to ask for permission. you don’t even need to do it in person. you won’t get in trouble. in fact, most of the time you’ll be in trouble for fucking staying.

[justangrymacaroni]

they don’t even have to suck! you can just be tired! or bored! or want to be single! you don’t have to stay with a person you don’t want to be with because they “are such a good person and haven’t done anything wrong”!

WHY DO I KEEP TALKING TO WOMEN WHO ARE STUCK IN RELATIONSHIPS THEY DONT WANT TO BE IN

[justangrymacaroni]

with no-fault divorces currently on the fucking chopping block, we really need to start telling young women that they have autonomy when it comes to their romantic relationships.

no, you don’t have to date that guy just cuz he wants to date you.

no, you don’t have to stay with her because she doesn’t want to break up.

no, you don’t have to keep dating them even though they haven’t cheated/abused you/whatever horrible thing is your only reference for ending a relationship.

this is basic info, but you’d be surprised at how many women don’t understand this, or feel like it’s not true.

[justangrymacaroni]

and before ANYONE says that this goes for everyone, not just women, yes of course it does. anyone of any gender can suffer from this.

but let’s not deny that women are taught this shit from a young age. be virtuous, forgiving, kind, soft, turn the other cheek, it’s just cuz he’s a man and you’re a girl and you don’t understand. stay with him or you’re a bitch.

[nocassandra]

📢📢📢 🍾🍾🍾 🎆🎆🎆

Inducting Xiao Hua Yong into the Red Flag Hall of Fame.

Spoilers below:

🚩🚩🚩🚩🚩 He threatened Shen Xi He with outing (implied) Bu Shu Lin to make her include him in the investigation. And he's absolutely giddy that he succeeded.

🚩🚩🚩🚩 He already outed Bu Shu Lin to Cui Jin Bai to 'help' him pursue her.

[jievn]

BLOSSOMS OF POWER  百花杀 (2026)