i put the bi in nonbinary

misha | nonbinary bisexual | 22 header by lovely-oasis

[mediumkravitz]

Bisexuality Is Inherently Nonbinary

Removing the division between “straight” and “gay” blurs the lines between “male” and “female,” too.

Along with the outright rejection of it, a growing “criticism” of bisexuality within the past two decades or so is that it’s “binary,” reinforcing gender divisions. As a nonbinary bisexual, too many people are obsessing over the wrong binary⁠—and not realizing that that the systems segregating men & women and straights & gays go hand-in-hand. Bisexuality and nonbinary identity have much more in common than people think. There’s a reason bisexuality is so feverishly erased.

[hneycmb]

Really weird to me how biphobes insist bi women are Basically Straight™ and reap all the benefits of straight privilege when we're literally at the highest risk for IPV. If we were really able to effortlessly blend in with heterosexual women then there wouldn't be such a large discrepancy in IPV rates between straight and bisexual women. "Straight passing privilege" is a myth that assumes the discrimination bisexuals face only occurs on the assumption that they're gay, and only serves to alienate bisexuals from the larger community by painting them as intruders.

[hneycmb]

It's so frustrating trying to have conversations about bisexuality on here because it quickly becomes clear that a lot of people still unconsciously believe that we can just "choose" what gender to date. You guys seem to understand that lesbians and gay men don't want to fuck every woman or man they come across, so why do so many of you still believe that bisexual attraction works this way? Saying "just date women lol" to a bisexual woman who is airing her grievances about being mistreated by her male partner makes the assumption that it's just as simple as finding any woman and throwing ourselves at them.

[non-bi-narism]

is there something i don’t get or isn’t this just. biphobia

[soyalexnajera]

HAPPY BI VISIBILITY DAY TO EVERY SINGLE BISEXUAL OUT THERE 💖💜💙

[bi-sapphics]

[non-bi-narism]

[id: bisexual flag captioned “people from this country are so cool omg”. end id]

[non-bi-narism]

hey you know that person who talked shit about bi women on the post about body hair?

Yeah turns out she's dating a bi woman, but apparently she's one of the good ones or something because she "doesn't brag about wanting to fuck men in her face like her ex" or something 💀💀💀

Like she says that she doesn't date bi women because she "refuses to be a cuck" but apparently dated one and is dating another??????? We're so sexy even the ones who hate us love us.

Jokes aside, I hope her gf finds some self love and breaks up with this asshole.

well, her level of obsession with bi women sure is impressive! & i have to agree with you, her gf deserves better.

[firstgrave]

it’s crazy cuz there really are so few bisexual characters in media, despite bisexuals making up the majority of the lgbt community, yet every time there’s a new bisexual character there’s 90000 think pieces about how bisexuality is overused, it’s a “default” used by companies afraid of lgbt-ness or whatever the fuck, “why does it always need to be bisexual :(“ like y’all just cannot stand to see us anywhere ever for any reason.

[firstgrave]

“why does this character have to b bi :(“ bc they’re hot. because I said so. because grow the fuck up, idiot

[non-bi-narism]

fascinated with this comment on a post about misogyny (discussing how people describe women's bodies in their natural state as unattractive & disgusting, which originates with men who think of women as (sex) objects existing for their consumption rather than people that have bodies that grow body hair & get stretch marks & have cellulite etc; women, of course, may absorb this kind of disgust & over-police their own bodies & the bodies of other women, but, like, women are not the originators of misogyny nor its main perpetrators, gender 101)

[id: reply posted 18 of August with the icon & url of the tumblr user obscured. it reads: “ngl that’s why I'm kinda suspicious of bi girls that are like…only ever attracted to women who look a certain way but have no preferences when it comes to men. eg my ex girlfriend who only likes women who looked like pin ups n shit like…hmmm”. end id]

like. everything must be about how evil bisexual women are & bi women are not affected by misogyny & are incapable of internalizing it & are its perpetrators & also i really need to prove that some bi women are actually heterosexual.

like. if you see bi women in every problem that exists ever maybe it's time to do some self-reflection? this level of obsession is unhealthy

[nthandrake-deactivated20240909]

i love bisexual butches & femmes we should all say thank you to bisexual butches & femmes

[afropiscesism]

help me continue surviving 🙏🏾

so uh. this is my bank acct rn and I have to pay rent (500) + utilities (200) in the next 10 to 12 days and would rly appreciate help. ive been actively applying for jobs and ive gotten a denial from nearly everything ive applied to. but im kind of hopeful for this next round of applications! i would just like some help to get by and stay in my house

pls help a black disabled and unemployed trans person continue to survive out here, it’s rough

PLS DONT TAG THIS DON/TIONS!!!

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[afropiscesism]

20/750 !!!

[officialskylerwhitestan-deactiv]

good morning to bisexuals with a complex relationship to gender

good morning to she/her bi men and he/him bi women

good morning to nonbinary bisexuals who use binary pronouns

good morning to bisexuals who use neopronouns

good morning to bisexuals who are butch

good morning to bisexuals whose trans and/or gender queer identity is connected to their bisexuality

good morning to bisexuals whose gender is bisexual

bisexuals have just as complex of a relationship to gender as queer people of all sexualities!

[non-bi-narism]

a person making a biphobic post online & tagging it #biphobia

[hneycmb]

It's so fucking evil how common the stereotype of "bi woman with homophobic straight boyfriend" is and how often it's used to portray bisexual women as reckless and dangerous to our own community when we face the highest rates of intimate partner violence within the entire community. Genuinely fuck you guys for pushing the narrative that we get the privilege of ignoring homophobia if it suits us when in reality we are often the first targets of this behavior.

[hneycmb]

I really genuinely desperately need yall to stop reducing bi women to Straight Girls, But Annoying

[hneycmb]

And I'm not saying this just because it's mean or whatever but it genuinely minimizes the amount of vile shit we deal with inside of the community and out. Yall have crafted this image of bi women in your head as invaders to the community who are just trying on queerness for fun and convinced yourselves that this twisted perception justifies your incessant need to shun and abuse bi women.

[firstgrave]

I actually don’t think posts about how bi women need to shut up about their relationships in lgbt spaces can ever be lighthearted or acceptable and I think any attempt to paint them as such fundamentally misunderstands the purpose of the lgbt community at its core (:

[firstgrave]

communities are based on different people with different experiences coming together based both on their similarities and differences. whether or not you can relate to the specific discussions by bisexual women on their relationships is actually irrelevant to whether or not they are “proper” in lgbt settings.

but also the core of the lgbt community is rooted in mutual survival and support. it was a shield against systemic and personal violence on the basis of lgbt identities.

bisexual women experience almost double the rate of assault and abuse in intimate relationships compared to heterosexual women, more than lesbians as well. recent studies have shown 3/4ths (75%) of bisexual women reported intimate partner violence. the statistics are even higher for bisexual women who experience multiple forms of marginalization, such as disabled bisexual women, trans bisexual women, and bisexual women of color.

feminists have, for years, attempted to get domestic violence against women listed as a form of hate crime (with unfortunately little success) but the same logic can, and should be, applied to violence against bisexuals in relationships that occurs due to their sexuality. this is not simply another form of misogyny, tho the intersection of biphobia and misogyny plays a key role, as bisexual men also experience higher rates of abuse and assault.

violence against bisexual women in their intimate relationships is a form of hate crime and bigoted violence that the lgbt community was designed to address and protect against. the idea that bisexual women should refrain from bringing their relationships into discussion in lgbt circles is directly against the very fucking purpose of the community in the first place.

like it’s not a fucking joke. the idea that bisexual women are the ones who are “acting entitled” by discussing their own lives and relationships and experiences because they are not the same as your own is so fucking backwards i can’t even fathom the mental gymnastics used to get there.

[non-bi-narism]

the thing with the bisexual “ability to choose” that a lot of ppl are so obsessed with is that it doesn’t make any sense. it’s like in their brains everybody else is like “i really like this person i’m gonna ask them out” and bisexuals are like “hmm i’m really in the mood for being oppressed so i’m going to like this person of the same gender. on second thought actually i’d prefer to not be oppressed (bc my sexuality only affects me when i’m with a person of the same gender and when i’m single i immediately forget these experiences forever) so i’m going to be attracted to that person instead. i have no interiority btw”