[nonbinarytips]

I'm sorry...

To those who've been submitting asks: I'm sorry I can't answer them in the same pace I keep getting new ones. Don't worry, I haven't forgotten you and will eventually answer all of the asks. I've also had a lot going on in my life lately but I will do my best to go through them as quickly as I can. Lots of love xx

[therainbowcollective]

Hello! Thanks to everyone who has shown interest in our book project and promised to share their art with us! We’re excited to have as many artists involved as possible in creating this book and confident we’ll all have a blast doing it. If you want to help out, spread the word - if you know someone who would be interested in joining us, let them know! We always like hearing from new people 🌈

[nonbinarytips]

I’m contributing my art to the book and looking forward to seeing it finished. I think it’s such an amazing new project! Check it out if you still haven’t.

[therainbowcollective]

We are a collective started by two young LGBT+ people, and our goal is to bring visibility and support to other young LGBT+ artists and creative people. Our endgame is, with a group of people, to publish a collection of art (drawings, poems, short stories, photographs etc.) as a free book on Amazon accessible to anyone. It’s possible to remain completely anonymous and share pieces with a username only - no real info is necessary. 

Interested? Leave us a message and we’ll get back to you on what you’d like to do. You don’t have to have anything ready or thought out, you can message us about just being interested even if you’re not sure what you’d like to contribute. We’re friendly and not scary at all so don’t be afraid to contact us!

[nonbinarytips]

I'm nonbinary and I want to look androgynous/gender neutral. I want people to look at me and not know what gender I am. All the "guides" I see everywhere on being androgynous are for "androgynous women" and they're all basically just advice for butch women. I want to look gender neutral, not like a butch women. Do any of you know resources I could use/tips for achieving this?

This is seriously a great question but a hard one!

In order to look completely androgynous, we should live in a society where the binary isn’t so deeply engraved in everything we do. When you meet random people on the street, they look at you and the first thing their try to figure out is whether you’re a boy or a girl. And when you go to a clothing store, the first choice you must make is whether you’re shopping for womenswear or menswear. To be honest, this sucks and makes it super hard to strive towards looking gender neutral.

Keeping this in mind, I can only come up with a few tips to help you look androgynous.

Option A: Avoid all gender markers.

Start with your face. Do you have a face traditionally considered feminine/masculine? If so, this is the first thing you need to do. Certain parts of your face are most commonly the ones giving away false gender markers. Think about using makeup to shade the shape and bones of your face to look less feminine/masculine (there are multiple videos available on instructions to do this). This can also be done with a correct hairstyle that borders your face altering the shape of it. Another common gender marker are your eyebrows. Let them grow out or pluck them to a certain style to work as a counterweight for other gender markers of your face.

 Write down a list of the body parts that give away gender markers as they are. Examples could be your hands, feet, waist, shoulders, chin… These are the problem areas you need to find ways to hide/alter/modify. Do this with clothes, compression garments, makeup. Let’s say your biggest problem area was your feet. Hide them with long and/or flowy pants. Choose whether letting your leg hair grow or shaving it off completely would better benefit your cause. Choose shoes that hide your toes, ankles, or other parts that give away markers. Write down a second list of different options and solutions to alter/hide your problem areas.

When it comes to clothing, you’re probably going to have a few ideas already based on the lists created in the second step. If not, shop for unisex clothes. Choose to wear something bold and different, or something neutral and simple based on your personal style. If you manage to make your face and body work for you in a gender neutral way, the clothes will only work as further assets.

Option B: Use different gender markers to your benefit in order to confuse people.

If you come to the conclusion that you don’t have enough unisex clothing stores available/your face will never look completely androgynous/you still get misgendered a lot, start spicing things up by intentionally adding small gender markers to your appearance. These markers are supposed to confuse people when they’re trying to figure out your gender. If your face is very masculine, make yourself look as androgynous as possible, and then add for example mascara/eye liner to confuse people even further. If your voice is quite feminine, use some more masculine pieces of clothing to balance the markers. It’s going to be extremely hard finding a presentation that stays completely neutral in the eyes of a passer-by. Don’t be afraid of using gender markers to your benefit.

I’m sorry I can’t do a better job in answering this. Does anyone else have better resources or tips to share?

[nonbinarytips]

i just wanted to let you know this blog's been a big help. my parents have been giving me a hard time after i came out as nb and every piece of support means the world to me. THANK YOU 🌈

Thank you ☺️We're all here for you if you ever need someone to talk to. I know it's hard from time to time but you're gonna make it. Stay strong xx

[nonbinarytips]

I am AFAB and trying to figure out a way to express my genderqueer gender. Any tips on how to look androgynous?

The key is figuring out your own way of expression. Keep in mind these tips are NOT rules you have to follow if they don’t suit your personal style.

Anyways here’s a collection of tips from my earlier posts and some new tips:

1. Choose neutral colors such as white, black, gray or brown. Unless you’re sure that you can pull them off, avoid colors that are feminine markers (pink, magenta, pastels…).

2. Choose patterns and decorations in your clothing wisely. Or avoid altogether.

3. Pay attention to the cut of your clothes. Buy unisex t-shirts. Other ideas for tops that you can easily find in unisex cuts: sweaters, sweatshirts, button-down shirts, tank tops, leather/denim jackets, business blazers…

4. When it comes to bottoms, choose for example jeans, chinos or straight leg trousers. Avoid shorts because usually they aren’t gender-neutrally cut.

5. Shoes could be e.g. sneakers, trainers or some boots. Try these: Converse, Dr. Martens, Vans.

6. Pay attention to how you accessorize. There are multiple types of bags that are unisex (large totes, backbags, briefcases, messenger bags etc.) Other good accessories include wool scarves for winter and some necklaces or bracelets.

7. As you’re AFAB, binding or using a tight sports bra can also be a good option but not a necessity in any means.

8. Consider your hairstyle. Would you like to go for a shorter style? Styling your hair naturally and neutrally is generally thought androgynous. But you don't need to cut your hair if you don't want to. Rock your own style!

9. When it comes to makeup, I’d suggest something quite minimal.

10. Stay confident and wear whatever makes you happy.

[nonbinarytips]

Hi. Idk if you can help me, but I'm a 32DDD and am looking into getting my first binder, probably from gc2b, and I was wondering what might be a good size for me? Thanks in advance

Hi, I asked a few people who bind 32DD and 32DDD with binders from gc2b. They are using sizes S-L. You can find out your own size be taking these measurements.

You're going to need to find out two numbers:

Chest measurements

Shoulder width

Chest measurement:

If you can, choose someone to help you measure. If measuring alone, first place the measuring tape under your arms and wrap it around your back and chest just above the beginning of your breast tissue and just below your arm pits.

The goal is to find the measurement for the largest part of your chest not including much breast tissue; this is usually above the nipples.

Shoulder width:

Place the measuring tape at the point of one of your shoulders. Then stretch the tape to the point of your other shoulder. Don't wrap the measuring tape all the way around your shoulders for this measurement - just point to point.

Other tips:

Stay relaxed while measuring. Don't flex your muscles.

Always round up your measurements when between sizes. If you end up buying a too small binder, you won't be able to wear it at all. If your shoulder width suggests a larger size, definitely go with it. It's also very common to have to go down or up in sizes from time to time.

gc2b also offers help choosing the correct size for you: email them at [email protected] if you still have questions :)

[nonbinarytips]

hi! do you guys have any tips on binding for people with larger chests? thanks!!

Sorry, I have a smallish chest so I’m not the best person to help. I listed what I could come up with. Does anyone else have tips to share?

1. Find companies that offer plus sizes or even custom sizing

My absolute favorite transitional apparel shop, gc2b, offers sizes up to 5XL. Some companies also offer fully custom made binders, but naturally these are are bit pricier. I did some research and the Underworks 997 seems to be quite popular and effective for binding bigger chests. Full binders work definitely better than half ones.

2. Never look down on your chest from above.

Your chest will look significantly curvier from your viewpoint than in the mirror. By looking at your chest only in the mirror you get to see your chest the same way as everyone else does and might even avoid bad dysphoria.

3. If a binder doesn’t give you the fully flat result you’re looking for, please please please don’t double bind, use ace bandages, or tape.

Take care of yourself and listen to your body. If something hurts, stop doing it and find the option that suits you better (my suggestions are either a custom made binder or clothes that help create an illusion of a flat chest like button-downs, woven shirts, or heavy fabrics).

Plus remember, cis guys aren’t completely flat either!

4. How to get the binder on?

Getting the binder on might prove to be quite a challenge. Stay patient and ask someone to help you if possible. There are a lot of useful youtube videos that give first hand tips and techniques for getting your binder on.

That’s all I can come up with on my own. Sorry! Please someone share more tips? 🙏

[bibliophile-scientist]

As a non-binary person who binds with DDD/G breasts, here are my tips: 

1) Buy/find a binder in your size made for binding

Sam Dylan Fitch, a self described “busty queer”  has a great guide here

If you can’t afford a binder (most are $30 and up- DON”T buy the super cheap ones off amazon, etc), check out a binder swap!

Don’t go a size lower- binders are made to compress, and not only will you find it hard to put on, you will be in pain. It’s not worth it. 

For reference, I’m a 38DDD/G, use a half-shirt binder from Gc2B and currently wear a large. I also have a swim binder from Underworks in medium

2)  When you put the binder on, push your breasts to the side and up, close to your armpits. This will help prevent “the dreaded uniboob” for at least half an hour. I know you might not want to touch your breasts (I don’t!), but believe me, this step is crucial to creating a flat chest, and you won’t have to do it again for a while. 

3) Use baby powder and make sure your skin is dry when you put on your binder-  this makes it easier to get your binder on smoothly, which means less time dysphoric. Trust me, it’s worth the extra 5 seconds.  

4) Wear button-down shirts or other clothing that helps you feel good in your  body. Point5cc has a great guide here , which, while geared to those who can’t bind, has good tips for everyone. 

5) Underboob sweat is a thing, and even worse while wearing a binder. Be prepared. I haven’t figured out how to deal with this. Maybe bring baby powder with you? Some people recommend wearing a light shirt under your binder, but I’d have to go up a size if I did that.  

6) Adjust your binder often. Like, every 3 hours or so should be fine. You’ll know when you need to- just go to the bathroom if you can, or someplace no-one will see you. 

General tips which are of extra importance to us big chested binders: 

1) DON”T EXERCISE IN YOUR BINDER-  I’ve made this mistake, and it’s a bad one. Switch into a compression sports bra so you don’t end up coughing on your hands and knees by the side of the road during a bike ride. 

2) If you can afford it, get two binders- that way you can wear one on laundry day, instead of barely washing it. This especially goes for big-chested people who bind, because of the underboob sweat.  If you can’t get an extra binder, do the double sports bra trick, or check out this binding guide

3) When you take off your binder, cough a couple times and take deep breaths

4)  Don’t wear your binder 24/7. Your body needs a break. Take it off before you go to bed. 

5) As @nonbinarytips said, don’t look down at your chest too much. You probably won’t get a completely flat chest when you bind, even with the right size(I don’t). Instead, look in a mirror straight on or in profile. 

Here and here are some tips from people around the internet for dealing with dysphoria.

@lynai654, good luck binding, and I hope this helps. You can always message me if you have any more questions. :)

[nonbinarytips]

Thanks @bibliophile-scientist for the amazing tips! :)

[nonbinarytips]

normally I don't ask stuff off anon but it's not working at the moment for some reason, can I be nonbinary but be femme oriented? honestly I'm kind of confused

Sorry, I have no idea what's going on with anon asks. I tested it and it works just fine now.

Anyways to your question:

I can’t provide a “correct answer” but here are my thoughts on the matter.

I think all labels are just labels and you shouldn’t be too worried about them. You can and should choose whatever labels feel the most you. Never care about what anyone else thinks or has to say about it.

If you feel like the sex assigned to you at birth doesn’t completely match your identity, you might be nonbinary and it’s great! If you’re into girls and feminity and feel like femme oriented, that’s awesome too! These labels don’t need to be mutually exclusive.

I get it that the labels can get you confused. I’m seriously with you: I’m confused all the time. But gender is a journey and it will all become clearer when you accept yourself the way you feel the most comfortable.

Be bravely whoever you wish to be. Don’t let any hateful or close-minded opinions stand in your way. You’re valid just by being yourself! 💕

[nonbinarytips]

hi! do you guys have any tips on binding for people with larger chests? thanks!!

Sorry, I have a smallish chest so I'm not the best person to help. I listed what I could come up with. Does anyone else have tips to share?1. Find companies that offer plus sizes or even custom sizingMy absolute favorite transitional apparel shop, gc2b, offers sizes up to 5XL. Some companies also offer fully custom made binders, but naturally these are are bit pricier. I did some research and the Underworks 997 seems to be quite popular and effective for binding bigger chests. Full binders work definitely better than half ones.2. Never look down on your chest from above.Your chest will look significantly curvier from your viewpoint than in the mirror. By looking at your chest only in the mirror you get to see your chest the same way as everyone else does and might even avoid bad dysphoria.3. If a binder doesn't give you the fully flat result you're looking for, please please please don't double bind, use ace bandages, or tape.Take care of yourself and listen to your body. If something hurts, stop doing it and find the option that suits you better (my suggestions are either a custom made binder or clothes that help create an illusion of a flat chest like button-downs, woven shirts, or heavy fabrics).Plus remember, cis guys aren't completely flat either!4. How to get the binder on?Getting the binder on might prove to be quite a challenge. Stay patient and ask someone to help you if possible. There are a lot of useful youtube videos that give first hand tips and techniques for getting your binder on. That's all I can come up with on my own. Sorry! Please someone share more tips? 🙏

[nonbinarytips]

Hello! I have a blog, modestly-unique, from which I sell handmade felt pride flags. If it's alright, would you be willing to promo me? Thanks!

Check these out, so cute 🏳️‍🌈

[nonbinarytips]

Who am I? Tip 1

Have you ever felt confused, puzzled, or disoriented with your gender?

So have I. I’m still hoping for a quick solution or like a test I could take to have somebody tell me my gender.

But this solution hasn’t been available no matter how hard I’ve tried. Now I’m going to tell you The Secret about finding your identity.

Don’t get mad. There isn’t one.

You’re you and you’re perfect exactly as you are.

There are no genders. Everyone has their own identity, personality, and the way they choose to present themselves.

You don’t have to have an answer ready when someone confronts you about your gender.

You don’t need the answer now and not in ten years.

So just chill. You’ll have the best time once you’ve accepted yourself as the wonderfully unique being you are. Submitted by anon

[nonbinarytips]

Gender Neutral Online Shop

Hey everyone, don’t know if you’ve hears of it before but there’s a beautiful website called Greyscale Goods that literally caters to gender neutral / Nonbinary people, androgynous/ambiguous individuals, and butch lesbians!! All you have to do is sign up and they’ll ship you a select set of gender neutral clothing to your own preferences and if you don’t like something GUESS WHAT you can send that shit right back free of charge!!! 

I haven’t been able to try it for myself yet, my mom isn’t a fan of online shopping so I’d have to wait :( but that doesn’t mean someone else can’t. I want you all to be comfortable & confident in your beautiful asses !!! So here you go :) 

Greyscale Goods:  https://www.greyscalegoods.com

https://www.greyscalegoods.com/

[bunnika-deactivated20180603]

NONBINARY FOLKS AND ALLIES!

I want to do a day of Exquisite Enbies. I’ve seen amazing love going around for other minorities under such tags, and today has proven to me how important it is for the nonbinary people here on tumblr to get some love, regardless of how we present. I thought maybe if we can get enough high-profile enby-friendly bloggers supporting the idea, we could flood tumblr with photos (selfies and otherwise) celebrating the unique beauty and handsomeness of nonbinary folks. Text is of course welcome to accompany photos, but I want to see those diverse faces and bodies!

I’m more than happy to start it and reblog my heart out, but I need the support of as many folks as I can get.

How about April 30th? It’s close enough that hopefully this won’t be forgotten, but far enough off to build a good network of support.

So what I’m asking:

Reblog the hell out of this post! Tag enbies and nonbinary-friendly bloggers and ask them to help spread the word! Start snapping those photos!

This is needed. This is important. Help me spread the love.

[bunnika-deactivated20180603]

@smitethepatriarchy @theroguefeminist @nb-positive @nb-positivity-images @nonbinarying @nb-stuff @nonbinarycuties

[smitethestate]

@katzesidhe @millatheshieldmaiden @imperator-cj @carry-on-my-wayward-butt @askanonbinary @moon-half-full @abomination-of-gender @strugglingtobeheard @cutiequeercris @anxiety-unlimited

[queerlittlecreature-deactivated]

@queerbabbe @butnotinthisone i know i follow more nonbinary peeps but im so bad at remembering this stuff lmao

[lgbtq-unity-blog]

@forthebigenders @genderfluid-positivity @enbiesheartenbies @temp-nb-blog @genderfluxthings @demigender-positivity @nb-stuff @proudnb

[enbiesheartenbies]

@lgbtqi-support-equality @helping-nbs @nbselfielove @enby-positivity @nb-positivity-images @nonbinary-support @nb-positive @nonbinary-support

[spaceyqueer]

@datmoki @dateanbpersonsuggestion

[nicomrade]

@mogaiunderconstruction @nonbinarytalks @nonbinarytips @enbyphobia @cass-support-network @honowyn @terf-receipts

[nonbinarytips]

Research: Tip 1

Jae Puckett from the University of South Dakota is conducting a paid study to show the ways that stigma impacts trans/gender nonconforming people and how we cope with those experiences.

The study is open to all trans/gender nonconforming people who are over 16 years old and living in the US. Fill a short survey to get started, help with an important research on trans health and maybe earn some cash.

To find out more, check these out:

Link to the advertisement of the research: http://bit.ly/transgenderhealth.

The latest post on their tumblr (jpuckett-transhealth) has information on the study.

[nonbinarytips]

Films: Tip 3

The first list of transgender films with trans women on them. If looking for more stuff to watch, check out my other film tips too.

The Adventures of Priscilla, Queen of the Desert (1994) Two drag performers and a transgender woman travel across the desert to perform their unique style of cabaret.

Boy Meets Girl (2014) Ricky, a 21-year-old transgender young woman living in Virginia, dreams of becoming a designer in New York.

Beautiful Boxer (2004) Bio-pic of transgender Muay Thai boxer Parinya Charoenphol who pursued the sport to pay for her sex change operation.

Breakfast on Pluto (2005) As a baby, Patrick is left by his mother on the steps of the rectory in their small Irish town. He’s discovered by Father Liam, coincidentally his real father, and placed in an abusive foster home. By the time he’s a teen, Patrick identifies himself as transgendered, renames himself Kitten and sets out for London with a rock group in hopes of finding his mother. Along the way he works variously as a magician’s assistant, a prostitute and a dancer.

The Danish Girl (2015) A fictitious love story loosely inspired by the lives of Danish artists Lili Elbe and Gerda Wegener. Lili and Gerda’s marriage and work evolve as they navigate Lili’s groundbreaking journey as a transgender pioneer.

Different for Girls (1996) Kim Foyle (Steven Mackintosh) is a postoperative transvestite who values her well-structured lifestyle. That routine, however, is disturbed when a car accident reintroduces Kim to Paul Prentice (Rupert Graves). As youngsters in Catholic school, they excelled in making trouble, a talent Paul never outgrew. Paul does not recognize Kim as his childhood pal, and she does not remind him, fearing rejection. However, a budding romance between them is complicated when Paul realizes who Kim used to be.

Flawless (1999) An ultraconservative police officer suffers a debilitating stroke and is assigned to a rehabilitative program that includes singing lessons - with the drag queen next door.

A Girl Like Me: The Gwen Araujo Story (2006) The true story of Gwen Araujo, a young trans woman who was brutally murdered by four men in 2002.

Gun Hill Road (2011) An ex-con returns home to the Bronx after three years in prison to discover his wife estranged and his child exploring a gender transformation that will put the fragile bonds of their family to the test.

Hedwig and the Angry Inch (2001) A transgender punk-rock girl from East Berlin tours the U.S. with her band as she tells her life story and follows the former lover/band-mate who stole her songs.

Laurence Anyways (2012) A drama that charts ten years in the relationship of a male-to-female transsexual’s relationship with her lover.

My Life in Pink (1997) Tells the story of Ludovic, a child who is seen by family and community as a boy, but consistently communicates being a girl.

Normal (2003) A Midwestern husband and father announces his plan to have a sex change operation.

Red Without Blue (2007) The intimate bond between two identical twin brothers is challenged when one decides to transition from male to female; this is the story of their evolving relationship, and the resurrection of their family from a darker past.

A Soap (2006) 32 year old Charlotte could have it all, but she doesn’t want it. After moving out of her boyfriend’s apartment, she becomes the upstairs neighbor of Veronica, who is in the process of transitioning from male to female.

Soldier’s Girl (2003) The true story of Soldier’s Girl, which takes place in Fort Campbell, KY, tells the heart-wrenching story of the life and tragic death of soldier Barry Winchell. His love for Calpernia Addams, a beautiful transgendered nightclub performer was misunderstood by fellow soldiers and eventually leads to his brutal death.

Transamerica (2005) Right in the midst of important changes in her life, Bree Osborne learns that she fathered a son, Toby, 17 years ago. Bailing him out of jail in New York, Bree poses as a Christian missionary. She plans to take Toby to his stepfather’s house, but when she learns that the stepfather sexually abused the boy, Bree brings her son back to Los Angeles with her. As Toby begins to fall for Bree, she must find a way to reveal who she really is.

[nonbinarytips]

Films: Tip 2

The second list of transgender films with trans men on them (the first one is on all films besides documentaries). If looking for more stuff to watch, check out my other film tips too.

Becoming Chaz (2011) Documentary following Chaz (formerly Chastity) Bono’s gender transition. Includes interviews with family members and friends as the transition is followed.

Boy I Am (2006) A feature-length documentary that begins to promote dialogue about trans issues through a look at the experiences of three young transitioning FTMs in New York City–Nicco, Norie and Keegan–as they go through major junctures in their transitions.

A Boy Named Sue (2000) Theo is a female-to-male transsexual. This film follows his six-year process of becoming a man. Among those affected by his change is his girlfriend Lisi who has to deal with what this change means to her.

The Brandon Teena Story (1998) Documenting the tragic tale of a transgender man from rural Nebraska who was murdered after two locals discovered his female origins.

Deep Run (2015) Cole, a young transgender Christian man, is growing up in rural North Carolina. With his girlfriend, Ashley, he faces significant challenges, including hostile family and church members, and crippling financial burdens.

Gendernauts: A Journey Through Shifting Identities (1999) Monika Treut explores the worlds and thoughts of several trans-gendered individuals. Gendernauts enters a minority sector of San Fransisco culture.

Just Call Me Kade (2002) The inspiring true story of Kade Farlow Collins 14, FTM transgendered, and living with an incredibly understanding family in Tucson Arizona.

Sexing the Transman (2011) This intriguing documentary explores the sexuality of trans men and the changes they experience as a result of their gender transitions from female to male. Trans men and their partners divulge the most personal secrets of their sex lives in revealing conversations and intimate interviews. Some erotic scenes are shown.

Southern Comfort (2001) Documents the final year in the life of Robert Eads, a transgender man. Eads, diagnosed with ovarian cancer, was turned down for treatment by two dozen doctors out of fear that treating such a patient would hurt their reputations.

Still Black: A Portrait of Black Transmen (2008) The stories of six thoughtful, eloquent and diverse trans men. Each man brings a colorful and complex richness as he describes his relationship to himself, as well as others in his life.

TransGeneration (2005) A look at the lives of four college students undergoing gender transition, two of them FTM and two MTF.

Transparent (2006) A documentary about 19 female-to-male transsexuals from 14 different states who have given birth and, in most instances, gone on to raise their biological children.