Journey to a better me

[07242024-deactivated20240725]

this july i will finally stop running away & i will befriend solitude & sit outside in the sun with her

[crunchygranoladyke]

i know i've said this before but i'm going to say it again because the more i work with geriatric women the stronger i feel about the fact that the only anti-aging that women in their 20s/30s should be obsessed with is building strong bones and muscle mass. that's like the most important thing you can you can do right now to lay a good foundation for healthy aging. you can botox the shit out of your face but that's not going to do anything to save you from dying prematurely from a fatal hip fracture that you can't bounce back from because you didn't do anything to prevent yourself from becoming frail and breakable. like i know that sounds harsh but that is reality for a lot of older women and i don't want that to be you.

[golvio]

Also, strengthen your back (especially your lower back) and your knees to prevent chronic pain from muscle weakness in those areas, and regularly practice getting up off the floor from a lying position.

[sorrelchestnut]

Someone told me once that the biggest predictor for healthy aging (absent other internal factors, like cancer or heart disease) was the ability to get up without using your hands. Ever since I've practiced to the point that I can get from full prone on the floor to standing without having to push myself up off the floor, and I make sure to do it several times a day. It's amazing how much more confident I feel about my body and what I can do with it when I have that baseline to fall back on.

[kristinagehrmann]

All of this!

I started resistance training at 29, not to get jacked (which I'm not, by the way, because I never tried to bulk - it's actually quite difficult), but to stay stronk so I can draw. And it's working! Also, my lower back was hurting because of underdeveloped muscles. Strength training completely fixed that. I will yell about this to everyone who wants to hear it (or not, sorrynotsorry)

Also, if you hate exercise you might appreciate that strength training has lower barriers to entry. With proper instruction, you can't hurt yourself, and unlike with intense cardio you're not getting super sweaty and out of breath.

[paradoxsun]

I am begging you guys to build your muscle strength at 20. That is an investment you absolutely cannot put off. You'll pay for it dearly in your old age otherwise.

[wovi]

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joy sullivan

[desinteresse]

It’s crazy how low self-worth fucks with peoples lives

[desinteresse]

“What will I be if I don’t graduate/don’t get a promotion/don’t get my shit together/don’t make this relationship work?” You would be a perfectly normal human being who is inherently valuable and who possesses many talents and good traits

[desinteresse]

“What if I fail even when I tried my very best?” The world keeps turning and you will find many other things you will succeed at.

[nothingchangedbythename]

I need a plan to leave this world. It's not for me. I just keep going along and hating everything. Is there an option for a life that is not mine.

[nothingchangedbythename]

[gobloggirl]

[lovergrlnextdoor]

realist thing i’ve read

[brazillianprincess]

We live in the best time to stand out.

The overwhelming majority of people barely read, write poorly, struggle to understand simple instructions, and can’t be bothered to look for information that is widely available.

They stay uneducated, avoid effort, and fear anything that isn’t comfortable.

They victimize themselves, blame others for their own failures, and place the hope of their success on someone else.

They think they’re the center of the universe and get offended easily.

In an environment like this, it’s not hard to stop being mediocre.

If you’re willing to read four good books a year, replace bad music with silence, and show real interest and commitment at work, you’ll already be ahead of most people.

If you also watch films that aren’t on everyone’s radar, exercise regularly, and refuse to consume personal information about other people’s lives, you’ll be ahead of thousands.

It’s not about being perfect.

It’s about doing what most people refuse to do: learning, working, improving, and taking responsibility.

And in today’s world, that alone makes you rare.

[serialkillerx777]

don’t let your anxiety prevent you from achieving great things, you deserve them

[nothingchangedbythename]

I wish I knew what happened once you die.

[lemontongues]

shoutout to slow growers, late bloomers, people whose plans got derailed by circumstances beyond their control or their own choices, people who never had a plan to begin with, people who have had to start over when theyre too old to feel like theyre supposed to be where they are, people who cant pretend theyre built for the environment theyre in, and everyone who's not living the life they thought they would. im proud of you for making it this far and i hope you keep going until youre happy ♡

[drunkwhenimadethis]

"Angels can fly because they can take themselves lightly. ...Seriousness is not a virtue. It would be a heresy, but a much more sensible heresy, to say that seriousness is a vice. It is really a natural trend or lapse into taking one's self gravely, because it is the easiest thing to do. ...For solemnity flows out of men naturally; but laughter is a leap. It is easy to be heavy: hard to be light. Satan fell by the force of gravity."

G.K. Chesterton

[drunkwhenimadethis]

Heard this in a lecture by David R. Hawkins: "How you contextualize your life then is how you present yourself to the world and that's what you are to the world. The universe responds in like. When you are thus to the world, the world is thus to thee, and you walk safely through the hail of bullets and if one's meant for you, so? If you come out the other side then there wasn't one meant for you. That is the way it goes. That's complete surrender, is it not? The past is eliminated by the realization that a decent regret is all that's necessary. You can stop ruminating and trying to rewrite the past. Have a decent regret about it and let it go. I don't want to hear other people's chain's dragging. They wallow in the past because their ego is sucking the juice out of it."

[canadiandogteeth-deactivated202]

robsroom ~ One Day He Combusted

[theambitiouswoman]

You can’t become who you want to be if you’re not honest about who you are right now

You can’t become the person you want to be if you’re not honest about who you are right now and this is where shadow integration comes in. Your shadow isn’t the dark or broken part of you but the part you avoid, deny. The jealousy you don’t admit. The insecurities you hide. The self sabotage you pretend isn’t there. When you skip this step and jump straight into reinvention, your growth doesn’t land because you’re building a new identity on top of an unacknowledged foundation. Discipline collapses without self awareness. Confidence becomes ego without honesty. Healing stays surface level without truth. Shadow integration is your real starting point. It’s the map of your patterns, triggers, beliefs and coping mechanisms. When you bring light to the parts you normally keep in the dark, you stop being run by unconscious habits and start consciously directing who you’re becoming. You don’t grow by pretending. You grow by integrating

[nothingchangedbythename]

Went to one of my residency classes on Thursday and found out nobody made a med error yet. Just me and my multiple sers. I felt terrible. I have literally had to sers myself for giving double medication and antibiotics late and not cracking the vile. I'm literally like so behind compared to everyone else.

[the-joy-of-knowledge]

How to (Attempt to) Live a Life You Love

Often, the insecurities we feel come from our desire to escape ourselves or to live like others. Especially when everyone around you seems to have a shiny, captivating life you want to borrow for a moment. But the truth is simple and brutal: you are the only one who will live your life. No one else can do it for you. The earlier you accept this, the gentler life becomes.

But acceptance is hard. How do you tell someone who has hit rock bottom that they must somehow love their life, or embrace its challenges? You can’t, at least not immediately. You inch your way into it. You practice. You fail. You try again. I remind myself of this every day because I fail in many aspects of my life, and life throws curveballs none of us feel prepared to catch.

So here is how to enjoy living, even when your life looks nothing like the one you imagined:

1. Keep a Journal

Write out your feelings, your ambitions, your fears, your joys, your small glimmers of hope. One day, when you inevitably rise from whatever pain you’re carrying, you will look back in awe at who you were and how far you’ve traveled. Journaling is a record of your becoming.

2. Do One Thing for Yourself Every Day

Something small, something consistent. Like skincare, making yourself a salad, lighting a candle, taking a long hot shower, preparing a cozy dinner, reading a few pages. This is how you quietly recognize yourself. This is how you build a relationship with your own care.

3. Look Forward to Something

Give yourself a point of anticipation: a gallery opening, a new moon, a phone call with a friend, a long walk, a weekly ritual, a movie night, a tiny trip. I look forward to visiting galleries, vintage shops, and bookstores. These are spaces filled with beauty, intellect, and craftsmanship, and they remind me that a life can be stitched together through curiosity, attention, and wonder.

Enjoy!

[whyenn-reader]

im doing good! you know. besides the underlying feeling that I'm fundamentally incapable of fitting in in a society. besides that i'm chillin