wild hearts can't be tamed.

"Some people meet the way the sky meets the earth, inevitably, and there is no stopping or holding back their love. It exists in a finished world, beyond the reach of common sense" -Louise Erdrich

[melanelanelanie]

So I don’t know why i’m posting this because maybe 2 people will actually pass it along, but you should read it if the above conversation made you feel uneasy, because it should have. This is an actual conversation I had with a guy I used to work with. Notice how he’s insisting on doing these nice things for me, even when I’ve made it perfectly clear that i’d prefer if he didn’t. He doesn’t want to do those things for me, he wants to do those things to display his generosity and so that I feel like I owe him. 

Also, the fact that he felt the need to congratulate me for not thinking too highly of valentine’s day was really difficult for me to process. I don’t even know how to explain how condescending that is. Like I should be proud of myself for breaking the feminine mold. Ugh. 

And then, that “you may have nothing to do with me” bullshit. He’s trying to make me feel guilty for not liking him. He’s being melodramatic to make me feel bad for him, like I’ve done something wrong. This is perhaps the most common form of manipulation and it’s infuriating. 

Everything i’ve pointed out in this post is just a fraction of some of the common warning signs of an abusive partner that I got right off of a Women’s Shelter’s website. Basically though, if at any point in talking to a guy you feel manipulated or sort of skeevy, don’t be afraid to shut him right down. If you feel weird about it, it’s for a reason. You’re not being overly-picky, and you’re standards are certainly not too high; listen to your instincts, don’t respond! Walk away!

Now, I have no feelings at all for this guy, so it was fairly easy for me to discover all that was wrong with this interaction. But it’s a lot harder to recognize and then accept these behaviors as wrong when you actually like the guy, so do yourself a favor and learn the signs of an abusive parter to give yourself a predisposition that’ll help you detect common manipulations like these.

Early warning signs of an abuser

[theprincessthespian]

Signal Boost! If I would have noticed the signals in my experience, I would have not wasted a year. 

[creatingaquietmind-deactivated2]

I can’t decide whether I’m a good girl wrapped up in a bad girl, or if I’m a bad girl wrapped up in a good girl.

C. JoyBell C. (via creatingaquietmind)

[vazante]

[saint]

vintage blog

[fuckyeahfelines]

so, see this sweet little thing? he was recently saved from a kill shelter by our local animal rescue center, and he just got really sick. i’ve personally held him and played with him, and he’s the sweetest tiny kitten you’ll ever meet, seriously.

they’re raising money to pay for his vet bills so they can save him.go donate now, even a dollar will help.

we’ve already raised $366 out of the $500 we need, but i want to make sure he survives. if you can’t donate, signal boosting would be appreciated :^)

(submitted by sugarbunnyboocakes)

[psych-quotes]

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A beginner’s guide to astrology, start with #15.

[girlinawhimsicalland-blog]

[femmedilemma]

kittens and books should be a tumblr

[uniqueforeverr]

[continent-deactivated20140529]

[littlefuckinglesbian-blog]

I wonder whose arms I would run and fall into, if I was drunk in a room with every person I have ever loved.

[sondervida]

Wow.

[trippyashhh]

just wow….

[hidden-disaster-deactivated2014]

The real question is who in that room would still catch you.

[venez-y-voir]

[funeralweather]

[vicforprez]

[viibezz]

[d-i-s-c-o-n-n-e-c-t-e-d-deactiv]

[simply-quotes-deactivated202002]

Follow the tugs in your heart. I think that everyone gets these gentle urges and should listen to them. Even if they sound absolutely insane, they may be worth going for.

Victoria Moran (via hourglasss)

thanks tumblr for always relating to my life .

[cloudiness]

[nothinglessthanaprincess-blog]

Mark Hoppus on Twitter

[violettemaps]

I read several dozen stories a year from miserable, lonely guys who insist that women won’t come near them despite the fact that they are just the nicest guys in the world. ..I’m asking what do you offer? Are you smart? Funny? Interesting? Talented? Ambitious? Creative? OK, now what do you do to demonstrate those attributes to the world? Don’t say that you’re a nice guy — that’s the bare minimum. “Well, I’m not sexist or racist or greedy or shallow or abusive! Not like those other douchebags!” I’m sorry, I know that this is hard to hear, but if all you can do is list a bunch of faults you don’t have, then back the fuck away.. ..Don’t complain about how girls fall for jerks; they fall for those jerks because those jerks have other things they can offer. “But I’m a great listener!” Are you? Because you’re willing to sit quietly in exchange for the chance to be in the proximity of a pretty girl (and spend every second imagining how soft her skin must be)? Well guess what, there’s another guy in her life who also knows how to do that, and he can play the guitar. Saying that you’re a nice guy is like a restaurant whose only selling point is that the food doesn’t make you sick. You’re like a new movie whose title is This Movie Is in English, and its tagline is “The actors are clearly visible”.

David Wong, 6 Harsh Truths That Will Make You a Better Person (via creatingaquietmind)