I donât get it: Processing Frank Oceanâs Blond
By Neil Mellstrom
I donât get it.
I just donât.
Itâs just not my cup of tea or whatever something has to be to resonate with me.
And itâd be insulting to pretend I do get it
...right?
This isnât âmy musicâ. This isnât âmy genreâ.Â
But itâs also another one of those things that rips some people apart while Iâm left over here appreciating the guitar tones.
Fans lean on Blonde for emotional stability while Iâm left wondering,Â
âIs that a Stratocaster? Itâs gotta be somethinâ with single-coil pickups.â
That was my initial reaction. I was missing the point. Really, at best
âŠI was vibinâ.Â
But I sat down with it. For hours. I wanted to get it. Just once I wanted to make the inaccessible accessible on my own. Everything else I listen to has passed the test ofÂ
âDo I like this immediately? Because I sure donât have time to sit around and wait to like it.â
But I took that pressure off Blonde⊠I let it wash over me a few times. Waiting patiently for its reputation to match my reaction.
âI. will. appreciate this. Itâs more than nice sounds. Itâs more than soothing. Itâs more than lo-fi hip hop beats to study to.âÂ
...right?
And Iâll be honest- I had to look up the lyrics. A lot.Â
âIâm not him but Iâll mean something to you.â
That blew right by me.
But eventually I started to hear something. I had found something to listen for. The lyrics started to mean something- already a rare event for me.
âWhat could possibly be the connection between shoes and one-night stands in Nikes?âÂ
Itâs more than a critique of hook-up culture. Thatâs overdone. Itâs more poignant. It lays out the painfully familiar story of two people failing to connect...the story of people distracted by products, status, sex⊠and itâs difficult to hear all of that.Â
I wish I couldnât hear the vulnerability in Self Control.Â
The disappointment in Good Guy.Â
The fury in Pretty Sweet.Â
Theyâre all pretty devastating if you give them the time to sneak up on you.
He poses the risk we all fear in reaching out to someone. In showing them who we are. Exposing the sum of your virtues and vices.
And thatâs the genius- I think. His pure snapshots of reality.
Sparse context, vivid imagery and the truth.Â
Thatâs expression⊠thatâs storytelling.Â
I know I hear what Ocean says about intimacy in the modern age among the many themes he touches on. All of which result in the anxieties and loneliness weâve all felt.
And there are parts I donât get. Whatever âgetâ means.Â
For Blonde: saying âI donât get itâ started to sound like a cop out.Â
An effort to compartmentalize, distinguish and dismiss that which feels unfamiliar. But the warning messages scattered throughout Blonde that I had to unearth- They arenât unfamiliar. Theyâre felt almost everyday.   Â
So Iâm pretty sure I do get at least part of it⊠but either way, Iâm gonna give it another listen.Â











