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[officialsheila]

i love wlw <3

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every single wlwoc deserves $1,000,000

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hey so a lot of ppl reblogged this and tagged it with “where’s mine” or something like that, so if you have a ko-fi, a paypal, or another place where you accept donations, rb this post and link it so you can get that million dollars that you deserve

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this post is popular again so please rb this version i want action more than words!

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wlw starting college? you’re amazing!

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pride to wrath

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i got a new computer, looks like i have to redownload mermaid splash and play it over again... what a shame >:)

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pride pride pride pride pride!!!

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it is my birthday

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it’s mermay, and i still love mermaids and i’m still super gay!

[closet-keys]

the most succinct explanation of why some lesbians use they/them or he/him pronouns is that pronouns are very much like names, in that they are culturally established signifiers we use to refer to someone else, and almost always those signifiers are gendered. 

You’ll see a lot of lesbians start to go by androgynous or masculine names (or nicknames) to feel more comfortable. Sam, Pat, Chris, Jay, Moe, etc. are all really common chosen names among lesbians for that reason. 

I also knew an older butch– my parents’ age– who went by Otter (& her femme partner went by Kitty) because they decided to just depart from standard names entirely– and I see younger lesbians using neo-pronouns in very similar ways for very similar reasons. 

A lesbian who was raised with the name Christina and the pronouns she/her/hers deciding he’s more comfortable with the name Chris and he/him/his pronouns to reflect his complex relationship to womanhood is not a huge confusing leap, it’s pretty normal depending on what circles you’re in. 

Gender is complex, and gender nonconforming lesbians, butches, and femmes have often navigated gender on their own terms to find ways of being comfortable in their bodies, relationships, and lives. 

[positivity-all-the-time]

Ok this is the first explanation of he/him lesbians that has actually made sense to me, and I think I finally get it now!

[officialsheila]

happy lesbian visibility day!!!

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lesbians deserve to be mermaids if they want to be

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anyways wlw don’t have to use she/her!

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happy new year, wlw! i hope 2019 is kind to you

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merry christmas wlw

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stella glow is full of lesbians

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wow one of my posts hit 1,000 notes

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sometimes my mutuals rb it and i’m like woaw…. that me

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WOAW IT HAS 2,000 NOTES

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Honest question not meant to offend anyone but how can someone use they/them pronouns but be wlw? I thought that "they" means that the individual doesn't identify within the gender binary, so how can they be wlw if they don't identify as a woman? I'm really curious about it I hope this doesn't come across as rude or offensive.

i’m glad you asked! someone who is a woman loving woman identifies as a woman or identifies strongly with womanhood, and could also be nonbinary. pronouns are words, and you don’t have to use the pronoun that “matches” your gender. nonbinary people can use she or him, and women can use they/them. 

in the history of lesbianism and of wlw, there is a lot of gender nonconformity due to the homophobia of society. this leads a lot of wlw to feel a disconnect from womanhood, despite being women or identifying with womanhood. many cis wlw use he/him or they/them because of this, like how many wlw are butch and reject femininity. 

tl;dr, gender is super complicated, and people can have super duper complicated relationships with gender, so why any person decides to use a certain set of pronouns is their own personal choice, and could have any number of reasons behind it. some wlw might use they/them. some might use other pronouns. it’s up to each individual person which pronouns they want to use!