metamorphosis

Abolish all of it. 30s - neuroqueer 🏳️‍⚧️🏳️‍🌈 - (any)

[oldgrwth]

What is ‘all of it’?

Patriarchy

Capitalism

Colonialism

Carceral systems

Psychiatry

Adultism

The police

Systemic racism

Systemic ableism

Systemic homophobia

Etc

What do I propose instead?

A matriarchal society centred around children’s needs. That’s it. That’s the whole thing.

[ot3]

its awesome that neither mind reading nor god are real and all of the thoughts inside of your head are completely private and consequenceless forever #myprivacy

[oldgrwth]

incorrect, the social media gods can read my mind

[analog-delight]

Forcefem isn't a fucking kink to me, it hasn't been for a while now. In a world so dead set against letting trans women even think for a second that they can be women, forcefem is about letting those girls know that it isn't wrong or shameful or just a kink to want to be a woman.

I'm sure a lot of the forcefem posters on this website, both of the original flavor and the new and improved formula, do get sexual gratification out of it.

But the thing that I don't think TME forcemasc and/or detrans kink posters understand is that for a lot of us girls, we would've given anything in the world to have someone genuinely look at us and go "Hey. You're a girl. I see it, and I'm going to make it reality."

Forcefem may have started out as a kink rooted in misogyny, but that isn't all it is anymore.

[cipheramnesia]

It's kinda funny that whoever shot that health insurance CEO really solved the trolley problem irl.

[cipheramnesia]

Meanwhile even though shooting Charlie Kirk didn't solve much directly, it was incredibly funny.

[jingerpi]

"reblog to give a trans woman soup"

- 144k notes

"trans women experience misogyny because they're women"

- you are now on a blocklist

[beardedmrbean]

Congratulations on the cat

[depsidase]

[oldgrwth]

This analogy works with concert tickets too. I will be using this to explain landlord immorality in future.

[catboybiologist]

After some years of HRT I've been left with this deep, low simmering rage. Because what do you mean it was always this easy to be happy

[overclockedopossum]

Ableists hate it when a neurodivergent (or otherwise disabled) person says "no, I can't do that" because they demand visible suffering from disabled people to prove they're not Faking It.

[oldgrwth]

As I get more involved in the disability rights movement, I am beginning to understand where the pushback is coming from. To put it frankly, capitalism itself is disabling. Therefore, appropriately accommodating disabled people requires acknowledging that the system is actively hurting people.

And guys, let me tell you, they do not want to have that conversation.

[egregore-engine]

Watching older people struggle to use the McDonald’s kiosk genuinely makes me sad. It’s ever increasingly clear that technology literacy courses provided on a state level as a public service are necessary to assist people with the rapidly changing technology landscape. Society changes fast and rather than abandoning people to individualized solutions we need a socialized response to helping people adjust.

[oldgrwth]

It’s also important to recognise that while kiosks and self-checkout were marketed as conveniences, their actual goal was to shift the workload onto the customer so that companies could employ less staff. It was never originally intended for convenience or accessibility.

[thefiresontheheight]

A woman not shaving or wearing a dress or wearing makeup or wearing femme clothes or having styled or long hair or caring how she looks or using a masc name or whatever else is actually a neutral thing and not a sign of her being depressed or giving up or being sad or whatever

[closet-keys]

before I was diagnosed with “gender dysphoria” and “transsexualism” I got a hysterectomy. this was not easy— medical misogyny exists and I had to assert repeatedly that i didn’t want children and I was married with a spouse who didn’t want children and that I had tried a “less invasive” solution first. all this sucked. it was paternalistic and condescending and led to me suffering for years for zero reason.

however. if I hadn’t gotten the hysterectomy back then and was trying to get one now, it would be harder. after becoming recognized as trans in medial systems, legally I would need two separate psychiatric professionals to write letters affirming I’d been under their observation, that I was mentally stable enough to know I wanted the surgery, and that they also believed it was necessary. and I would need to find a surgeon willing to operate on trans people.

like this is the difference. the literal procedures involved in medical transition are not exclusive to trans people. the difference is that these procedures are gatekept from us.

that’s why all the laws banning trans healthcare (in the US, I haven’t read legislation elsewhere) are framing it as only banned when someone has a “gender dysphoria” diagnosis. the point isn’t to stop performing the actual procedures, the point is to deny trans people healthcare because we are trans.

saying “trans people don’t need surgery” is like saying “cis people don’t need surgery.” like obviously not every cis person needs every surgery. but cis people have the right to surgery. and trans people deserve the same right.

[closet-keys]

I remember growing up with this belief that because my body would be capable of pregnancy, I owed it to (?? the world?) to give birth before I died. just because it was a thing my body was "supposed to" do.

starting from my earliest inquiries into existence via "where did I come from" questioning as a tiny child, I was introduced to pregnancy as an inevitability, something fundamental to being alive that I would experience. I began my life with the understanding that I would experience both childbirth and death, and that it was pointless and maladaptive to express fear about either of them.

as I got older, everything I saw and read and heard about pregnancy/childbirth taught me that it was scary, painful, disabling, and often caused death, but that this was a sort of noble sacrifice that everyone must endure for the good of (??? the species?).

and then one day it just hit me that a slight majority of people on earth never experience pregnancy ever. they live full, meaningful lives. so maybe I did not have to do this terrible scary painful thing to be a human being, and have my life matter to people.

but soon after that realization, I started witnessing & experiencing sexual violence and became aware that as long as I had that organ, it was not my decision. I could always be forced to endure this. learning about the reactionary movements to block access to all protections against this (birth control & abortion) further emphasized that this was not under my control.

during my first pregnancy scare when I was a young teen, I found myself with perfect unshakeable certainty that if I ever became pregnant and could not access abortion within a month, I would kill myself. it was the only option, and I would take it. as I grew into an adult, I took with me the constant knowledge that suicide was my final protective option.

I was terrified to die. I didn't want to kill myself. I wanted to remove my uterus. but despite me begging every single doctor to just let me learn about my options, it took thirteen years to actually get a referral to a consultation with a surgeon and finally get a hysterectomy.

if you want kids to not kill themselves, let them get permanent irreversible surgeries to reshape or remove their sexed traits. it is not a decision kids pursue without consideration for the world around them; it is deeply informed by the world around them. these are not expressions of trivial desires for short-term benefits without consideration for how it will impact their bodies for the rest of their lives. these are profound assertions about what constitutes a bearable physical reality for someone during their one brief shot at existence before death.

it's not "irreversible damage." it is life itself.

[estro-boi]

we gotta get back to torrent distribution, i just watched someone eat eight grand in bandwidth charges because they ran a direct-download piracy site with local file hosting through cloudflare. torrents were invented literally for this exact reason

[estro-boi]

torrents work like this

i have a file or folder on my pc that i want to share with other people. let's call it gayshit.mp3

unfortunately gayshit.mp3 is 750mb and im not paying for discord nitro so i need another way to send it

i put it into qbittorrent and it makes a torrent file. this is essentially a very small file that points to gayshit.mp3 so other computers can find it. kinda like a treasure map

i send this tiny file to my friend, who loads it into qbittorrent. their computer takes a moment to find mine over the vast expanse of cyberspace and then (as long as my pc is running and the file is still where it should be), it gets copied from my hard drive to theirs

this is the cool part: if somebody else loads that tiny file, they can download it from both of us. if i'm offline but my friend is on, the third person can still get it. this also means that if two people have separate halves of the file, they can download the other half from each other. as long as some combination of people have the pieces between them, they can all have the whole thing.

crucially this does not require a server!!! you can just upload the file to a few people and as long as they keep it, it's still accessible. as long as somebody, somewhere is still connected, it's available forever. the only way it goes away is if everybody disconnects from it.

please learn to torrent

[natalieironside]

One thing you should do is save up the money for a really nice pair of boots. Make sure they're properly sized, comfortable, provide ankle support, and are made of real leather or rawhide. Here in the US you can get army combat boots from like surplus stores pretty easy and those are decent; I've been maintaining the same pair of ACU summer boots for about 15 years now. Otherwise anything marketed as a work or hiking boot should be sufficient if it's well-constructed and meets the above criteria. I don't recommend steelies or metatarsals because they can be kinda hard on your feet after a few miles' march but they'll do if that's all you've got. Also get a boot kit with a brush, oil, etc., put them away clean and dry in an open and well-ventilated space when you take them off, clean and oil them regularly. Also get a tube of shoe goo and some thimbles and leatherworker's needles (the mattress and sailcloth needles in most sewing kits will usually suffice if ur strong).

Boots. Think abt it.

[oldgrwth]

When I worked in retail my job meant walking 10-15k steps a day and I was burning through sneakers in like 3-6 months. So I got myself some gaucho crazy horse Solovairs and learnt how to maintain them and 5 years later they’re still good as new. This is good advice.

[northstareclipse]

There's a recurring online tendency to aestheticize consensus itself. The imagined future village is full of emotionally compatible people who enjoy communal gardening, conflict resolution circles, acoustic folk music, mutual aid potlucks, and repairing bicycles together at sunset. Which is nice for the people who genuinely enjoy that lifestyle. But plenty of humans are solitary, prickly, obsessive, urban, nocturnal, sensory-seeking, technologically attached, contrarian, novelty-seeking, private, or just plain difficult. Those people do not evaporate after the revolution. They do not get Left Behind while you are Raptured into the Utopia. They become your neighbors.