Sorry about the inactivity, I’ve been trying to get my commission artwork stuff off the ground again and it’s been rough.
Had a thought recently, that a lot of media surrounding alpha and omega relationships, just kind of… pin all the work on the alpha in a way? Let me explain.
An omega is just, hanging out at a park, they’re walking around, sitting on a bench feeding ducks or whatever it is this omega likes to do. An alpha walks on by and goes “damn… their scent is incredible, I should go over there and woo them and initiate a conversation” so the alpha does and they hit it off.
It comes down to intimacy and the alpha is all like “ugh you drive me crazy” and goes for it. And it’s kind of either, the omega isn’t feeling it and shuts it down, or the omega rolls over in a “do whatever” kind of attitude and that’s just it.
What I’m saying is: WE NEED SUDUCTUVE, CHARMING OMEGA REPRESENTATION OR IM GOING TO SCREAM
A relationship, of any kind, fiction or not, is between two people, and is an exchange of feelings and ideas between those two people. But again and again I feel like I see the alpha giving the omega everything, and the omega just taking it. I need flirting on both sides, I need omegas to step up and seduce alphas, I need a “pfft what, no I don’t like them” alpha and a “Awh you poor thing, you’re blushing and all I did was say hi~” omega.
Somebody more talented than me, WRITE THIS AND LEMME READ IT *shakes the bars of my enclosure*
I have been teetering on the edge of making this post, until a post by @pin3-vin3 (go check them out!!) made me sigh and realise I had to sit down and do this.
I’m putting a nsft warning on this, because I can’t really comment in depth about it omegaverse without at least touching on the sexual aspects. So buckle up.
Alphas
Alphas have higher social status and prestige compared to the other two secondary sexes. Similar to men within the patriarchy, alphas have an easier time getting a job, making liveable wages, and generally have much more respect within medical, law and social service systems. (For example a doctor is more likely to actually listen to and accept what an alpha is saying as a symptom or sickness rather than an omega, more on that later).
Alphas however, have a caveat to this respect. They are respected even more, when part of a pack. (More on packs later). Alphas are respected more when part of a pack because they are then seen as more dependable and successful than an alpha without a pack. An alpha with just one partner is respected more than an alpha without as well. Alpha on alpha relationships are hit and miss, some elitist alphas may see this as settling, others may see it as a strong representation of an alphas ability to accept and care for people they love.
Which brings me to my next point. Alphas and emotion. While alphas are seen as strong and protective, there is nothing inherently wrong within society with an alpha setting that aside to be what someone needs. If they need a strong and aggressive protector, an alpha will be that. An alpha might be firm with their partner, similar to a parent trying to get kids to eat vegetables, but again, that’s based on what the situation requires. If their partner responds better to gentle nurturing, alphas gain a lot of respect and reverence from adapting to that.
Scent wise, I really hate this idea that alpha scents can’t be flowery and sweet. Scents as a whole can range and are similar to a cutie mark or something, they represent the person as a whole, what they’re good at, the things they like, the scent might represent a memory or key ideal. (I.e. smelling like gunpowder and mist might be linked to watching fireworks as a kid). That being said, these scents are accompanied by undertones that alter the general vibe around them, hence the requirement for alphas to have a sense of emotional control.
An aggressive or pissed off alpha, will emit spicy or heated undertones to their scent. An alpha that’s sad will have slightly muggy undertones. An alpha trying to calm their partner may emit soothing scents like chamomile undertones. This is from alphas evolving to serve an omega as a grounding technique, but it extends to alpha on alpha too. (More on why betas are unaffected later.)
Alphas can be affected by omegas scents. A distressed omega lets out the most foul and potent odour known to man. It’s a natural deterrent. Similarly an omega in heat releases a very specific scent that attracts alphas, but not how you’d think. It makes alphas weak in the knees and all they want to do is help. This means, if an omega is aggressively against being knotted for a heat, the Alpha can’t encroach on that unless it’s incredibly necessary (like if the omega is going to die, omegas safety is paramount, similar to like, medically necessary procedures).
Scent glands are located on both sides of the neck, the wrists and the inner thighs. When scenting items, the weakest spot is the wrists, it’s generally just for a temporary mark that lasts about a week or so. The neck lasts much longer and is much stronger, it also has a more affectionate meaning, to mark something with the glands on the neck. The inner thigh is the most intimate, and gifting an item that is marked by the inner thigh is like sending a nude. It’s a very private and intimate scent that you only really see on extremely personal items like particularly important pushes or treasures.
Alphas can growl and have a command tone. This is a tone that alphas can use to convey commands that must be followed. It’s taboo and in the eyes of the court, overly aggressive (not illegal to do, but is similar to a high stakes threat) outside of bond-marked couples (more later). This command tone rings in the back of an omegas mind until it is actioned, it becomes like their own impulsive thought, and it grows stronger the longer it’s resisted. This is most often used within mate-bonded couples to get omegas to eat during their heat (which is often forgotten). But as mentioned before, can be misused and in the eyes of the law, is not illegal, but is not aligned with social morality.
Marks! An alpha can bite down on the neck gland of an omega to attempt a mark. However, this mark is only temporary, and becomes permanent when an omega does it back to the alpha. Only then can the omega actually be able to have that alpha’s pups, and that alpha alone. Marks are shared between pack mates, so yes multiple marks can be made but they myst be entirely mutual. That is, is alpha A and omega B are marked to one another, and they want to introduce Alpha C into their pack, Alpha C must mark and be marked by alpha A and omega B.
Marks that are mutual are permanent and are referred to as Bond Marks. Bond marks create a permanent bond between alphas and omegas that can only be broken on agreement of both parties, and cannot be overwritten. These bonds work at an emotional level. If a bonded marked omega gets upset, the alpha will feel a portion of that sadness. This can also translate medically and is a common part of the diagnostic process when treating bonded pairs.
Alphas have knots, when they get into a rut, knotting is at the forefront of their mind and it becomes something they are going to need. Blood pressure rises, pupils dilate and heart rate speeds up. It’s an adrenaline storm essentially, and it can lead to medical complications if not placated by knotting.
Betas
Unfortunately, in my headcannon, betas are very similar to normal humans. They can reproduce with alphas or omegas as well as each other, they don’t carry scents nor are they affected by them (they can still smell scents, they just don’t really react to them)
However, it’s incredibly common for a pack to consist of an Alpha and Omega pair with a beta third partner. These betas will wear a mark which will need to be renewed. (Because they don’t have scent glands the mark doesn’t take the same way it does for an alpha or omega). These marks are usually symbolic rather than a deep rooted bond as it is with Alphas and Omegas marking each other or others within their secondary sex.
Betas often help alphas and omegas get things done during heats and ruts. Because they’re not affected by the heavy scent of heat and rut, they can still function and get things done around the house. However, say an alpha and omega are having their rut/heat, and the alpha for whatever reason, has to leave for a time. The beta can take over for a time, comforting or using a toy or themselves (depending on the situation) to help the omega feel like they’re being rutted. (However betas don’t have the capacity to knot. So they cannot provide that sensation to an omega)
Betas are incredibly talented at being able to support their partners, and with such a large majority of the population being betas, it’s very easy to find materials and resources that help betas work out how to best support their partners or friends that need help.
Omegas
Omegas are incredibly similar to alphas in many ways, but are different in many too.
Omegas have the lowest amount of social prestige, however notably, they are not treated as *lesser*. Omegas are not considered weak or inferior. They are considered to be better suited to different roles. For example. An omega might go for a job in construction, but be perceived to be better at making coffee. This is not something that is laughed off and is a comment that’s thrown in an omegas face to put them down. It would be more of a gentle suggestion that they should take it easy and not push themselves too much.
Single omegas (un-bonded, un-packed, un-mated) are at higher risk within society, because as is the way of society, there are many who see them as easy or weak targets. So it’s not unlikely that omegas will live within apartment blocks full of omegas or even a few alpha neighbours so their scent is lingering on them when they’re out and about.
Emotionally, omegas are definitely more in touch with their emotions (note: not emotional!!! But in touch, meaning they have a greater understanding of what they feel and when). This can be misconstrued to be that they are more emotional or sensitive but that’s not necessarily true.
Omegas build nests within their homes. This isn’t always a bed, but it can be. It can be on the floor on a futon, or on a couch, sometimes even just in the corner of a room. There are slick-resistant mats you can get for the bottom of the nest, otherwise the nests are mostly constructed with blankets, soft toys, items that are sentimental and important. Omegas nests are sacred spaces, often where an omega retreats during heat. Alphas are expected to present themselves, hands behind their back, chin in the air exposing their neck glands, and receive permission before entering a nest. Not doing so can cause extreme distress for the omega, and can even cause a drop (more later).
Scent wise, of course omegas can smell hardy, Smokey, like a tree. Similar to alphas omegas also emit undertones to their scent that correspond to emotional states. Omegas in high distress emit scents that are repulsive, omegas in heat emit scents that are more attractive. Omegas can emit calming scents that help relax alphas. (This is mostly just the flip side of what alphas can do to omegas which I already went though above.
Omegas do have a need to be marked. When in heat they may beg and plead for a mark. And they may have to fight the instinct to mark an alpha back during these times. In legal cases, the responsibility lies on the Alpha, as they are viewed to be more in control during heats or ruts.
Scent glands are located on both sides of the neck, the wrists and the inner thighs. When scenting items, the weakest spot is the wrists, it’s generally just for a temporary mark that lasts about a week or so. The neck lasts much longer and is much stronger, it also has a more affectionate meaning, to mark something with the glands on the neck. The inner thigh is the most intimate, and gifting an item that is marked by the inner thigh is like sending a nude. It’s a very private and intimate scent that you only really see on extremely personal items like particularly important pushes or treasures.
Omegas can purr which calms alphas around them similar to a calming scent. Omegas can also trill, but this is an act that is similar to chastising a child. It’s an easy way of saying stop, or be punished. Alphas do get a twinge to the back of their neck after hearing this sound, like being scruffed.
When an omega senses a rut, one of two things is the most common response. They either go into a pseudo heat, which is similar to their regular heat but instead of lasting a few days, it lasts maybe one day at most, more commonly it lasts about 3 or so hours. The other option is they are like the same sides of a magnet to the rutting alpha, just something in them makes them unable to get too close, and the alpha will usually pick up on a scent of rejection. In some cases neither of these things happen. It’s not considered abnormal or anything to worry about, it’s just rare.
Omegas in heat produce slick, helps alphas out. The slick is produced by a pair of glands in the upper area of the inside canal. Prolonged or overexposure to suppressant medication can cause complications where these glands get blocked or clotted, and it can cause intense pain and discomfort, as well as mental health problems like nest rejection and anxiety.
omegas have muscles that are designed to be pressed against, like pressure points, that can only be pressed on by knots. They line the walls just inside the opening, and require to all be pressed with enough consistent pressure, at the same time. There are aids that help achieve this to relieve the stress for omegas without an alpha or who do not want an alpha.
If on suppressant medication in a way that is not medically appropriate, if encroached on by an alpha without permission, if their nest is invaded, if their mark is damaged and in rare cases, if rejected by an alpha they particularly like, an omega can enter a drop. This can present as fever, hysteria, anxiety, panic attacks, depression and even psychosis. It takes an alpha or a group of well loved and well trusted friends, providing long term (a week at minimum) support to bring an omega out of this, through calming scents, gentle comfort and allowing rest (bringing food, cleaning the house, letting the omega stay in their nest).
Look there’s probably plenty of shit I haven’t said, I’ve been spending all day typing this out. This is just my personal idea of how this works, and like all individual ideas, it’ll probably shift and change over time. But there you go. That’s my thoughts on it, I’m gonna crawl into my nest now.
I know there's more to it but I think a large contributing factor to why way more people identify as omegas and even betas more than they do alphas is because some of the baseline general consensus traits for them are so boring and/or negative. Omegas build soft nests, , purr all the time, and smell like flowers while alphas are big aggressive macho meatheads who smell like motor oil.
YOU 🫵🏾 can help end the madness. Say something nice about alphas TODAY
Time to make a long form post about my alpha headcannons because y’all are not ready to hear the amalgamation of bullshit I’ve come up with that makes up my definition of an Alpha.
Ok I’ve been trying endlessly for days to find this AO3 fic that to me, has the best cannon for how omegaverse relationships function. And I just cannot.
Here’s what I remember, I’m hoping tumblr can do its thing and bring my baby back to me.
It’s a BNHA x Reader insert
Has some tag along the lines of “if they’re on screen they’re fuckable”
Reader is an omega that’s been suppressing it to become a hero
They get into UA because of a paperwork screw up classing them as a Beta, and got in because of a program that was allowing Betas to join the hero course (previously an alpha only space)
There’s like, some camp thing that a doctor takes you and the rest of the club you joined to, so that reader can like, undo all of their bad habits
They just have such a good cannon and I miss her!!! Bring her back to me!!!
To any like, trans person starting hrt, I want to say that, if you’re experiencing envy for the trans people who have been on T or E for *years*,
Years start from months, which start from weeks, which start from days. And one day, the things you learn now, can be passed down to the next nervous person starting this journey.
You got this, your years on hrt will come. Have faith in the process.
Sorry this is slightly off brand for me, I just felt a need to post this.
I remember one time when my other trans friend explained the omegaverse to me, so I called them a male omega instead of a trans man (almost gave them a heart attack)
Something so profound about omegaverse is that it’s given me (trans masc) a space to exist and be normal???
Like it’s given me contexts in which I can experience the side effects of having afab anatomy, and still be a perfectly normal dude.
It’s not a secondary thing to accept a male omega as having afab anatomy. But having afab anatomy as a dude, is something people have that “oh” moment about.
Hiiii just sharing a story (very much not my usual posting)
This is about my girlfriend.
My girlfriend used to draw, used to sew award winning cosplays, used to create so much incredible artwork and content.
Then her vision went. She can’t see anymore without straining her eyes, she went colourblind, her vision continues to deteriorate.
She taught herself how to train an AI, to make furry art, that myself, and our boyfriend (we’re poly), use as references for our art, or we touch up for her so she has nice art that she can call her own.
AI gave her creativity back
This does not make her a loser.
If you profit off of AI art, you’re a loser. I agree with this. But there is fair use. My boyfriend and I never have once profited from the AI art we’ve altered, we’ve only otherwise used it as pose references or colour inspo.
I don’t disagree that AI is fucking up the art space, but it is allowing more people to make art and be creative. I don’t think that makes them losers.
that tumblr dom who hits you up lovebombing you doesn't care about you. he is just horny.
any dom that pushes a GENUINE "I don't want to...." into a "fine..." is a rapist. that is not consent.
any random dom that expects submission from you without giving anything you want or need isn't a dom.
ALMOST EVERY TUMBLR DOM HAS NO EXPERIENCE. DONT LET INEXPERIENCED DOMS ACT LIKE GODS.
if you give a dom an inch, he will take a mile. stand. your. mf. grounds.
IF YOUR DOM WON'T RESPECT YOU, SOMEONE ELSE WILL.
kinks are fun added layers to life. don't ever let a dom make you feel like it's your only purpose. it doesn't matter how hardcore you go it is not your existence, I promise ♡.
THIS THIS. I need ppl to stop expecting me to be into everything they’re into also WHY can’t people get that sexting=/=genuine romantic relationship. we r just people sexting the most we can be is friends don’t expect me to play into ur weird lovebombing shit
(not directed at anyone here specifically, just interactions I’ve been having here and on another platform)
Feel like it also needs to be said here that 1) women can also be doms, and 2) women can also do this.
I’ve had personal experience here, with a woman, who did this. Please, do not forget that women can be doms too, and women can abuse that power and position.
Omegas being kept as attack dogs by Alphas, because they're so protective and fierce of their loved ones, while Alphas get to be the ones who pamper and spoil and care for the Omega, and an Alpha has to have at least two Omegas so they can take turns having pups.
I can’t help but imagine an Omega givng the heftiest clap back to someone trying to insult them, and their alpha standing behind them puffing their chest and just going “yeah, what they said” and bearing their teeth. It’s not a meek “yeah what they said…” from behind them, it’s a warning
“if you don’t listen you’re fucked. I’m scary but, I’m *behind* them.” kind of vibe
if you’re talking to someone and they ask you “are you allergic or have any dietary restrictions? I wanna make you food” that person is an omega, you are being accepted into their circle.
coming back out of hiding now that my situation has settled a bit.
I miss scenting someone. But here’s what I’ve found:
* Pillows can be used but not recommended for long amounts of use because the flatter surface of the material will eventually start to hurt and dry out your skin.
* try plushies instead, knitted blankets or anything with a non-flat texture (I would recommend fluffy things)
* when you’re scenting, don’t worry if you can’t smell your own scent, thats normal. you’re surrounded by it every day, it’s still there.
I wanted to take a small break from the a/b/o posting to share a small life thing and some thoughts.
Hiding under a break because its a little heavy and just something I wanted off my chest. By no means is anyone obligated to interact with this.
My partner broke up with me because he was no longer sexually attracted to men. And as a trans man, that was, heartbreaking, but weirdly affirming.
When I found out he had cheated on me with a cis man however, far less so.
I took a lot of time considering what made me a man. What, other than just my saying so, qualified me enough as a man to be broken up with for being a man, but not enough that my partner still cheated on me with a born man.
I feared gay men. I loves gay men, I am a gay man. But I was scared of gay men confirming or denying attraction to me. I fixed my eyes on bi and pan men because the idea of my identity being rejected was, scary.
I’d had gay men say to me “look its not that you’re not a guy, but…” and that, that sucked. I was being rejected but more importantly, my identity rejected too.
I have no desire for bottom surgery, I’m kind of proud of the way I am in that regard. So to have my identity stripped from me for that was a little traumatising.
But lately I’ve seen more and more gay men coming forward and expressing that its the man, not the genitalia. And it’s filled me with pride as a gay man to be able to express and feel love to and from gay men.
tlgr gay men are stepping up and its making my gender so much better.
