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Benefits of Natural Hair Braids vs Twists

The weight of added extensions can contribute to traction alopecia. This condition causes hair loss. It can also lead to neck pain from the strain on the scalp.

Natural hair braids and twists are popular protective hairstyles for coily hair. These styles are most effective when done without synthetic hair or extensions, as using your own hair reduces the risk of breakage. Synthetic extensions can draw moisture away from the hair strands, leading to dryness and damage. Additionally, synthetic hair is often linked to scalp irritation, even when washed…

#4c hair #African hair #braids #twists

As a woman dating married men...

Age thirty is just around the corner. My peers have started to call me old and unwanted. They say this because I am unmarried and still… childless. I am okay with that. After all, I vowed to be intentional with what I do or get myself into this year. Society and close circles constantly ask judgmental questions. My workmates even have the gall to poke their noses into my personal business. Yet,…

#African women #dating #love #relationship

Surviving Unemployment and Poverty: A Real-life Story

At least when I was starving with my sister I was not alone. We used to make jokes. We would say that one day we would look back in time and laugh at what we went through. Indeed we did look behind and laugh about it. We never forgot the life lessons

The kitchen had a rusty paraffin stove. We used it while living in a single room back in 2018. There was an empty dishrack and several empty cereal containers. In 2019 I got a prestigious copywriting job with an online-based United States Company. The pay was amazing, earning around USD 400 per week, working from home, and flexible hours. Despite the job’s great perks, I experienced bouts of…

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#mentalhealth #Poverty #unemployment

LET’S TALK ABOUT IT (Part 3): LINKING DOMESTIC VIOLENCE AND ABUSIVE CHILDREN.

Imagine enduring domestic violence as either an observer or a victim for 18 years (or until reaching legal adulthood in your country), enduring it day after day, month after month. Prolonged exposure to such violence inevitably corrodes the soul and mind

The Abyss The adage that the road to hell is paved with good intentions resonates more than ever in our current age, particularly concerning parents who choose to endure abusive relationships for the sake of their children, to maintain family unity, or to preserve an outwardly positive family image. While these reasons may seem justifiable, they can lead to adverse behavioral changes in…

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#abused children #abuser #domestic violence #intimate partner violence

Let's Talk About It (Part2): Of Jealous Men and Covert Sabotage

There are those men who hide jealousy and ill intentions behind misogyny, and there are those who camouflage their sick plans behind 'modern man' feminism. his type of man supports women's rights and swears to stand by successful women or those with high

I used to believe men could never get jealous or envious of a woman. I used to believe they were above competing and comparing themselves with women. Also, my mind couldn’t fathom a man sabotaging a woman. This was never a consideration until I discovered men are not above this and may even be good at hiding ill intentions toward their spouses, relatives, or co-workers. Being an adult and…

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#African men #African women #relationship #relationships

Let's Talk About It (Part 1): Men Who Don't Know How to Lead Conversations

Imagine this: you receive a Direct message on your social app or a normal short message and you get excited. Then chat hits a nose-dive like this:

Imagine this: you receive a Direct message on your social app or a normal short message and you get excited. Then chat hits a nose-dive like this: Guy: Hello You: Hi Guy: How are you? You: I am good. What about you? Guy: I’m Good too You: How’s your day? Guy: Good. You: Mine was awesome. Met with some friends over coffee and chatted for two hours, catching up on old times when we were in…

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#African men #African women #communications #dialogue

'Trad' Wife: The Modern Woman's Pipedream

No matter how bad you want to be taken care of and not suffer employment struggles as a woman, you have to face reality: nothing good comes easy, and shortcuts are the fastest route to disaster.

The traditional wife is characterized by the following common traits (there are many others but I’ll just list the popular ones): Is a stay-at-home mum who fully depends on her husband for all her needs Her husband’s needs are the top priority followed by the kids, relatives, and friends Lives by husband’s rules and guidelines Can do nothing outside of husband’s approval Is expected to set…

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#African women #black Africans #relationship #traditions

Why do African women wear other people's hair and hair that does not resemble their own kinky/coily texture?

Why do African women wear other people’s hair and hair that does not resemble their own kinky/coily texture?

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#4c hair #African hair #African women

What Feminism means to me

It’s no joke when you meet men who are completely against feminism. Most share the ideology of feminism being toxic, prejudiced, violent, and isolating to men, painting them as devils and perpetrators of worldwide female suffering. I can’t deny this statement because there are feminists (i don’t think they deserve to be called feminists) who hate men and promote acts that seclude or harm men to…

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#African women #women

Why majority of Kenyans are stuck in a cycle of poverty and mediocrity...

Why majority of Kenyans are stuck in a cycle of poverty and mediocrity…

Many kenyans are stuck in mediocre lives, living from paycheck to paycheck and on loans from banks and shylocks. Others have no plan in increasing their income and some find shortcuts to make quick cash which they spend as fast as they got it. Some are looking for jobs and others are trying to start business to earn something. Everyone is trying to live. Everyone is living hand to mouth. I do…

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#Finance #Financial empowerment #Financial literacy #marriage #relationship

Getting pregnant for the wrong reasons

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Reasons not to get married while too young

Girls, it is dangerous to get married before age 25. “I know of a couple who met in high school, got married soon after completion, and today, they are celebrating their 30th anniversary.“ “My mum and dad married while at age 19 and 22. Their marriage is as strong as ever 40 years down the line.” “I love my boyfriend so much. He just proposed! He is 38 years old while I am just 24 years old. I…

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#African women #broken marriages #dating #independent african woman #relationships #women

Dear Dark Skin Daughter

To my sweet and beautiful Dark Skin Daughter, I remember the first time your grandfather brought home a colored T.V. I was ecstatic. I was very happy that I could finally watch soap operas which kids at my school talked much about. I got to see Alejandro and Mikaella for the first time. The man was very handsome and I had never seen anyone like that from the time I was born. And the lady,…

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#African women #dating #love

What Are The Beauty Standards in Africa?

First of all, let me start by saying Africa is not a country but a continent with 54 states. Each country in the African continent has its standard of beauty; therefore, some standards mention here may not be true or present in other individual regions. Africa is divided into 4 parts namely Eastern, Western, Central, Northern, and Southern Africa. Also, island countries in the African coast e.g.…

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#African men #African women #Beauty Standards

Mind Conditioning: Films, Music, and Racial Stereotyping

I was born in the ‘90s and grew up in the 2000s. At that time, before I hit teenagehood, my parents owned a big colored TV and a cassette player. Many Kenyan households could barely afford a colored TV set – let alone a big one together with a high-tech cassette player. However, we, as an upper-middle-class household, could afford the luxury of good entertainment at home. Photo by Siavash…

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Christian denominations? …but I belong to none.

Joshua was the son of Nun. I am a daughter of None….haha! Awesome wordplay, isn’t it? Christianity began in Antioch where a group of believers gathered in a room waiting for the Spirit of God. This first batch of believers was the pioneers of religion that we now call Christianity. To me, calling Christianity a religion sounds wrong. Indeed, I cannot deny the fact that it has a set of beliefs…

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#African Religions #African women #Christain Denominations #Religious Living

Are we to blame for the objectification of the African Woman's Body?

Are we to blame for the objectification of the African Woman’s Body?

Photo by Ian Kiragu from Unsplash I pose this question as a black woman born in the African continent. It is a fact that majority of African women possess curvaceous bodies. Starting from plump lips, wide hips, voluptuous backside, to full busts; these are the characteristics African women have since the beginning of time. We are born this way and there’s nothing we can do to change it. Such…

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#African women #Objectification #Sexualization

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