Discalaimer Post
This blog is specifically for 18+
Please be aware that BD/SM is all about consent. If it isn’t consensual, it’s assault.
If you think you might be interested in BD/SM, do your homework. There are some aspects of it, things some people do, that can be very dangerous if done incorrectly (ex. choking, drugging etc.,). Know the risks, and know what is too much.
If you are into collars and/or rope play, remember that ropes and collars are not actually supposed to be tight. You don’t want to cut off breathing or circulation. That is dangerous. Make sure you can slide two fingers under the collars, and be sure that ropes are not cutting into the skin. (Be aware you could have a health condition you don’t know about, such as heart conditions, APS, EDS, lung conditions, anemia, Sjogren’s etc,.) [I specifically bring up Sjogren’s because it often attacks moisture producing glands. The vagina is a moisture producing gland.]
If you use/need lubricants, be aware that some have chemicals that do NOT need to be in your vagina or ass, especially the vagina as it is very sensitive. Look for brands that have all natural ingredients or safe for sensitive skin. 100% coconut oil is also safe to use and has many other uses. (Also, do not feel bad about needing a lubricant.)
Best thing to do is have a contract between the sub and dom. BD/SM is really an illusion of who is actually in control.
If you are interested, or do, CNC, sub drop is real and dangerous. Alway practice self care. Have a safe word, and only do this with a trusted partner. Doms, take care of your sub. Know your own body, and know your own mind.
Doms, know what you’re doing. If you don’t know something, for the love of all that is holy, ask someone who does. There are articles by actual medical professionals that will break things down for you.
Subs, know what you’re getting in to. If you’re a virgin, you don’t know what you like yet. Experimentation is good. Asking questions is good. And don’t fall for some boy’s bullshit. And, there is no need to rush sex. Don’t let people pressure you into something you are not ready for. There is no shame in being a virgin, whether you are a teen or adult.
(Best safe word system, which is easy to remember, is a stoplight. Green: Go, Yellow: Slow Down, Red: Stop. Don’t make it so complicated you can’t remember. If you tend to go, or are, nonverbal, use your fingers to signal a number. 1: Go, 2: Slow Down, 3: Stop)
If you are not married, or not ready for children, take precautions. If you are not responsible enough to take birth control or use a condom, you are not responsible enough to have sex, and you sure as hell are not responsible enough to have a baby.
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My personal preference. Please don’t message me using dd/lg lingo. If you are in to that, fine, but I’m not, so please don’t ask me questions about pleasing your “daddy.” I won’t answer. You may ask me questions pertaining to your dom, but say “dom.” I am a grown woman, not a little girl, and I’m not giving advice to children.
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Also, I’m married, so no hitting on me. I’m claimed.














