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mosaics are made from broken pieces but they’re still works of art and so are you

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WOW OH WOW OH WOW OH WOW WOW ALL THE AWARDS GO TO THIS I WANT EVERY SINGLE PERSON IN THE WORLD TO READ THIS AND UNDERSTAND IT

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Richelle E. Goodrich

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I'm 18 and when I was 14 I got pregnant and had a miscarriage. The absolute pain that I felt at the time and for a long time afterwards is unexplainable. It was a hard thing and I didnt tell anyone for ages about it.Well lately I keep thinking about it and feeling alot of anger and hate towards my parents. I blame them for not looking after me properly and being responsible enough for me. I know I made my own decisions but I was too young to be mature enough or

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responsible enough or be able to understand the consequence my actions. I didnt really have any guidance from anyone and my older boyfriend manipulated me too. I just think... if I had a daughter I would look after them so much better than I was looked after and so I blame them for my pain. I just need some sort of help working through this :-(

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I'm not really sure what to say in this situation. Do your parents know? Also did you get checked out after you miscarried to make sure everything was okay? If your parents don't know I think you should tell them how you feel, maybe even going to a counsellor as a family would help. I think the best think would be for you to tell someone those feelings so you can actually let go of them, otherwise they'll always weigh you down and you don't deserve that. Mistakes were made and I think you and your parents need to talk it out otherwise you'll be affected by it for the rest of your life. 

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I'm pregnant and have an appointment for termination this week because I'm too young and not mentally stable enough to look after a child. I'm dealing with depression and it's certainly gotten worse because of the change hormones and my body. I really don't know what I expect you to say I'm just desperate, what can help me calm down? Or deal with this? I'm just looking out for comforting words :(

You made a really hard decision and you should be so proud of yourself. If it’s not the best thing for you, then having a child in that situation wouldn’t have been okay for it either. I think you’ll be upset for a while, but I think it’s best if you have someone you can talk to. Might be a best friend, a boyfriend, your mum, literally any you can talk to. You don’t have to be sad alone, and it’s not your fault. I’m not really sure what to say apart from it’s going to be hard but it will get better and when it does you’ll always remember this as a defining moment. You’ll be stronger, and hopefully a lot happier as well.

You'll learn a lot from this experience. I hope everything turns out okay for you. 

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i am so self conscious about an ugly white birthmark on my stomach, its about the size of my fist and i can't get rid of it, concealers dont even conceal it properly cose it has no pigment. I am going away soon and we will be going to the beach practically everyday and in our bikinis :( dont know what to do, do you know anything that will help? xox

First of all- own the birthmark, it makes you so unique! I have a love heart shaped one on my stomach and I understand how embarrassing it can be sometimes. I know it's embarrassing now, but I promise you someone else will find it extremely beautiful! If you really want to hide it, instead of concealer try foundation, but you'll need to match your exact shade. You'll have to get someone who works at Ulta or whatever beauty store you go to  to help match it perfectly and make sure it's waterproof! Otherwise you might be able to ask the staff there about fake tanners that will cover it. 

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is 11 too young to lose your virginity?

Your body hasn't properly developed for sex yet. I believe you need to be emotionally and physically ready and at 11 it's extremely unlikely that you are. If you're 11 and you're thinking about it my advice would be not to do it. Wait a few years and trust me you'll know it was the right decision. In the end it's up to you, but I strongly advise against it. 

[iloveyoursoul]

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I have a mentally ill ex boyfriend and although it was a long time ago we went out we had a really intense relationship and sometimes I get scared for my safety. He hasnt contacted me in ages, but thats mainly because I have a different number and deleted my facebook. But he knows where I live and sometimes I get scared for my safety when I'm on my own. I don;t know if I'll ever get rid of the fear in the back of my mind

Unless he's ever been abusive towards you (which any guy or girl can be), I don't think him having a mental illness is a reason to be afraid for your safety. If he hasn't contacted you he's probably moved on, he's accepted it. By 'ages' I'm assuming you mean at least a few months, so I don't think you need to worry at all. If he really wanted to contact you he would have come to your house by now. I very much doubt that you need to be worried for your safety, especially seeing as you didn't have any reason to be scared of him while you were in the relationship, I don't think he'd do a full 360 and suddenly decide he wants to hurt you. As for the fear in the back of your mind, remind yourself that there was never a reason to be afraid in the first place. It might be more the fear of having to face him after breaking up with him than the fear of him actually hurting you. 

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"Considering he has a mental illness it’s completely possible that he would lash out at you". What in the actual fuck? NOT EVERYONE WHO HAS A MENTAL ILLNESS IS UNSTABLE AND VIOLENT. In fact, hardly anyone struggling with that is. This is absolutely offensive to anyone struggling with a mental illness. Stop stigmatizing it. You sound wildly ignorant, educate yourself before you even think about giving advice.

There was another part to that message that wasn't posted (at the request of the person asking the question, it contained personal details) and it suggested that he was already violent/abusive towards her. I've never known someone with a mental illness that has been violent or abusive, but this person was said to have been (not saying they actually were) put in the situation where that was the case. I've removed the messages, thank you for bringing it to my attention. I didn't realise at the time how it may have seemed to those who didn't have the whole story. 

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