I'm a Virago woman. I am bisexual. I am of no specific alinity. I'm altersex. This will be my blog to talk about these topics.
I'm of Irish/Asian American Heritage, and I indulge in eroge, doujinshi, anime, fashion, and collecting. Currently enrolled in a bachelors in biology, heading for a medical school.
I'm forging an identity based on altersex women who've gone their whole lives feeling something was missing/desired.
I'm quite quippy, sarcastic, and reclusive. I perfer most of my time spent alone.
Jaiden Animations. She gives off virago energy. I loveee her because I watched her.
Warning, this is a yap. If Jaiden sees this, I'm so, so sorry please forgive me.
Now, to be clear, this isn't me trying to label her or speak for her. I don't know her, obviously. This just a exercise, filtered through the lens of what this term means to us. It’s about looking at her public persona, her work, and her presentation, etc
Because it's easy to project, right? To see what you want to see. But sometimes, when you see a certain kind of energy, a certain vibe, in someone, it just… clicks. And you can’t un-see it..
Jaiden started out with that classic "tomboy" energy in her earlier videos. The casual clothes, the focus on games, the relatable awkwardness. Very much in that "non-girly girl" space.
This mirrors the very path many of us have walked. We were those tomboyish kids. What's compelling about Jaiden is seeing that spirit, that core identity, grow and mature into adulthood. She didn't shed that essence; it sort of ripened. It’s what happens when a Virago grows up but doesn't grow out of who she is.
You rarely see her in conventionally feminine attire. It’s almost always comfortable, practical, and leans towards the understated. Think quality hoodies, simple t-shirts, practical trousers – clothes that prioritize ease and a less traditionally "feminine" silhouette. She presents with very little, if any, overt makeup.
This isn't just a casual preference; it's a consistent expression of a refined masculine/neutral aesthetic. It's the woman who knows what she likes, and what she likes is still rooted in that original tomboy comfort and disinterest in performative femininity. This resonates deeply with us Virago because it highlights how that tomboyish self can persist and even flourish as a mature, chosen style. It’s not "trying to be a boy," it’s just being a woman whose comfort lies in that spectrum.
Other than that, it's 100 my radar going off and vibes.
Stop just asking "is it normal?" and start asking "is it harming anyone?" Lots of harmful things are normalized in this society and lots of things considered weird or rare are completely harmless. Whether something is considered normal or common shouldn't be the deciding factor in whether it's okay
Like a lot of disabled and neurodivergent and mentally ill ways of living and expressing yourself are both not normal and not harming anyone and it's the last part we should focus our attention on
Hey! You’ve probably seen me lurking around so I thought it was time to introduce myself.
I’m Dellamorte Dellamore — though I usually go by my artist pseudonym Bampayr, which is probably easier to use.
For now, I go by they/them.
I’m a mid-20s artist falling somewhere in alt subculture and I'm a lover of all things horror.
This blog has been dormant for ages and mostly acts as a dump for art, film, photography, horror and fandom stuff. If that’s not what you’re here for, no pressure to follow back. I might turn this into a personal blog or make a sideblog for community things… we’ll see.
I’m new around here. I kind of stumbled into the community after finding the people on Reddit who liked my art. For a long time, being genderqueer/gender-nonconforming didn’t feel like an option where I live — I didn’t even know this version of myself could be real and valid. But I'm a lifelong tomboy who's always played with gender nonconformity, and I’m very sure of my strong attraction to feminine men. So let's say I'm just starting to figure myself and my masculine identity out.
I don’t feel smart enough to contribute much to big conversations, but you’ll definitely see plenty of my hetGNC character and couple art as Bampayr. I’ve always been desperately seeking representation of HetGNC in art and, well… if no one makes it, then screw it — I will.
Blowing steam post again, yaay!!! I'm a mad bitch, so be warned btw. TW for mild depression, suicidal thoughts, brief SH mentions.
It genuinely pisses me off sometimes that I want to do something RR that a normal straight couple would do, but someones always there to point out the "flaws of reasoning" when all I want is to fucking do it.
Hot take: But I really don't give a fuck if it's emulating patriarchy/heteronormativity/nonsense because if it really mattered, you would be talking to regular couples about it, not me.
Like it's mindboggling how difficult it is with men in the equasion. Gay men have their dynamics, and it's fine. Lesbians have their dynamics, I lived it, it's fucking awesome. But as soon as I express that it's men it's 500 fucking caviates, rules, regulations and reasons.
Everyone has an opinion on the "flaws of reasoning" for how you exist. But they never, ever want to talk about the 'flaws' in the people they're using me as referece for.
Shocker: I'm Bi! I don't think like a regular straight person!
The second your desires don't fit the approved script—especially if it involves a man, but in a way you're not "supposed" to—everyone's a philosopher. The fact that I'm including queer people shows that everyone is fucking dumb.
Like I want to be the taller partner
I want to be strong
I. Want. To. Do. All. Of. It.
It's a little isolating since I don't think the Virago community even understands how I feel about my own identity. To be truthful, I personally get tired of being alone and throwing myself through the ringer for thought experiments that we do here. It makes me feel like what I want will never matter. Like true RR, never gets representation and even some people here don't fuck with it all the way like I do. I feel hella isolated from everyone else, almost like they're trying to call me insane.
It's highly dysphoric to see some people discuss shit that I fight tooth and nail for as optional and something discardable. I wish people could just understand people like me.
I wish I could just live my life and not have any second thoughts or questions on my right to exist that way. It sucks. I wish I could just go outside and tell people I am this way and they'd understand. I wish the men who I liked, liked women. There's so many things that make me dysphoric that I can't take it anymore.
My Virago relationship is complex and different. I have a "traditionally feminine" body I want to build, and I am altersex and have phallo-dysphoria. Shit like that.
I wake up and see everyone happier than me, then being looked at odd when I say the relationship I desire. I'm looked at like a freak to queer people, I even struggle to feel accepted here, too. It's like they think I'm out of fiction or my attraction is just a fetish or mental illness. I constantly have to agree and nod to them, less I lose the small semblance of understanding I have left.
It's so bad that I've started cutting again. I opened the Virago community in public last week and my flatmate had asked me in a mocking tone: "What is this?" My stomach turned, and I broke out sobbing like a fucking failure. I skipped class just to soak my covers in tears. She eventually came to comfort me, but...what I want never will happen to me.
This is the same fucking girl who I confided about my desire to get someone pregnant. She showed me a picture of her aunts triplet pregnancy and said I'd never get to experience it. She knows I'm gay, too. So she rubs her belly, and licks a V-shape hand to fuck with me.
Everyone says something different than how they treat you. So I don't want to talk about it. I don't want to talk about the "flaws of reasoning" anymore.
