Our Multigender Experience

A blog for those with multiple genders to talk about their experiences!! | propic from NASA

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Intro

I saw exactly one person ask for this so, Welcome to Our Multigender Experience!! A blog for people to talk about their experiences with having multiple genders, whether that's at the same time (like some bigender/pangender people) or at different times (like some genderfluid/bigenderflux people)

other similar experience blogs: @our-nonbinary-experience @our-genderfluid-experience @our-queer-experience @our-transmasculine-experience @our-transfeminine-experience @ourgenderfluid-experience @our-genderqueer-experience @our-transgender-experiences @the-genderflux-experience @our-lgbtq-brazilion-experience @our-bigender-experience @our-afab-transfem-experience @our-transneutral-experience

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Blog is run by Mod Eventide (She/They) who ids as genderqueer but experiences multiple genders as well!!

no DNI as I block liberally, but all bigots and -phobes (of the hateful not mental/fear types) will be yeeted :)

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I plan on scan reading asks for trigger warnings and obvious bait/hate but other then that things will go in queue automatically so please let me know if I missed anything!! I also have a tendency to forget about my submission blogs lol, so feel free to poke me if it's been a bit and your ask hasn't gone through yet :)

i also tag posts that are sad/about negative experiences/mention bigotry with #negative but I mean it in a completely neutral way!! it's just to give something for people to blacklist if they need to avoid those kind of things, but asks about those experiences are more then fine

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My multigender experience is writing different pronouns across my many different sideblogs and it still taking me another two years to realize I'm allowed to be more than one gender at once

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my multigender experience is people not believing me when I say im not a binary trans man, im just an always he/him bigender butch/male lesbian on testosterone

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I think I'm multigender but idk how to explain why I just do

but honestly I cannot tell, I figured out I could be around a very difficult time in my life and it's hard to focus on myself at the moment 😔

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I've had a hard time realizing I'm probably bigender and accepting that I was just. never going to be born in a body I would be completely comfortable in. being amab wouldn't have fixed all my problems it would've just given me Different problems.

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My Multigender experience is coming out to my mom as a trans guy when I was younger and I got more masculine but years after I was questioning my gender + finally figured out that I was bigender, I stopped making an effort to look masculine, wear a lot of makeup even though I don't mind looking masculine either..... So now my mom thinks I'm a detransitioner.....even though I never correct the doctor or teachers when they say he/him, she still uses she/her only. And I'd rather die than try explaining what bigender is to her.

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I’ve been identifying as a binary trans man for years, I wanted to go on T for a long time but couldn’t due to a variety of factors (not knowing how to go about it, family worries, etc), but now I’m questioning if I might be bigender. I don’t know if this is due to something fucked up in my head, or internalized transphobia, or something else.

I also don’t know if it really makes a difference, I know there is no wrong way to be any gender, but even when I feel more “woman” adjacent I still desire masculinity, both in body and expression, and am not comfortable with she/her pronouns being used for me, and like dressing masculine. Nearly every other bigender or multigender person I come across seems ok or even happy being feminine when they feel like a woman or woman-adjacent, or just feel feminine. Yet I’m here not feeling that way.

Sometimes I feel like an imposter, im sending anon because I know if I posted this with my name I’d be called a theyfab seeking attention, or a privileged cis chick who just wants to be special (I don’t, I just want to be normal, I’ve always wanted to just be a normal dude) or a trender, or honestly who knows what else, but I couldn’t keep it in anymore.

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Anon you are not an imposter and this is very much a real multigender experience! You are right that unfortunately it's a less talked about experience, though gnc genders are mentioned to some degree but not often in combantion with a gc gender of same presentation, and i can understand why that makes things hard sometimes. But you very much have a place in the bigender and mutilgender communities if you want it. /reassuring

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Hiya! Call me Soul (ey/em, he/she), Im a multigender non binary girlboy just vibing here, who's seen many people freak out over their gender identity.

Well, Im here to help! Need to take smth off your chest? My ask box is open. Need advice? Either Ill give you some, or Ill redirect you to other blogs/resources who can. Im not the most knowledgeable, but Im here to provide a safe space for everyone questioning, whatever identity, no matter how contradictory. Be respectful and kind, and that's all you need!

Perisex and cis but want to know more? Feel free to ask! Writing a character of a different gender and dont know how to approach? Go ahead! Ask box is open to all your needs.

Not queer related but still need to talk? You can head over to @angels-safe-corner, a more general safe space for anyone who just needs someone to listen, maybe an encouragement or two and kind words <3

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Other blogs who are safe and open for queer people and where you can find resources/other experiences.

Solidarity/experiences focused blogs:

@transgenderteensurvivalguide

@this-is-solidarity

@transpositivity

@our-queer-experience

@our-queerplatonic-experience

@our-aroace-experience

@our-aplatonic-experience

@our-afamspec-experience

@our-sapphic-experience

@our-achillean-experience

@our-genderfluid-experience

@queer-plural-culture-is

@transneutral-culture-is

@our-multigender-experience

@our-honeybee-transfem-experience

Denouncing discrimination/awareness focused blogs:

@thisisexorsexism & archive @this-is-exorsexism

@thisis-intersexism & archive @this-is-intersexism

@this-is-transgynephobia & @transgynephobia-is

@this-is-transandrophobia

@transangi-confessions

@this-is-varsexism-transphobia

@this-is-amato-heteronormativity

@this-is-internoirism

@bilesproblems

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Every year i get one more gender thrown at me

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my gender is literally so confusing and yet my pronouns are pretty simple. always love it/its and ocassionalllyyy i'm okay with something else. i hate being they/themed honestly

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im not sure if its just because the wretched gender binary but i hate how monogender folks sometimes (usually) assume that bc im bigender i must be okay with he/she (im a agender girl and use she/it and neopronouns) because they seem to think bigender can only be manwoman/womanman depending on how they perceive the person's performance i guess ugh

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i’ve been on HRT for about six months now and I’ve begun experiencing moments of dysphoria in the opposite direction from usual. Which is. a very weird feeling

Don’t get me wrong, I have felt a lot less dysphoric overall recently, it just never occurred to me that dysphoria in both directions at once would even be a thing

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im okay with presenting as female and i enjoy being a girl but i also just wanna be a gay boy. and if im gonna be a gay boy i wanna look like one. but i also wanna be a girl. sighhhhh

good news! you can be both.

(check out @our-multigender-experience)

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Our multigender experience is being a boy and a girl separately but also neither but also both at the same time, while also keeping on misgendering yourself as cis in your head because you dont see yourself as "trans enough" because your physical appearance hasnt changed.

Also multigender experience is not knowing if you're fluid or not because there's too many feelings to keep track of

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Also wanted to say, thank you for replying to my ask, and thank you to the person who suggested I look into honeybee transfem. Finding the term made me feel so validated and happy <3333

I also love blueberry bee transfemasc which perfectly encompasses both feeling transfem and transmasc. It almost feels like two identities inside me that want opposite things, one wanting to present more androgynous/masc and one wanting to present more femme. In general I dont like being perceived as just a girl!! I want to present more androgynously so people wont immediately perceive me as girl, so I was considering cutting my hair really short as that worked before, but also I kinda like my long hair and how I look with it, and still I know that it's not androgynous at all and will make people still perceive me as just girl. Im very confused still, about how I feel and if that changes over time or not, but I really feel like Im all things, like a feminine boy and a masculine girl and a transmasc butch and a genderqueer androgynous enby, so Im very glad to be able to understand that about myself and actively try to validate that part of my identity. Thank you so much

of course! I'm glad we all could help you and that you've started to find some labels you like

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I thought this was the right place to ask, but I often feel like both transfem and transmasc.

I realized recently that I feel "girl" as a gender is more something others perceive me as, it feels not something I was born as, but something society in general forced upon me by perceiving me that way. So my body for example, though feminine, doesnt make feel like I was "born a girl", it's just my body. I have no idea what my gender is, but all that I know is that it's not one thing. Masculinity and femininity are confusing notions to me, but I wish to partecipate in both, and I like to imagine what itd be like to be a guy or have cis boy traits even though I do feel a connection to my femininity and somewhat to being a girl.

Im also definitely non binary, or in some capacity experience a gender that I can only best describe as a mix of girl and nonbinary, not as in half and a half, but as in a mix that creates a distinct and different gender identity (reason why I dont like demigirl, it just feels like half and a half). I tend to use genderqueer as label and recently Ive allowed myself to refer to myself as trans, as Ive never done that before because I dont experience dysphoria with my body, even though I catch myself imagining how itd be to look different than I do.

So because my perception of my gender up until me questioning isnt "girl", it feels wrong to call myself a cis girl, even as "just a part of my whole gender". I feel trans both in the way I experience masculinity and the way I experience feminity. I like it that way, but hanging out w binary trans people I feel that's an impossible/wrong way to feel and Im just trying to be special.

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mate your gender is so so valid, we have quite a few people in our system who expirence similar genderqueerness especially of a "binary and more" style is very common and valid.

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im a man-woman bigen and also trans masc. sometimes people look at me and make the assumption that trans masc = trans man. (i was afab) but it’s just not true? I’m not transitioning into manhood (I’ve always felt like it) I’m transitioning into masculinity. It’s a small distinction but it matters to me!! I kinda wonder if I’m being too sensitive over this but I’m lowkey kinda tired of everyone assuming this :/

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