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Slut-Shaming

There is a problem

with our society.

A disease.

A plague.

A deeply rooted sickness.

What makes humans

so entitled

to feel that it is okay

to degrade others

based solely on their choices as

an independent?

As an individual?

A woman walks down the street.

She wears a flirty skirt

and a revealing blouse.

Is she not just another passerby?

Is it not true that her affairs

are meaningless to

the rest of us;

that they affect us none?

“Slut”

“Immodest bitch”

“Skank”

“She’s asking for it”

“Whore!”

It appears not.

Since when is one’s choice of clothing

a license to demean?

Since when does the amount of cloth

on flesh

determine a woman’s worth?

Her virtue?

Her status?

A woman leaves an apartment and

catches a cab home.

She enjoys many

intimate partners.

Is she not just another passerby?

Is it not true that her affairs

are meaningless to

the rest of us;

That her choices affect us none?

“Slut”

“She’s such a whore”

“Ew”

“She’s asking to be raped”

“Whore!”

It appears not.

Since when is one's sexual activity

a license to torment?

Since when does the amount of sex

one has

determine a woman’s worth?

Her safety?

Her status?

A woman stays home.

A woman folds her hands.

A woman silences herself.

A woman must not make

her own choices.

So it seems.

A woman walks home quickly.

A woman’s heart beats erratically.

A woman sits scared.

A woman is afraid

to do what she pleases

Because of how others

will treat her.

Because of how others

will see her.

Because of how her life

will be in danger.

A woman sits caged.

A woman wants her freedom.

Sarah M

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A tree stagnated

Stunted by society's expectations

Gone, into the wind

Cassie K

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Blue Girl

I met this girl

a few years ago.

Sweet blue eyes,

a great smile.

She was the quiet type

but

she was real nice.

I got to know her

pretty quickly.

Casual talks,

heart to hearts.

She was the private type

but

she was real nice.

Then one night

when the sun went out

and the crickets' melody

lulled every breath taker

to a sweet sleep.

She opened up

her sweet heart

but

she was real quiet.

"Two years ago"

she said

"I was at the movies"

she was alone

"I wore my favorite shirt"

it was blue

"It was really tight but

it was my favorite"

she was walking to the bathrooms

"My friends were buying popcorn"

but an older man stopped her

"I tried to run but he was stronger"

nobody stopped to help her

"My friends hadn't even noticed

I was gone"

they didn't believe her

"They said it was my fault,

that I shouldn't have worn

my favorite shirt"

She was twelve.

The only light then

in the room was

that of the moon.

Her cheek glistened

in the sorrow spotlight

and in the darkness

I heard the crickets weep.

"Whenever I tell people"

she whispered

"They call me a

slut"

her voice cracked

"They say that I

deserved it that

I was asking

for it"

the moonlight disappeared

"I don't have any friends because

I'm nothing but a whore."

As she wept,

I could hear the crickets weep.

As she wept,

I could hear the peaceful sleepers stir

As she wept,

The moon kissed her softly.

As she wept,

I wept.

How strange it is,

to blame a child

for an evil

she did not commit.

I looked back at her

the girl I had met.

I looked into her

Sweet blue eyes

and understood

why she was

the quiet type.

I met this girl

a few years ago.

Broken blue eyes,

a forced smile.

She was the quiet type

but

she was real nice

Sarah M

#sarah m #slut-shaming #triggering #trigger warning #tw:rape #tw:assault #poetry #poems #ourproblemwithsociety

As a society we like to label

Based on appearance

or actions

Some labels have a more positive connotation

some are negative

These negative ones, like:

Whore

Skank

Bitch

And

Slut

As a whole we treat these labels like a plague

never wanting to fall in these categories,

yet we label our girls this way

This needs to stop

These labels lead to bullying

and Rape

(which of course, is her fault for getting raped)

Which further stigmatizes her

We all have done this

for this is taught by our society before we even know all the facts

but this "tradition"

needs to change

we are killing off the brightness in our young girls

Stop

Before any more damage is done.

Cassie K

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Slut

The word is on every billboard

Slut

Its the word you can't escape

Slut

We keep calling each other names

We see what we want to see

And

We hear what we want to hear

But,

Here's a break to reality

To show the world what's out there.

We can't keep using this garbage

These words of degradation

It's killing off the spark in young girls hearts to keep them chained

They sit up straight

And they keep proper

But in those poor girls hearts

the words keep screaming at them

SLUT

You can't step one toe out of place

Or make your own choices about sex

Because if you're a virgin you're stuck-up

But if you're not than you're

A skank

A whore

A slut.

Cassie K

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#slut-shaming #sex #ourproblemwithsociety

Take Your Medicine

Last week

I went to my local pharmacy and

picked up my prescription medication.

That’s normal,

right?

As I walked out I saw

a girl from my school and

she looked at my medication.

The face she made,

That’s normal,

right?

The next day

I walked into school and

everything felt different.

People whispered behind

my back

and pointed accusatory fingers

in my direction.

What did I do?

At noon

I stood in the lunch line and

heard my name,

whispered.

“She’s such a slut”

“All she does is sleep around”

“What a whore”

“She’s probably diseased”

What did I do?

As the days

wore on

I was given cold shoulders and

disgusted looks.

Nobody ate lunch with me.

I sat in the bathroom

and ate lunch on the toilet.

That’s normal,

right?

Yesterday

I left my class to cry

in the bathroom

alone.

When I came back

the room was

silent.

I sat down and

in my book

there was a

note.

The paper screamed

as I opened it.

WHORE

I ran out

of the room

alone.

I heard someone shout

“Why don’t you overdose on those pills,

you whore?”

I left the note on my desk

it had a drawing on it.

A coffin.

It said

Take Your Medicine,

Slut.

When I got home

I took the pills and

threw them in the trash.

They belonged there.

They reminded me of

me.

It’s just birth control.

I had taken the pills because I wanted

to be safe.

That’s normal,

right?

Sarah M

#poetry #poems #ourproblemwithsociety #slut-shaming #birth control #bullying #trigger warning #tw #trigger-warning #sarah m

I call on you to think back

To the 1920's when segregation was occurring

Do you remember?

Do you remember the dehumanization of African Americans

Do you remember how they were considered less?

How they were somehow less human than the rest.

Something similar is happening now

Reducing peoples worth and dehumanizing them

And the name of this Demon is

Slut-Shaming

It's hurtful

Think about it

You're sitting at home one day

Your daughter comes home

after a day at school,

Tears streaming down her face,

She comes over and tells you

"Mom, they're calling me a slut.

Nobody will be seen with me

Not even (insert best friend's name here)"

Then you get angry and complain to the school that

some kids are bullying your baby girl.

They can't do anything they say.

Kids will be kids they say.

Imagine the helplessness you'd feel.

Imagine how your daughter would feel.

Would you Really do that to someone?

Would you ostracize some to the point of suicide?

Because that's what it can lead to.

This is the point of no return.

There is no turning back now.

Stop and think before you say something because it can cause

Death.

Cassie K

#poetry #poems #slut-shaming #ourproblemwithsociety #cassie k

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More than Binary

Two years ago, I was browsing facebook, as any ‘normal’ teen would. I scrolled past boring status after boring status until I noticed someone I was friends with had liked a picture that was getting a lot of attention. There were over one hundred comments and just as many likes. Naturally, I became curious, and read some of the most recent comments. Certain words and phrases seemed to embolden themselves off my screen- “slut”, “doesn’t respect herself”, “disgusting”, and “whore” among others. I found myself sitting in my darkened room an hour later, the bright computer screen illuminating my face, reading through each comment as more flooded in. The original picture was one a girl had posted of herself- darkened lighting, lounging in a low v-neck, tiny shorts, and a smidge of midriff showing. Tears had formed in my eyes and trickled down my cheeks- I couldn’t wrap my head around just how mean people could be. She posted a picture of herself- so what? The problem stemmed from one specific girl- let’s call her Brianna for the purposes of anonymity. Brianna was up in arms about the picture, telling the original poster to take it down and stop being a slut, that she doesn’t need to show her ass off to the world, and I remember clearly- “Don’t you respect yourself?”

Don’t you respect yourself? What kind of question was that? Hundreds after hundreds of comments- a bully’s voice solidified by a string of zeroes and ones would be engrained on the internet, but forever branded and seared into the brain of the girl who posted a selfie. The next day, the photo was gone. The girl had deleted her facebook as well, but deleting the source couldn’t remove the scars in her heart or mind. One little picture- a voluntary selfie- and because of her choice of CLOTHING she was bullied and shamed and belittled and demeaned. Why is it that just a choice of clothing made ‘Brianna’ feel entitled to treat this girl like shit?

Slut-shaming.

That is why. The whole idea pushed into the minds of our people that it is okay to degrade women because of what they wear or what they do that deviates from what we people expect them to do. The girl wore clothing that wasn’t what Brianna agreed with, and then Brianna associated her choice of clothing with her worth. Brianna reduced the girl from a human down to a plain old whore-- a less-than-human-being that suddenly, because of the amount of cotton and jean fabric on her body, had lost all self-respect and became “disgusting”. News Flash: your body isn’t your own, you must obey the wishes and demands of everyone BUT yourself, and if you try to own your body and follow your own wishes, well, then it’s just your own fault if you get bullied or shamed or assaulted.

To be called things like a whore and a slut, disgusting and worthless, because of making a personal choice of clothing- it’s a problem. To have it go so far as hours of non-stop abuse on the internet, and the accumulating shame forcing a girl’s hand to delete her account altogether-it is unspeakable. And this is only slut-shaming at its minimum- bullying, name-calling, and stigmatizing- it can get worse. It’s not just women, not just older female adults, but GIRLS. The young girls and teens of our generation face the problem as well, and if we want the suffering of our females to end, then slut-shaming must end; the problem, the disease, must be cured. It is more than binary- it’s alive and breathing and living within all the infected.

Sarah M

#slut-shaming #poetry #poems #ourproblemwithsociety #sarah m #bullying

Objects hold less respect to us than People

Objects don't deserve rights or fair treatment

Objects are toys, things to discard when we are done

When females make their own choices

about sex and clothing,

with deviations from the social norm,

This idea, about rights and treatment

gets applied to them

This ridiculous notion that people are less

because of how they're dressed,

should be put to rest

six feet under

with no tombstone

Cassie K

#slut-shaming #poems #poetry #ourproblemwithsociety #cassie k

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