Perhaps

Maybe

[aca-ham]

ADHD Sucks

I’ve written about this before. I am ADHD. I have always been ADHD. I just got an official diagnosis a little under a year ago. That made grad school harder than it probably should have been. It also reinforced some bad ways of thinking. Like the ADHD need for pressure to actually get something done. Honestly, that is near the top of the list of reasons why my dissertation isn’t done yet. My…

ADHD Sucks

[overthink2think]

Yeah nah. It just gets worse with age.

[thoughtkick]

“To protect oneself’s best interests and mental health, it’s best to cut off negative relationships. The memories perhaps were great, you’ll always be grateful for what it was at the time, but like failed relationships, it’s time to move on. You don’t have to be friends with everyone forever. You need to set clear and firm boundaries that people around you should not cross to protect your best interests and mental health.”

— Dandan Zhu

[overthink2heal]

Alt Perspective:

Sometimes people caught in avoidant loops use bold boundaries not for safety, but as exits. It’s not always about protecting mental health,but perhaps sometimes it’s about avoiding depth or closeness.

And while the securely attached might see that as their cue to bow out quietly, others (even mostly secure or just slightly anxious types) walk away carrying guilt they didn’t earn.

Because the “boundary” was never about repair, perhaps it was an easy setup out, not maybe fully premeditated. Something the other person was bound to cross, even unintentionally, so the avoidant could justify the escape. Or perhaps share it to peers as a win, dodged bullet or higher self worth with awareness. When it’s just the avoiders loop cycle moving out.

So the relationship ends. Not because it was toxic, but because it got too real.

And now someone’s walking away heartbroken, blamed for a mistake that wasn’t theirs, wondering if they were too much ,when really, they were just enough to scare someone who wasn’t ready to stay.

And avoider is temporarily happy free but then suffers shame, guilt and pain further on.

[overthink2think]

Between the Cracks

[pause-settings]

Most people are just misunderstood.

[notes-from-wonderland]

[nightshadesmusings]

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Overthinker

Overthinker-  I see how you stare into the distance With eyes fixed on a point both right by you and forever away.

Overthinker- I see how your hands are never still Fidgeting with anything that you can manage to hold onto.

Overthinker- I see how you present yourself to the world Where the empty body masks the loudness of the mind.

Overthinker- I see how the “what ifs” gnaw at you Eating away whatever fleeting certainty you’re fighting to hold onto. 

Overthinker- I see how you are falling apart Under the weight of a world that demands you keep it all inside.

Overthinker- I see how the rage burns inside of you When others tell you to relax- As if one could simply cease to have thoughts at all.

[overthink2think]

“At the end of the day, relationships thrive on mutual growth and effort…

As long as you both keep communicating and evolving together, it sounds like you’re bringing plenty to the table…”

[overthink2think]

I crave the unknown, the strange and unseen places that unsettle and comfort all at once.

A space where curiosity drives me to adapt, learn, and grow within the thrill of unfamiliarity.

[ittasteslikehappy]

[overthink2think]

What do I want?

What do I want to seek?

What is my passion?

Is my passion my purpose?

Have I already found what I wanted all along?

[pause-settings]

Tired of spiteful intentions portraying compassionate words.

[overthink2think]

Toss some benefit of the doubt around town.

[overthink2think]

Only time will tell…

Perhaps…

Maybe you’re right…

[pause-settings]

Sometimes, people justify it as the lesser of two evils, unknowingly using it as a coping mechanism.

[overthink2think]

[silent-gh0st-v0ices]

There has to be a closer country where love can live near me

[emotionalwords]

the trouble is, you think you have time.

[overthink2think]

Misunderstandings, missed commitments, and perceived lack of interest in others.