Chrono 23 mixed-origin system.
Anti-C
Primarily interested in pop culture chaos magick and reality shifting. (We also rarely make subs, woooo-)
Our system is fairly large and fluid (EXTREMELY fictive heavy, alters come in and out of dormancy sporadically), and we're still discovering members.
you never were a radqueer, i'm glad poser fakerads are leaving
By the way I have 476 followers and have spent almost every moment up to this point spreading love.
I am the definition of a loving hippie with no hate in my heart Lad, I live my LIFE like that, I'm vegetarian, I do public trash clean ups, sometimes I go outside just to leave gifts for others, I am publicly queer and actively spent every second of my life fighting for queer rights, my friends know me as the slut whos into incest and rape kinks and identifies as the weirdest, I have voluteered in soup kitchens for children and foodbanks since I was 8 years old, I spent last year volunteering at the local queer support cafe in my home town.
If I am not radqueer (/adjacent, because I was never directly radqueer for this exact reason), and have my status taken away because I said a minority who has had their ability to say no and education on these topics taken away(Something you need by the way to consent) can't properly consent in this current climate then thank FUUUUCKIN HELLLLL im not. 💚
i really did not expect to stay here for as long as i did, i only made my tumblr presence originally to cope with abuse i have recently gone through, i did not intend to stay here.. but i have realized that i am here to stay for good.
these communities are the only ones i feel safe and truly loved and accepted in, pro-para and radqueer spaces are the only spaces i have been in that have not harmed, harassed or witch hunted me due to my disorders and sexuality. The only communities that are aware of my origins, who i am, and simply do not care. It feels refreshing to be in a place that does not instantly antagonize me and accuse me of horrible things, but see me as an equal, a role model and inspiration.
ever since i was a kid my dream was to make an impact with my art, to leave a staple, and even though i have succeeded in making my mark, i somehow did it again a second time with my pro-para activisms and movements, i have always dreamed to make a necrophile movement the same way maps and zoos did, and i have succeeded.
before this community, i was full of hatred towards myself and others, if it wasn't for this community i would still be the miserable person i used to be. i have learned kindness, compassion and acceptance towards other paraphiles, i have made and met friends i would of never had if i haven't learned to accept others. i have learned things about myself i would of never had if i didn't ever decided to come to para tumblr to comfort myself.
i feel like i have become a more open minded person, a more kind person, i want to change and make up for my past behavior by using my platforms and art for positivity and awareness. thank you all so much for supporting me and making me learn things about myself and others. I love you all, happy pride!
HAPPY PRIDE MONTH EVERYBODY !!! :D its more important than ever that we all love and express ourselves and be unapologetically queer forever and always . i love you , radqueer community ! <3 <3 <3
Jessicur you’re such a piece of shit and a hypocrite holy shit
“I’m completely fair to them and I don’t want to cause any harm to them, I completely censor their names and voices” (paraphrasing here obv)
“The absolute delusion inside of this community is baffling—the next video is coming in the next few days, until then, they can keep being weird.”
You’re not some saint who’s saving the world by talking about fucking Twitter drama. You’re a grown ass adult exploiting children for fame and most likely money.
You are fully aware of what you’re doing because you’re claiming that keeping the people that you interviewed anonymous apparently means you’re on some moral high ground, or that you’re much more respectful than us, and then two lines later, you directly call this community delusional, and then that we’re going to be left alone until your new video releases, which clearly proves that you’re fully aware how this will have a grave effect on us.
Not only that, you’ve been liking every single comment on your post that is calling us depraved and child pr3dators, and the comments commending you for how brave you are to dare interact with us, so again, you’re completely aware how people are gonna react to this and you’re completely fine with fostering such a community.
I’m sure you know for a fact that chrono minors make up a huge chunk of the radqueer community, but you don’t even care to acknowledge that, and you continue to exploit us for your videos (I saw the full 1hour+ video from a year ago about radq people, and I’m like almost certain, even with those distortions, those were chrono minors speaking to you.) not only that, you’ve also made a video about the shedtwt community, which is filled with even more children, and it also got them mass hate, and all of the comments were once again demonizing that community.
You know putting children in danger is wrong, yet you’ve continued to do so for your own benefit on YouTube.
i literally just finished jessicur's most recent video on the radqueer community, and i just wanna talk about it a little bit!
i got four key points from this video:
the radqueer community is inherently harmful
the majority of the community is made up of minors groomed into it
consensual abuse is inherently nonconsensual and dangerous
the community is cult-adjacent
i want to talk about my perspective, experience, and just share my thoughts on each of these (plus a little bit more at the end).
"the radqueer community is inherently harmful."
i don't agree with this statement.
there are so many sides of this community that are accepting and give people a space to be themselves.
of course, i do know for sure that there are bad actors and harmful labels in the community, some of which even i find myself uncomfortable with. im not saying that the community cant be harmful, because it very much can be and definitely has in the past.
however, making a blanket assumption of an entire community, especially one as diverse as radqueer, is dangerous. every community out there has "harmful" or "scary" sides, but that doesn't mean the entire group is. you cant judge an entire cluster of DIVERSE people based on one assumption or one handful of infamous beings.
for example, look at the gacha community. gacha life and associated games were used as a way for people to express themselves. it is a diverse community with a thousand niche subcultures. and for a very, very long time, it was only known for one harmful and sexualized part. as a result, people who had done nothing wrong were bullied and ostracized (online and in real life! ask me how i know.) simply because they were part of a group that had a bad reputation.
its a clear example of why its so wrong to assume an entire community is the same as the worst of it.
and im not comparing paraphilias to fuckin gacha life characters. im not saying the substance that makes up each community is similar enough for a comparison- only how each community was treated by people outside of it because of a SMALL percentage of people INSIDE it.
ever heard of the silent majority? most of the popular radqueer creators, that are known for less than good things, make up a minority of it. for every person who commits an actual crime or is a genuine danger to the people around them, there are a hundred people who arent. assuming that all 101 are is stereotypical and dangerous.
"the majority of the community is made up of minors groomed into it"
i wont lie, there is a grooming issue. beings are definitely groomed into it. SAME AS A MILLION OTHER GROUPS. when i was a child, i was literally groomed into watching fucking h-ntai. that doesnt mean that every single person who watches h-ntai was either groomed into it or IS a groomer. theres definitely a percentage of people that ARE, and they should absolutely be dealt with/given help properly, however. you. cannot. use. a. blanket. statement. to. define. an. entire. group.
not only that, but this section came off as very infantilizing. the same sob story of "oh poor minors and evil adults." but. so many minors join the community of their own free will. also, not every adult is a fucking predator, ready to snatch up these kids.
wording things such as that minors are incapable of making their own decisions, would never join this community out of their own free will, and are being lured to the back of the metaphorical white van with a bowl of candy, is just so rude.
it is true that many beings here are and were victims of past abuse that led them to find comfort in this. im not going to say that thats not true. because it is. but that doesnt mean that we're all poor little naive innocent babies that dont know what we're getting into.
i CHOSE to join this community. i CHOSE the beliefs i have. i CHOOSE to dabble in fantasies of consensual abuse. because i WAS abused. because i was raped, sexually assaulted, gaslighted, manipulated, and fucking beaten to hell and back. i have been through it all.
most of which being during my developmental years. having a space where i am safe to explore the things that have happened to me in a controlled and consensual environment has done nothing but help.
and yes! yes, its weird! yes, its out of the norm! no, i dont expect everyone and their mother to nod their head and rub their chin wisely when they hear that i choose this life! you dont have to be comfortable with it. not everyone is going to be. but thats why its so important to build your own spaces. if you arent comfortable with something that brings someone else comfort, if you find it weird or strange, even if it downright disgusts you! you still have no right to take another persons space away from them.
harrassing people, leading campaigns against them, witch-hunting and bullying them, creating biased videos painting them as monsters! none of that is okay, no matter how weird someone is.
"consensual abuse is inherently nonconsensual and dangerous"
this is just plain wrong. the number one most important part of consensual abuse is CONSENT. CONSENT to be abused or CONSENT to abuse, from all parties involved. this also means that these parties can TAKE AWAY that consent if they no longer want to participate. consensual abuse is no different from any other kind of roleplaying, in the sense that its done between two or more beings who are aware of what theyre doing and are happy to let it happen.
again, i understand that its not everyones cup of tea. i understand that it might weird you out or make you uncomfortable. i understand that it might disgust you. which is why youre not forced to engage with it!
judging someone based on the activities THEY do with THEIR time and THEIR consent, of which make THEM happy, is so fucking rude and incredibly parasocial. NOBODY has the right to tell someone what they can and cannot do if what theyre doing is CONSENSUAL and MAKES THEM HAPPY.
this includes them hurting themself or hurting someone else who wants it, or being hurt by someone if they want it. its not your choice what someone else does, its THEIRS.
"the community is cult-adjacent"
now, i dont agree with this statement because of how it was worded and, in my opinion, makes light of what a 'cult' is, but i do want to talk about something i do agree on the video with.
the radqueer community has an issue where you can be pressured into being around things that make you uncomfortable. being uncomfortable with being around a person, group, label, thing, etc doesn't mean that you should be harassed for it.
im fucking terrified of spiders and do NAWT want to be around them but that doesnt mean i think all spiders should be eradicated or that all spider lovers should beat me up with bats for not liking their little arachnids.
i LOVE animals with everything in me, especially snakes! but that doesnt mean im gonna call every animal lover with a fear of snakes a fucking poser and then punch them in the face- because you HAVE to love snakes to be an animal lover. you GOTTA.
its just plain stupid.
and i see that happen in the rqc all the time! people can be uncomfortable with certain labels interacting with their blog, they have every right to be so. im not comfortable with cisnazis or fully transitioned, ideology-following transnazis, because my abusive ex was one. and because it literally puts me in fight or flight to be around them. but that doesnt mean im gonna harass them, and it doesnt mean that i should be harassed BY them. they can exist in their spaces (with all the consequences that might entail), and ill exist in mine. thats the end of it. it does not make me a 'bad radqueer' to have boundaries for my own safety.
but a lot of people think it does. i remember one account (not the name, just the account), who was personally uncomfortable with transnazis. as far as im aware, they were harassed by the community until they went inactive.
thats going WAY too far. they have a right to decide who gets to be on their blog and who doesnt.
"back to the video- other issues!"
the biggest issue to me was the lack of direction. now, i am a big journalism nerd and maybe this is just a pet peeve of mine, but journalism exists for a reason.
every story has a why? a so what? an and? basically, why should the audience care? ive been creating journalistic pieces for over an entire year and every single story i have written started with why i wanted the audience to care that i wrote it.
but i dont get much of that from the video. if it was a genuine story on the darker parts of the community, it should have been longer and formatted better.
the video went like this: introduction > a list of terms in the community and what they mean > an interview of one person who left the community > why the community is dangerous
every good argument starts with your hypothesis. i do like how the creator gave a brief overview on the radqueer community (although i dont like what that overview was- more on that in a bit) before getting too deep into the argument. however, thats where that ends. there wasnt much of an argument made until the very end. i went through the video feeling really confused.
what is she trying to say? what is her view on this community? what backs up that view?
and then, when the argument was finally made, it kinda fell apart immediately. no good journalist makes an argument without evidence to back it up.
source? just trust me bro. just trust me and the one single person i interviewed bro. yeah i have no screenshots or cited sources (EXCEPT for definitions) but like. just trust me bro.
the lack of evidence, the substance of any journalistic piece, makes the argument wobbly at most.
i genuinely feel that if you want to make a commentary on the radqueer community, it should be done with the same care that you would put into any other commentary. you cannot half-ass a video simply because you dont like the people involved. and you cannot call yourself a journalist if you disagree with that previous statement.
the other thing i wanted to talk about was the bias. journalism is an UNBIASED form of writing, unless youre making an argument that you have the EVIDENCE TO BACK UP.
this video cannot decide whether it wants to be a documentary on what the community is or whether it wants to be an argument that the community is bad. again, this is another thing that makes it very weak and unreliable.
overall, the video was made with little care or effort, a weak argument, and clear bias. the creator could have done so much better and, even from the perspective of a journalist, i am genuinely disappointed in the work itself.
I watched the new Jessicur video on the rqc, and it’s so gross to me.
(not direct quotes, please watch the video yourself and gain your own opinion.)
added before Im less frantic emotionally:
this video portrays the rqc as this hive mind or like we're all form the same cookie-cutter. yes, their are stereotypes, every community has them (examples: 'UwU t4t gay trans men' , '2000+ xeno weirdo did faker' , etc. I don't support stereotypes but those are common ones I've seen.). the video has a multitude of misinformation. it boils down the community to seem bad, when you can do that to every community, just like how every community has it's rotten eggs or bad apples.
the video also treats all radqueers like their little kids (I also mention this in my other section on my opinion, this one is more based around the whole video & less of my opinion). it severally infantilizes half the community then demonizes the other half, with little to no in-between.
it also acts like all transids (which in fact, does include transgender), are all harmful or harm based identities. when that is simply a subsection to the transit umbrella.
for antis or other none radqueers who want to have a RESPECTFULL and CIVIL conversation, please continue to read thks whole post in case your question or thoughts might be answered. if they are not, their is a list of rules, read those as their at the bottom of this post, once read and understood feel free to ask questions or for clarification.
“Why would you like, want to be abused?” (speaking on conabuse & transharmful) - that’s not your place to criticize. if someone wants a conabuse relationship, then that’s their choice. If two bodily adults consent then why do YOU care, it’s not your responsibility to play the savior for someone else. this also goes for CNC, or other transharmful identities.
let me not forget to add, transNazis are usually N.I.Ns, or none ideological nazis. plus most transnazis I’ve seen were Jewish (aka one of the biggest victims to original nazis).
“it’s like a cult” - cults have leaders. plus any community can be called a cult based of Jessis words.
“They groom people into it” - many have given their opinion on how they found the community and found that they weren’t afraid to be themselves.
“as a vic of sa […]” (referring to TransRapist , TransGroomer , etc) - I’m a victim of sexual assault, child molestion, grooming, bullying, harrasment and so much more, I think that just saying your a ‘victim of something’ is fucking stupid. if you can’t just share your thoughts and opinions on a matter without feeling the need to ‘prove’ you know what your talking about, I don’t care. honestly I don’t. the only time I wanna know your experience is if it’s related to the medical field, or other sciences where first hand experience is needed. that also being said, who cares about someone else’s identity if it’s not hurting someone.
"proship & darkship are different / same" (watch the video for a correct quote) - technically no. this point includes misinformation. darkship falls under proship. if your darkship then your proship, but if your proshio your not admittedly darkship.
you want to know what’s actually fucked up to me? That I’m terrified that I might be killed, assaulted or doxxed for wanting the world to be more accepting and less oppressive. watching the video, I had an insane sense of dread, I’m worried I might be harrased for something as stupid as a label.
if you want to truly call being radqueer a cult, then you should say the same for every other community as well. lgbtq? well it must be a cult since they say to accept your sexuality & gender, must be a cult because many lgbtq spaces offer comfort to queer folk, must be a cult because minors and adults happen to interact. See who fucking stupid that idea is.
what’s also worse is the video acts like all radqueers are these little kids who can’t think for themselves and MUST be victims. when most I’ve seen are older teenagers looking to have a place of comfort (which many communities have this factor), and theirs nothing wrong with looking for a place we’re your not fucking scared of being harassed and sent death threats for simply being YOURSELF.
I was more miserable pretending to be someone I am not, then when I stumbled across the rqc and felt safe. I’m often SCARED to speak about me gender identity because it’s “to complicated” to the ‘normal queer individuals’ (ie: Im multigender) , im often scared to be open about my kinks because their taboo & ‘gross’ (all of which, are things I would consent to & never, NEVER force someone to see or do), im scared to be open about my own disorders because I personally think I should have full body autonomy & that me starving myself is my problem (many people think it’s ’your boy, my choice’ or think people shouldn’t allowed to do things to their OWN BODY).
this community has also made my pedophilic thoughts of myself actually lessen, because I used to think I was some whore who deserved it (edit to add context: pedophilic thoughts about myself being raped and groomed from the ages 2-14, most thoughts being about the times when I was 2 & 6 and was molested). But with so many conversations on consent, self image, and acceptance. I grown to understand that I shouldn’t see myself like that. And I finally felt normal, to the point that those thoughts are relatively gone in that sense, though I now channel the lingering feelings and emotions of being upset into sexual feelings were I can let off that emotion in a positive and healthy way (ie: fauxcest sexual relations).
I was overjoyed to find a space where I could be open and honest, im not fully open about myself yet because I’m still afraid of judgement, not because I think radqueers will judge, but because after being told I’m disgusting & deserve to KILL MYSELF for my identities, that fear lingers, and videos like this continues the cycle of forcing others to box themselves in because they’ll be good enough for the “normal ones”.
mind you, the “normal ones”, are the ones who have told me I should kill myself, threatened to rape me, and have sent CHILD SEXUAL ASSUALT MATERIAL & ANIMAL ABUSE VIDEOS to radqueers. you are sick of you think the ones who claim to care for children yet don’t actually protect them are the normal ones. Because I’ve seen antis PROTECT OTHER ANTIS WHO SENT THESE BEFORE, I’ve seen more radqueers say that that is fucked up and down right disgusting more then the “NORMAL PEOPLE”.
If you want to have civil, and respectful conversation. Then I will be fine with antis interacting under this posts comments, and this post only but their will be rules.
be respectful (no slurs, insults or threats)
share your opinion but keep in mind not everyone will feel the same way.
for serious allegations, show proof to prove your claim.
keep in mind that paraphilies are considered a disorder, and remember other disorders can include paras (ex: pocd)
don’t start arguments or you will just be blocked (ie: keeping a respectful tone)
abled-meds claiming transabled beings aren't valid-- BIID can literally qualify as a disability in and of itself, you numbskulls
as much as i hate the psych industry, there are doctors handing out diagnoses to transabled beings AS WE SPEAK, which gives them the ability to file for and be legally recognized as disabled. y'know, because most nations recognize mental disorders have the actual capacity to disable someone
if you guys are such dickriders for "medical validity," how the fuck do you explain being an anti after that ???
discrediting psychology, mental distress, psychosomatic pain, and self-perception is actually the epitome of ableism
not to mention that many transabled beings have such bad dysmorphia/dysphoria that they cause themselves material harm to subside their mental distress. and because it was self-inflicted, they often get disregarded even though they have become physically disabled, so now they experience physical ableism AND mental ableism
wow, good job on protecting "real" disabled people!!! you guys are rlly making a difference in the world. i mean, not a good one, but definitely a difference...
The idea of a new rq video is terrifying.. I haven't been in this community for long but I've heard of all the terrors that have happened because of stuff like this ૮๑ˊᯅˋ๑ა
I do not hate jessicur I used to be a big fan actually.. I just wish she could go about this in a different way.. I hate how people are sending her death threats but with her posting the video it'll have death threats be sent to us and then right back to her
It will just be a continuous loop of death threats and probably doxxing and that's why I think it's such a bad idea. I wish there was a better way to address things like this without everyone getting hurt in the process
I hope everyone in the rq community is safe please be careful. Reblog ANYTHING and EVERYTHING you see relating to this topic to spread awareness and help others be safe
this video will be releasing in 'a few days' according to jessicur so be prepared. please make sure to save anything you need to! archive your stuff! Save your intro!
We are not Radqueer, but as we are adjacent and sometimes hang out in Radqueer spaces we wanted to talk about jessicur and the fact she is working on another anti-Radqueer documentary. The user jessicur made a documentary style YouTube video around a year or two ago doing a “deep dive” into the Radqueer community. She referred to the Radqueer community as the darkest community on the internet. This sparked an influx of antis which mass reported and harassed anyone even associated to the community.
This will all likely happen again. Make sure to keep yourself safe and save anything on your blog that you wish to keep incase you end up getting termed. Discord servers need to up their verification, even if it is already strict it needs to get stricter for the safety of already existing members. Also try to not give your discord out super easy as discord tends to hold alot more precious information. Its very hit or miss when it comes to your acc being at risk on discord but please don’t risk it.
We have very little faith that jessicur will censor any usernames or voices. Prepare yourself for possible influx of hate to your acc if you end up getting posted in the doc, although all members of the community are at risk cause antis often hold the belief that all radqueers deserve harassment.
Our old blogs are heavily associated to some drama and pretty horrible users so we are accepting that those may end up in the documentary.
Remember your identity is valid, no matter what antis or anyone in general says. You deserve to be happy and feel loved. Thought crimes are not a thing, just because you have a paraphilia doesn’t automatically make you a bad person (disordered or not). Identities cant be harmful only actions/words can. Stay safe.
I have created a list of ways you can limit the harassment faced by yourself and others during the coming wave of harassment by making use of Tumblr’s privacy and safety settings. While no privacy setting can completely prevent harassment, these tools can make it more difficult for bad actors to find, monitor, or target your blog.
1. Password-Protect a Side Blog
How to Enable Password Protection
1. Open Account Settings.
2. Select the secondary blog you want to protect.
3. Scroll to the Visibility section.
4. Enable Password protect this blog.
5. Enter a password and press Enter.
Limitations:
- Primary blogs cannot be password-protected.
- Password-protected blogs cannot be followed.
- Posts cannot be liked or reblogged.
- The blog will not appear in Tumblr search results.
- Only blog members can access password-protected group blogs through the mobile app.
- Non-members must use a web browser and know the password to access the blog.
- Custom themes remain available but are only visible after entering the password.
2. Limit Blog Discoverability
Hide Your Blog from Search Engines
1. Open your blog’s Settings.
2. Go to Visibility.
3. Enable Discourage external searching.
This requests that search engines such as Google and Bing avoid indexing your blog. However, search engines are not required to honor this request.
Remove Your Blog from Tumblr Search and Recommendations
1. Open your blog’s Settings.
2. Navigate to Visibility.
3. Enable Exclude from Tumblr search and recommendations.
This prevents your blog from appearing in Tumblr search results, recommendations, and tagged page suggestions.
Hide Your Blog from Non-Logged-In Visitors
1. Open your blog’s Settings.
2. Enable Hide this blog from people without an account.
When enabled:
- Visitors must be logged into Tumblr to access your blog.
- Direct blog URLs will redirect non-logged-in users to the login page.
- Custom themes will not be publicly accessible.
- Blog archives will be hidden.
3. Prevent Third-Party Sharing
How to Enable
1. Open your blog’s Settings.
2. Go to Visibility.
3. Enable Prevent third-party sharing.
Tumblr allows users to opt out of sharing content with its licensed content and research partners, including some organizations that train AI models.
Content excluded from third-party sharing includes:
- Posts and reblogs from blogs that have enabled this setting.
- Password-protected blog content.
- Private posts and drafts.
- Messages.
- Unpublished asks and submissions.
- Content from deleted, terminated, deactivated, or mature blogs.
4. Post Privately
How to Create a Private Post
1. Create a new post.
2. Click the arrow next to the Post button.
3. Select Post privately.
Private posts are visible only to you and do not appear on your public blog.
5. Hide Your Activity Status
How to Disable Activity Status
Mobile App
1. Open Settings.
2. (MOBILE ONLY) Select General Settings.
3. Open Privacy.
4. Turn off Let others see that you’re active.
6. Hide Your Likes and Following
How to Disable Sharing
Web
1. Open your blog settings.
2. Disable Share posts you like.
3. Disable Share the Tumblrs you’re following.
Mobile App
1. Open your blog.
2. Navigate to Likes or Following.
3. Select Change and disable sharing.
7. Control Mentions
You can choose who is allowed to mention your blog in posts and comments.
Available Options:
- Everyone
- Blogs you follow
- Mutuals
- No one
To change this setting, open your blog settings and navigate to Mentions.
8. Control Comments
You can decide who is allowed to comment on your posts.
To change comment permissions:
1. Open your blog settings.
2. Navigate to Comments.
3. Select your preferred audience.
9. Restrict Reblogs
Tumblr allows you to control whether others can reblog your posts.
Available Options:
- Anyone (on Tumblr) - Anyone can reblog the post.
- No one - Reblogs are disabled, except for users specifically tagged in the post.
When creating or editing a post, open the post settings and adjust the Reblog Control option.
10. Be Cautious When Sharing Other Social Media Accounts
Many users share Discord, Instagram, TikTok, or other social media accounts in their blog descriptions or posts.
Before sharing another account:
- Review that account’s privacy settings.
- Remove personal information that is not meant to be public.
- Consider using separate accounts for public and private interactions.
- Only share contact information with people you trust.
Remember that once information is posted publicly, it can be copied, archived, or shared elsewhere.
11. General Online Safety
Be Careful About Sharing Personal Information
Avoid Sharing:
- Your full legal name
- Home address
- Phone number
- School or workplace information
- Daily schedules or routines
- Personal email addresses
- Financial information
- Photos that reveal identifying details
Even small pieces of information can sometimes be combined to identify someone.
Use Strong Account Security
1. Using unique passwords for different accounts.
2. Enabling two-factor authentication if available.
3. Avoiding password reuse across multiple websites.
4. Being cautious of suspicious links and login requests.
5. Logging out of shared or public devices.
Review Your Posts Before Publishing
Before posting, ask yourself:
- Does this reveal more information than I intend?
- Could this identify my location, school, workplace, or family?
- Would I be comfortable if this post were shared outside my intended audience?
- Does this contain metadata or photos with identifying details?
Set Boundaries
- Blocking users who make you uncomfortable.
- Turning off (anonymous) asks if they become disruptive.
- Limiting private conversations with people you do not know well.
- Taking time before moving conversations to Discord or other private platforms.
- You can always leave (conversations, Discord servers, communities,etc.) if you feel uncomfortable.
If you want to be anti-forced-recovery, you need to get used to people acting in ways you don't like
Saying things you don't like, doing things you don't like, acting chaotic, irrational, even harming themselves or others in the process.
That includes anger issues, harsh reactions, rough reactions, reactions in ways you don't like.
If you want to be anti-forced-recovery you HAVE to not respond with harassment back, you have to learn to not hate them for a extensive period publicly.
This does not mean you have to take it, you don't. However it does mean you NEED to take the "Block and move on" mentality to heart, not just on tumblr, but in person too.
Distance yourself from the person and move on, or forgive them. Otherwise you are still committing a form of force.
BIG ASS RANT INCOMMING.. At least for my account..
Anti-radqueers whose entire accounts revolve around us, thrive on the attention we are giving them, if you block them, they can't see your content, they can't interact with you, and they no longer have the reaction they're looking for
People like Scott, I-reblog-retards, Radtards, the new one Radnormal, and countless other accounts don't keep doing this, aside from the fact that they genuinely dislike us, want to spread misinformation, and all that, but because people keep feeding them attention. And even worse some of you all are actively reinforcing EVERY negative belief they already have about this community. They want reactions, they want screenshots, they want people screaming and crying threats and downright horrible shit in their inboxes. They want examples they can point at and use as proof that we're ALLL horrible people. And some of you just hand that shit to them on a GOLDEN fucking platter
When you're sending threats, acting deranged, harassing people, or telling someone they deserve horrible things, you're NOT helping anyone or anything, you're reinforcing every negative belief they already have about us. What do you expect them to think when you're literally acting like the kind of person they already believe you are?
What do you genuinely think will happen when you’re threatening anti’s, sending them rape threats, sending death threats, trying to dox them, spreading ILLEGAL IMAGES OF THEM. You can't seriously expect someone to go from "I hate radqueers" to "Wow, I was completely wrong!" because you threatened them or told them they deserved abuse. Be so fucking for real?! All you've done is make yourself and the community look like FUCKING IDIOTS while giving them another reason on how yes we do all act like this. Congratulations, also you DON'T tell someone that, fuck you if you have
If someone hates us, they hate us. You can correct misinformation. You can explain that radqueers do not support rape, abuse, or whatever other bullshit people accuse us of. But if they refuse to listen, block them and move on. Stop engaging. They are not owed your attention, and you are not required to fight every anti account that shows up. You're not going to force people to like us by harassing them, okay?
I mostly make flags and occasionally talk to people, yet almost every day I see another pointless conflict because someone got upset that a known anti account reblogged their post and said something stupid.. Like okay..??? So block them if they make you upset.. SCOTT HAS BEEN HERE FOR A WHILE, YOU’VE HAD TIME..
Look you're allowed to be annoyed. You're allowed to be angry. Nobody likes being mocked, talked down to, or criticized
But most of the time, they just reblog your post and say something stupid to get your reaction, or put out their opinion to which it’s okay if someone has a different opinion.
If someone is genuinely harassing you, making alt accounts to contact you, stalking you, or repeatedly targeting you, that's a serious issue and different. But if someone reblogs a PUBLIC POST they saw on their dashboard and says something rude, the easiest and most effective response is usually to BLOCK THEM.
This post probably won't change anything. It's long no one likes reading but holy shit, stop fighting these people every chance you get.
Like I see people asking "Why do antis hate us?"
Maybe because some of you keep giving them more and more examples and reasons to. Maybe because some of you keep sending threats to them. Maybe because some of you are showing up in their DMs and ask boxes acting completely unhinged. If you send rape threats, death threats, or threats in general, you are no better than antis, you are not morally superior for identifying in a certain way, you are not doing ANYTHING. You're just showing everyone that you're immature and incapable of controlling yourself. Sit the fuck down
A lot of people in this community seriously have a big problem with self control and sensitivity issues. Yes, you're allowed to be upset. I get upset too, I’m sensitive, immature, and hold grudges as well. I've been called all kinds of shit for being a radqueer and a paraphile. But being angry is not an excuse for being a completely deranged person and acting in those kinds of ways.. Like that doesn't remove the accountability and responsibility you have for your action, think about how you look, how the community looks, how your actions WILL affect people. No one deserves the shit you guys are doing and saying to anti’s, and look I’m not saying what anti’s are doing is anything better than you guys, but can you not see how you are acting just like them??
Dehumanizing, threatening, doxxing, spreading.. Everything anti’s have done to us as well yes, but like… it doesn't make it right? I'm not saying antis are innocent or that their behavior is any better, but can you seriously not see how some of you are acting? If your response to criticism is threats, harassment, doxxing, or spreading illegal content, then you're proving their point for them.
At that point, you're hurting this community far more than any anti would be able to. Do whatever you want. I'm not here to control anybody. In all honesty, none of this affects me that much personally. I can disappear whenever I want and rebuild elsewhere. But this behavior is one of the biggest reasons people don't want to be a part of this community in the first place and derails what could've been newer members, I enjoy being here. I enjoy creating things for you all. But if I'm being honest, one of the main reasons I've ever considered leaving this community has never been antis, but you guys. If your response to being mistreated is to turn around and do the exact same thing they are doing, then you're not solving the problem, you're contributing to it and making it 10x worse.
This community desperately needs more accountability and self-awareness. People need to start thinking about how their actions affect everyone around them instead of acting purely out of anger and then expecting others to defend it.. Also we need to stop defending it just because they are one of us..
Because at the end of the day, every threat you send, every person you harass, and every time you decide to escalate things instead of walk the fuck away, you're making it harder for everyone else, you're damaging the already very looked down upon community
At some point, people need to grow up, control themselves, and accept responsibility for their behavior. If we want people to stop viewing us in the worst possible light, then maybe we should stop giving them reasons to. Is this not clicking?? Or have you guys just fully stopped caring?
“Radqueers are the future” Then act like it, it wont happen if we don't actually work toward that future, a movement doesn't become the future because its members spend their time harassing random 15 yr olds online or picking fights with every anti account they see. None of that helps the community, changes minds, or gets us anywhere. If you genuinely believe in this community and where it could go, then put the energy you use for anti’s into something fucking productive. Make resources. Correct misinformation. Support people yet also GENUINELY hold people accountable. Create things. Have actual conversations. Do literally anything that contributes something positive. You can say it all you want, but a future doesn't just magically happen because you believe it will happen. People have to genuinely work towards that future you have to put effort and time, you don't have to 24/7 but positive contributions is needed
