I watched the new Jessicur video on the rqc, and itβs so gross to me.
(not direct quotes, please watch the video yourself and gain your own opinion.)
βWhy would you like, want to be abused?β (speaking on conabuse & transharmful) - thatβs not your place to criticize. if someone wants a conabuse relationship, then thatβs their choice. If two bodily adults consent then why do YOU care, itβs not your responsibility to play the savior for someone else. this also goes for CNC, or other transharmful identities.
let me not forget to add, transNazis are usually N.I.Ns, or none ideological nazis. plus most transnazis Iβve seen were Jewish (aka one of the biggest victims to original nazis).
βitβs like a cultβ - cults have leaders. plus any community can be called a cult based of Jessis words.
βThey groom people into itβ - many have given their opinion on how they found the community and found that they werenβt afraid to be themselves.
βas a vic of sa [β¦]β (referring to TransRapist , TransGroomer , etc) - Iβm a victim of sexual assault, child molestion, grooming, bullying, harrasment and so much more, I think that just saying your a βvictim of somethingβ is fucking stupid. if you canβt just share your thoughts and opinions on a matter without feeling the need to βproveβ you know what your talking about, I donβt care. honestly I donβt. the only time I wanna know your experience is if itβs related to the medical field, or other sciences where first hand experience is needed. that also being said, who cares about someone elseβs identity if itβs not hurting someone.
you want to know whatβs actually fucked up to me? That Iβm terrified that I might be killed, assaulted or doxxed for wanting the world to be more accepting and less oppressive. watching the video, I had an insane sense of dread, Iβm worried I might be harrased for something as stupid as a label.
if you want to truly call being radqueer a cult, then you should say the same for every other community as well. lgbtq? well it must be a cult since they say to accept your sexuality & gender, must be a cult because many lgbtq spaces offer comfort to queer folk, must be a cult because minors and adults happen to interact. See who fucking stupid that idea is.
whatβs also worse is the video acts like all radqueers are these little kids who canβt think for themselves and MUST be victims. when most Iβve seen are older teenagers looking to have a place of comfort (which many communities have this factor), and theirs nothing wrong with looking for a place weβre your not fucking scared of being harassed and sent death threats for simply being YOURSELF.
I was more miserable pretending to be someone I am not, then when I stumbled across the rqc and felt safe. Iβm often SCARED to speak about me gender identity because itβs βto complicatedβ to the βnormal queer individualsβ (ie: Im multigender) , im often scared to be open about my kinks because their taboo & βgrossβ (all of which, are things I would consent to & never, NEVER force someone to see or do), im scared to be open about my own disorders because I personally think I should have full body autonomy & that me starving myself is my problem (many people think itβs βyour boy, my choiceβ or think people shouldnβt allowed to do things to their OWN BODY).
this community has also made my pedophilic thoughts of myself actually lessen, because I used to think I was some whore who deserved it. But with so many conversations on consent, self image, and acceptance. I grown to understand that I shouldnβt see myself like that. And I finally felt normal, to the point that those thoughts are relatively gone in that sense, though I now channel the lingering feelings and emotions of being upset into sexual feelings were I can let off that emotion in a positive and healthy way.
I was overjoyed to find a space where I could be open and honest, im not fully open about myself yet because Iβm still afraid of judgement, not because I think radqueers will judge, but because after being told Iβm disgusting & deserve to KILL MYSELF for my identities, that fear lingers, and videos like this continues the cycle of forcing others to box themselves in because theyβll be good enough for the βnormal onesβ.
mind you, the βnormal onesβ, are the ones who have told me I should kill myself, threatened to rape me, and have sent CHILD SEXUAL ASSUALT MATERIAL & ANIMAL ABUSE VIDEOS to radqueers. you are sick of you think the ones who claim to care for children yet donβt actually protect them are the normal ones. Because Iβve seen antis PROTECT OTHER ANTIS WHO SENT THESE BEFORE, Iβve seen more radqueers say that that is fucked up and down right disgusting more then the βNORMAL PEOPLEβ.
If you want to have civil, and respectful conversation. Then I will be fine with antis interacting under this posts comments, and this post only but their will be rules.
be respectful (no slurs, insults or threats)
share your opinion but keep in mind not everyone will feel the same way.
for serious allegations, show proof to prove your claim.
keep in mind that paraphilies are considered a disorder, and remember other disorders can include paras (ex: pocd)
donβt start arguments or you will just be blocked (ie: keeping a respectful tone)
