Making the decision for them - update
Our article on helping your partner by making the decision for them continues to be the single most impactful piece of advice we’ve produced.
The biggest mental health issue we see when speaking with ABDL’s and littles is the shame/desire cycle with regard to wearing & using diaper
We’ve now spoken to 13 couples who have implemented it and I’m sure there are many more who haven’t reached our DMs yet.
For me who always felt somewhat lonely in my role, this has been incredible. It’s also highlighted that for every blog on here sharing their relationship openly, there are 10-100 invisible couples doing the same thing but privately. It really shows how big ABDL is and that it’s growing.
Of the 13 only 1 has backtracked significantly, the rest are loving their new dynamic.
The amazing difference of having a partner involved is being highlighted here as ABDL’s trying to switch solo to 24/7 often struggle to commit and fail after a few days or weeks. Whereas the couples I’ve been speaking to are not having anywhere near as hard a time. The reason for this is the ABDL partner feels supported and encouraged to wear, and when they have a low period their partner can gently force them to continue.
One interesting case which I wanted to highlight is one of the partners using a two week vacation as the trigger point for taking their husband 24/7. She packed the suitcases for them both and unbeknownst to him his contained only the 40ish diapers he’d need. All bar one of his underwear had been thrown away but he didn’t even know that at this stage and instead once they’d checked in she handed him a package containing a diaper for him to go put on for the flight. It wasn’t until they arrived at their hotel that he realized he only had diapers for the trip and she told him this would be a trial of 24/7.
She said this worked out extremely well as it forced them both not to cheat and being out of their normal work and home routine made it easier for her to be more involved in his checks and changes. Also being away from people they knew reduced the anxiety of wearing in public.
I’ll ask her to write up the full experience in more detail but overall it sounds like it went well. He stayed diapered for the whole trip not using the toilet once and by the end she felt “like a pro” at diaper changes. It wasn’t until arriving home that she told him this wasn’t just a vacation change and instead he’d now be permanently diapered. With two successful weeks already completed this wasn’t too scary and I’m glad to report he hasn’t used a toilet at home since 👌
I really like this as an idea as it offers a great way to do a shorter trial of 24/7 at a time when the partner can be more involved and in a less stressful environment. If you do use this as trial however it is important that you’re going into it with the full expectation and hope that you will continue it upon returning. In the example above she threw away his underwear so the default position would be diapers on returning. In the unlikely event it turned out to be a bad idea you could go out and buy new underwear.
Another quick theme I wanted to speak about is the mental health benefits of putting your ABDL partner back into diapers full-time. Unprompted this has been mentioned by most of the couples as being one of the biggest benefits, with the ABDL partner particularly benefiting. So if your partner is struggling with stress, anxiety or other mental health challenges I can’t recommend highly enough that you try this.
Our DM’s are always open. We’d love to help more partners take the plunge and hear from those of you who already have!