Men want smart, ambitious, beautiful, feminine, fashionable, classy, non-drama-having, non-prejudice, modest, cool, girls.
The other day I was talking to my very good friend and we were trying to figure out what men want. She is single as I am and we were just talking about men as we usually do . We were actually referring to material things so we were mentioning items like Rolex watch, or a Porsche car and so on.
After a while I suggested to post this question on my facebook wall and ask men themselves what they want. The answers were rather interesting.
The question was: And the question for all my male friends is....what does a smart, handsome and genuine man want?
- to be appreciated as smart, handsome and genuine, without someone trying to change them into their own version of smart handsome and genuine.
Since I did not get the answers I was expecting to get (they were all referring to emotional needs rather than material, oh, besides that bacon) I kept on researching. I bought GQ and started reading. Oh boy, what a difference. At first I was wondering if the articles are written in some kind of MENs English, im not joking, I had difficulties with reading them. The feeling I got was far away from articles I am used to from ELLE or Vogue all saying how amazing us women. Its all about support, encouragement and advice to be better and look better.
In few words, the feeling I got from reading GQ was fighting on the paper. I am still half way through the mag, but so far this is my opinion.
Before I went to bed I just searched, out of curiosity for "what smart men want" and here is a short opinion from one of them published by The Dating Truth.
To my friends who may be able to offer some type of solace. Why is it so difficult to find a smart, ambitious, beautiful, feminine, fashionable, classy, non-drama-having, non-prejudice, modest, cool, girl? Why you may ask do I list these qualities, well here is the reasoning.
1. I like smart girls. They don’t have to be a PhD or have as many degrees as me, but they must be smart be able to hold a conversation and have an opinion. I said have an opinion! In fact, let me digress there is a difference between having an opinion about a topic and speaking your mind when appropriate. Learn the difference.
2. I prefer ambitious women who have not become complacent with their situation. Improvement is always welcome. Independence is fantastic.
3. A beautiful woman is a beautiful woman and a beautiful woman in my eyes is not the same as the world’s eyes.
4. I like girly girls. Being feminine is not over rated, we know you’re a woman; don’t try to hang with the boys.
5. I like to look good. I like to be with a woman who has a sense of style, who looks good, if not for herself, than for me. Additionally being able to “clean up” well is a good trait, especially when the little black dress comes out.
6. Classy is so I can rule out all “ghetto-ness”. I wasn’t born in the hood, I am not from the hood, I’m not going to the hood, and I have nothing to do with the hood. So don’t bring that bullsh*t to my table. I’m not in the mood for a confrontation; I’m in the mood for a conversation.
7. I don’t like drama. We all have family issues, money issues, school issues, work issues, etc., but beyond that I don’t have time for baby mamas, baby daddies, children, and all other nonsense. Keep the drama at home. By the way if you have any of the latter, I’m not interested.
8. I’m sick and tired of meeting women who have preconceived notions and stereotypes about black men. I am not every black man! Read that again, I AM NOT EVERY BLACK MAN. I am not your past boyfriends, I am not your future boyfriend, I am the present. Get your mind right ladies.
9. I don’t like the girls who think there sh*t don’t stink. You’re sh*t smells just as much as the next one’s. In fact, your smug attitude makes you worse off. Go clean yourself.
10. Cool girls are much better than wack girls. The cooler a girl is the more attractive she is. Every man knows this. Look ladies, just be COOL if you know what I’m talking about then you already understand, if you don’t know, go ask someone.
To those I may have offended I’m sorry, and to those with an opinion, your comments are welcome.
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