terfs die rn

i'm pigeon and i hate nazis, terfs, truscum, proshippers and terminally online dumbassery. autistic, disabled, mlm and trans. he/him pronouns. call me q*eer and i'll beat you.

[sobertodeath2018-deactivated202]

i am not kidding tiktok is a plague upon this earth and is actively destroying peoples brains. i wish that app would shut down today

[sobertodeath2018-deactivated202]

it genuinely frightens me to my core the way the rhetoric and trends used on that app are going to affect users (especially teenagers) in the long run. like there are definitely some mindsets i absorbed from tumblr when i was 14 that i had to unlearn but tiktok is something completely different

[xionkuriyama]

it’s like, the scale of it that frightens me. it’s the perfect storm of shortform content, lack of verifiability, speed of information spread, cults of personality, mass production, capitalistic incentive, and mass reach. some of the people who spent their entire lives thinking of how to make the most effective propaganda possible couldn’t have dreamed of this shit.

[foulserpent]

why do US military bootboys walk around in public in their cringe costumes all the time

[foulserpent]

everybody at this gas station MUST clap and cheer for the special boy on his big day out

[guerrillatech]

No gods no masters

[amvs]

[skinoutqueen]

Ain’t one day go by when I’m scrolling on this site that I don’t go “I’m not reading that shit”

[legsdemandias]

Concrete, 100% effective way to tell if someone doesn’t belong in a LGBT+/queer space:

They openly and actively hate/ want to hurt the people in that space

[legsdemandias]

Controversial opinion here, I know, but just because you’re in a safe LGBT+/Queer space doesn’t mean you have to disclose their identity to everyone there. And people are allowed to bring their partners, regardless of their orientation, to those same spaces. 

Obviously there are certain spaces that are for specific people, but at the same time, y’all are so obsessed with micromanaging queer spaces. The only thing that should be a litmus for entry into those spaces is: “does this person want to hurt someone else in this space and I know that? Yes? Then they aren’t fucken welcome. Regardless of identity.”

[gayfirebird]

I volunteered in ine of the biggest queer youth clubs as an educator / guide (there isnt a word in english for these stuff).

We had so many queer kids that brought cishet friends and some of them didnt come out later, some of them really were cishet and that is fine.

They did no harm to the queer atmosphere and when someone new joined for the first time we gave them a little tour of the club and invited them to a one on one talk with one of the volunteers.

Ive had many of these conversations with teens at the ages of 12-19 and everyone calmed down when we told them there is no criteria to being there that this is a safe space and after a short explanation and some questions where many of them just blurted out their stories.

The non queer identifying people came for years either because they just met some friends from different places along the country and it was their usual hangout or because they really needed a safe space with no judgment in their lives.

Cishet people also need safe spaces where there are no gendered expectations of them and they can play with makeup and dresses and just be calm and learn about safe sexuality and consent.

Why in the world would you kick people who need safe spaces and benefit from them out???

Queer people seeing cishet people in queer spaces not acting weird and for once seeing the atmosphere is queer and the cis person has to adapt does marvels to one’s sense of how real it feels, how you could bring this safe space outside and this culture to other friends.

Introduce some of the stuff you learned to your friends and family maybe to some willing coworker idk.

The point is that our way to smash the patriarchy, gender roles, rape culture and more shit is too bring it outside and allow allies to be there cus why the fuck not

[legsdemandias]

Thanks for sharing! This really highlights a collection of reasons why it’s important to not create these arbitrary rules to who can and can’t come in. 

[prismatic-bell]

Also?

When I was in college, I had a cishet friend who was Christian and quietly felt homosexuality was a sin. I never heard her say so out loud….

…..which is why it STUNNED me when last year, she admitted she felt that way in college. But, she said, spending time with me in what we called the LGBTQIA+ group, to support me through a time when I was on and off suicidal, she discovered that queer people were, well….people. Who just wanted to be allowed to live. That might sound like “wow, the bar was belowground and she was doing the limbo with Satan,” but you must understand: this was 2006 in a very tiny town. Our senator had just compared homosexuality to both bestiality and pedophilia and there was a concerted push going on to write “one man, one woman” into the Constitution. Allison’s position (“I feel a certain kind of way but I’m not going to say it aloud”) was actually KINDER than most of the people around me.

And just spending time in our spaces, being around queer people, she realized “hey, what I have been told my whole life is a lie. These people are just people. Telling terrible jokes, having cookouts, fighting for basic human dignity, arguing over whether or not face painting is an appropriate college activity. There is no difference between them and me.”

Without a welcome into queer spaces, Allison might still be part of a homophobic church. Instead she helped organize her town’s first Pride parade in 2019.

“The queer kids, whether they’re gay or straight, need to stick together.” — Tim Miller, gay performance artist

Gatekeeping kills. STOP THAT.

[legsdemandias]

Again, if you tag this post “q slur” this post was and is about you. You are the danger to our spaces.

[pepsipigeon]

i want to live in whatever fantasy world that op lives in where q*eer is not a slur. i've never seen someone so terminally online before in my fucking life it's honestly so pathetic.

[pizzaback-deactivated20201011]

forgot who on here said this but i saw someone predict that transmisogynists would start using mental illness and/or abuse recovery language to describe them questioning their gender identity and well, here we are now

[crossdreamers]

A transmasculine person who gave birth will be recognized as father on daughter's birth certificate after Illinois change of policy

Myles Brady-Davis, a nonbinary and transmasculine parent, has now been recognized as the father of their child in Illinois. They are married to Precious Brady-Davis. Both of them are  influential leaders in the Chicago LGBTQ community.

Gen writes:

Under the current system, the person who gave birth is automatically titled “Mother/Co-parent” on their child’s birth certificate. Due to this policy, Myles Brady-Davies, a transmasculine person who uses they/them pronouns, would be outed each time ID was required for their daughter.

Myles expressed the importance of an accurate birth certificate, “All families deserve to be safe and respected, so why would our family be any different? For us, it is critical to have a birth certificate that affirms and respects who we are to each other as a family. An inaccurate birth certificate would create confusion, and for us, that could be dangerous. What parent would accept that?”

Top photo of Precious Brady-Davis and Myles Brady-Davis by Allison Kortokrax. Bottom photo: Mystic Images Photography.

Them has more on this story.

[asdlflgkllggjkgjktl-deactivated]

the spanking debate isn’t all that complicated. you’re either ok with hitting small kids who are completely defenseless and literally at your mercy, or you’re not. supporting the first option makes you a bad and dangerous person, and unfit to be a parent, and im sorry to say but there’s no way around this, no excuses or loopholes. it is what it is

[transboyurameshi-blog]

I’ve told this story before and my clam chowder is getting cold but fuck it.

A couple years ago while I was working for a care center during my ece training - we had a big thing about spankings. We went around and asked children who were spanked how they felt about it and what it told them or how it made them feel.

Then when the parents were over, we anonymously read everything that was said by the children on how they view spankings and unanimously it was found that the children never saw it as a growing experience.

It was “painful” “really scary” “I thought mommy hated me now” and we often found it never actually TAUGHT the kids what they did wrong. in fact it seemed to teach them that at any moment your mommy or daddy would just haul up and smack you until you cried and said it was for your own good.

Needless to say I’m pretty sure we changed a lot of parents opinions on spanking and SHOCK OF SHOCKS actually TALKING to their children worked far better disiplinary

I even included my own story, pretending I was telling an outside story “well, I happened to know one person who’s mother only stopped spanking them cause they got tall and big real fast so they could fight back. so there’s a lot of intimidation and fear to your children.” and just - I’ll never forget the dawning look of realization on their faces

[hobbit-feels]

The most common argument I hear is, “Look, my parents spanked me and I turned out fine.” Stolen from elsewhere on the internet but now my defult response:  “No you didn’t–you think it is okay to hit little kids.”

[crystallinecrow]

Let me teach y'all a thing about attachment theory. So children require positive physical contact and attention to develop healthily. This means cuddles, positive interactions, time spent with people etc etc. Positive contact with people stimulates our brains to develop! It is a literal REQUIREMENT to raise a healthy balanced child.

Children who are left in institutional orphanages (aka left in a crib and given the minimum of care) and adopted out have been found to have pervasive developmental delays. They also have severe learning disabilities and detached connections to their parents. Kids who are abused via neglect stop seeking positive interactions with others. It literally CHANGES THEIR BRAINS. And guess what happens when they get older? THEY ACT OUT TO SEEK NEGATIVE ATTENTION FROM OTHERS.

Because to monkey brain attention is attention and my brain sponge needs that to develop so I will act out to get attention.

Well guess what my dudes? Kids who are physically abused have their brain chemistry altered too. It’s massively fucked. Spanking your kids disrupts the healthy brain chemistry and disturbs development of healthy attachment. This has impacts later in life. Anxiety, depression, suicidal ideation, disassociaton and MANY OTHER disabilities can stem from abuse as a child. If you don’t develop it out right did you know past trauma can make you more susceptible to developing these kind of disorders given exposure to another trauma or stressor? And know why? Because physical abuse changed the brain.

You say you were spanked and you’re fine?

Don’t abuse your kids y'all. You’re literally changing their brains and that is fucked as shit.

[tonysopranobignaturals-deactiva]

[uncbbxlxlxldld]

why the fuck are you guys making fun of someone at such a low point in their life.... regardless of what he is alleged to have done you're using a mental breakdown for a cheap laugh. this website really does pick and choose the mentally ill people they want to support huh

[ouma-anti-deactivated20200922]

he groomed children, made a haha funnie joak out of kids with mental disabilities getting murdered by an us marine, is utterlt homophobic/transphobic and when people called him out on his mess he acted like "this is so sad i can't take anymoer :(" and you're out there defending him sharon

[uncbbxlxlxldld]

why are u putting eating disorders in ur bio... ur trying to trigger people and harming people's recovery... maybe improve yourself before you pick on greg.....

[ouma-anti-deactivated20200922]

"ed" is literally my name

[queersona]

THIS IS SO FUCKIGN FUNNY

[leghorn]

nearly 90,000 ppl signed this petition to get a college to stop raising sheep on their sustainable solar farm and its such a fucking joke ppl are sending the people who work for this program death threats like- 

[katakulio]

When vegans attack the meat and dairy industries indiscriminately they never manage to shut down the big factory farms; they shut down the small farms like this that are doing the right thing. They are actively sabotaging efforts to make agriculture more environmentally and socially sustainable while removing competition for the factory farms that have profit as their priority. If they directed this much attention at farms growing plant products unsustainably they might actually achieve something.

[846782364278]

listen i know this is old drama and probably not relevant to my follower base but i cannot believe we are still using the excuse of coping in order to consume toxic content that actively harms others. it is nearly 2020 you’d think people would have found better ways of handling their issues without indulging in fictional p*dophilia/*ncest and blaming it on their ~trauma~ or whatevr 

[uncharted3-remade-deactivated20]

anyways since kalvin garrah has started defending literal terfs on twitter can we PLEASE rise up and beat the shit out of him.

[uncharted3-remade-deactivated20]

THERE ARE LITERALLY NO EXCUSES FOR LIKING KALVIN AND HIS CONTENT. HES A ROTTEN HUMAN BEING AND A FUCKING DISGRACE TO THE ENTIRE TRANS COMMUNITY. I DONT CARE WHO YOU ARE OR HOW LONG WE'VE KNOWN EACH OTHER, BLOCK ME AND NEVER SPEAK TO ME AGAIN IF YOURE GOING TO LOOK AT THIS AND STILL THINK HES DOING SOMETHING GOOD FOR THE TRANS COMMUNITY.

[synthdicks-deactivated20210903]

honestly im kinda done w most of the dudes who are like “””transmasc activists””” bc very little of what they talk about is relevant to my struggles or the struggles of the guys around me. like, i’m sure happy theres skinny cis passing str8 dudes here to do another pronouns 101 and talk about how gr8 ur cis girlfriend is for respecting ur gender and like do a photoshoot with a company that makes £30 underwear or whatever. but like, are you at like any point gonna talk abt the fact that >50% of trans men are survivors of sexual violence?? you gonna talk about the huge likelihood that trans boys have attempted suicide (>50%)?? you gonna talk abt the fact that almost a third of urban trans men have been or are sex workers?? you gonna talk abt the rates of alcohol and drug abuse in our community?? you gonna talk abt the fact that 36% of us are survivors of domestic violence?? or you just gonna continue w the vapid, empty platitudes that only vaguely resemble meaningful activism

[gayknight]

we could also talk about the widespread eating disorders in our community, the intersection of race and trans manhood, the discrimination we still face (ex: poor healthcare, the fact that many of us are stuck in low-paying jobs and frequently fired, lack of presence in medical research/sex education, etc.) but the only topics that get spotlighted are like, media representation for the billionth time

[sistertaxon]

tried my hand at improving conservative memes

[girl-debord]

if you are in high school and you follow me idc if you learn nothing else from me, but learn this: do not join the fucking military. they will promise you all sorts of things in exchange for joining their muder-system for a few years. do not listen to them. you won’t find a sense of purpose, you won’t find an adventure, you might not even get the money they promise you for college. if you survive, you’ll come back with blood on your hands, feeling just as aimless as before except knowing you’re a killer. the government will drop you like hot potatoes the second you are not useful to them, and you will be on your own with nothing but some ptsd and a more intimate understanding of the phrase “blood for oil.”

[lofijazz]

They also have a way of targeting POC as well as those who are in a family that isn’t doing well financially. Be wary of any and all recruiters.

[mens-rights-activia]

Read this thread if you wanna know what the military does to people

[thejusticethatissocial]

I also recommend the podcast What a Hell of a Way to Die, which is by two men who joined the military very young, (one of them was 17) and then became very leftist socialists after seeing it for what it really is. They cover a lot of topics like anti imperialism, military propaganda, fascism, and talk about all if it from a perspective I haven’t heard before.

They did an episode about this topic pretty recently, titled Recruiting 16-Year-Olds: Patriotic Child Grooming.

[itched]

hey! adults can be nonbinary! im an adult and i’m nonbinary! if you are a nonbinary kid, you too can grow into a nonbinary adult! everything is gonna be okay!

[likeanaccident]

I’d to add that it’s cool if you realize you’re nonbinary as an adult! not everybody figures themselves out when they’re a kid/teen, and no matter when you do, your gender is valid!

[barackitsmejacques]

someone should really write an essay exploring how casual homophobia in society causes gay people to be sexualized no matter their age. For example people didn’t start seeing ‘ Old Town Road” as a sexual song until lil nas came out. and like yeah it’s fine if gay people are sexual obviously but the fact is that the first thing people think about when they learn someone is gay is sex. which just causes a whole hoard of issues and in conclusion it’s cishets fault and they suck