Hi, do you have any tips or ressources for someone who lake self-confidence. Several people told me that I’m pretty and clever but I’m not able to feel confident about these and feel it.
Here are some things you can try:
Shift to an equality mentality People with low self-confidence see others as better or more deserving than themselves. Instead of carrying this perception, see yourself as being equal to everyone. They are no better or more deserving than you. Make a mental shift to an equality mentality and you will automatically see an improvement in your self-confidence.
Affirm yourselfWe behave in accordance with our self-image so you need to change how you view yourself. We tend to believe what we constantly tell ourselves, so start saying positive things about yourself out loud. To get your brain to accept your positive statements more quickly, phrase your affirmations as questions like, “Why am I so clever?” instead of “I am clever.” That will prompt you to list the many reasons why you are clever. Our brains are biologically wired to seek answers to questions, without analyzing whether the question is valid or not.
Visualize yourself as you want to beWhen we struggle with low self-confidence, we have a poor perception of ourselves that is often inaccurate. Practice visualizing a fantastic version of yourself, achieving your goals.
Care for yourselfSelf-confidence depends on a combination of good physical health, emotional health and social health. Make time to cultivate great exercise, eating and sleep habits. In addition, dress the way you want to feel. Build your self-confidence by making the effort to look after your own needs.
Question your inner criticYou are your own worst critic. Try to silence your inner critic by questioning it. Strategies like cognitive behavioral therapy help you to question your inner critic, and look for evidence to support or deny the things that your inner critic is saying to you. For example, if you think that you are a failure, ask yourself, “What evidence is there to support the thought that I am a failure?” and “What evidence is there that doesn’t support the thought that I am a failure?” Find opportunities to congratulate, compliment and reward yourself, even for the smallest successes.
Create personal boundaries Learn to say no. Teach others to respect your personal boundaries. The more control and say that you have over your own life, the greater will be your self-confidence.
Do one thing that scares you every dayNo matter how big or small. The best way to overcome fear is to face it head-on. By doing something that scares you every day and gaining confidence from every experience, you will see your self-confidence soar. Get out of your comfort zone every once in a while.
Do something you’ve been procrastinating onWhat’s something you need to do that’s been sitting there? Do it first thing in the morning, and get it out of the way. You’ll feel great about yourself.
Stand tall People who stand tall are perceived as confident are more attractive.
Act positive More than just thinking positive, you have to put it into action. Action, is the key to developing self-confidence. It’s one thing to learn to think positive, but when you start acting on it, you change yourself, one action at a time. You are what you do, and so if you change what you do, you change what you are. Act in a positive way, take action instead of telling yourself you can’t, be positive. Talk to people in a positive way, put energy into your actions. You’ll soon start to notice a difference.
Get to know yourself You’re at war with yourself. When going into battle, the wisest general learns to know their enemy very well. You can’t defeat the enemy without knowing them. And when you’re trying to overcome a negative self-image and replace it with self-confidence, your enemy is yourself. Get to know yourself well. Start listening to your thoughts. Start writing a journal about yourself, and about the thoughts you have about yourself, and analyzing why you have such negative thoughts. And then think about the good things about yourself, the things you can do well, the things you like. Start thinking about your limitations, and whether they’re real limitations or just ones you’ve allowed to be placed there, artificially.
Speak slowlySuch a simple thing, but it can have a big difference in how others perceive you. A person in authority, with authority, speaks slowly. It shows confidence. A person who feels that they aren’t worth listening to will speak quickly, because they don’t want to keep others waiting on something not worthy of listening to. Even if you don’t feel the confidence of someone who speaks slowly, try doing it a few times. It will make you feel more confident.
Empower yourself with knowledgeEmpowering yourself, in general, is one of the best strategies for building self-confidence. You can do that in many ways, but one of the surest ways to empower yourself is through knowledge. By becoming more knowledgeable, you’ll be more confident, and you become more knowledgeable by doing research and studying. The Internet is a great tool, of course, but so are the people around you, people who have done what you want, books, magazines, and educational institutions.
Help someone else Helping someone else often enables us to forget about ourselves and to feel grateful for what we have. It also feels good when you are able to make a difference for someone else. Instead of focusing on your own weaknesses, volunteer to mentor, assist or teach another, and you’ll see your self-confidence grow automatically in the process.
Set yourself up to win Start by setting yourself small goals that you can win easily. Once you have built a stream of successes that make you feel good about yourself, you can then move on to harder goals. Make sure that you also keep a list of all your achievements, both large and small, to remind yourself of the times that you have done well. Instead of focusing only on “to-do" lists, spend time reflecting on “did-it" lists. Reflecting on the major milestones, projects and goals you’ve achieved is a great way to reinforce confidence in your skills.
Surround yourself with positivity Positive people help your self confidence because they tend to see the potential in you – even when you might not see it in yourself. Negative people, on the other hand, will hinder your self confidence because they tend to reinforce your self doubt and negative beliefs about yourself.
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