basker!!

18 they/he

[phenomignitionsanduncertainties]

i post/repost stuff here, mainly about ttrpg stuff? progress on those has been. rather slow recently though

otherwise i have a flondon sideblog!! @brine-patchfelt! much more active there currently :3

[hyenaswine]

based based based based based based based based based based based based

[queeranarchism]

Let me settle the 'is it fetishism and is it bad?' debate once and for all:

Being attracted to any kind of body is normal. Fat bodies. Trans bodies. Disabled bodies. All normal. Being extra attracted to a specific kind of body is normal too. Totally normal to have a type.

Not unlearning the societal stigma attached to those kinds of bodies, the people who inhabit those bodies, and the people who fuck them, to the point where you do any of the following:

Only want to date/fuck the person in secret.

Reduce the person to the feature that you desire and ignore the rest of who they are as a person.

Expect the person to be a walking porn fantasy instead of a real person with their own sexual preferences and boundaries.

Would no longer love the person if the stigmatized aspect of their body changed.

Consider yourself superior to the person, think the person should be 'grateful' that you love their body, etc.

See the person as a temporary adventure while planning to eventually settle down with someone whose body isn't stigmatized.

Is bad and harmful and you shouldn't be dating anyone until you've worked on your shit, because this makes you a very terrible partner. This doesn't mean you are a bad person with bad-fetishist-desires who can only desire people badly, it means you need to unlearn societal stigma so you can be a better partner to the people you desire.

Thank you for coming to me ted talk.

[johnnyfoursandco]

Little lady I doodled on the clock.

[adastrabbit]

i bring a sort of "people having a 'weird' fetish isnt inherently funny or a joke" vibe to every conversation that anyone im talking to doesnt really like

[adastrabbit]

ive heard people bring up fetishes in conversation specifically to encourage the group to make fun of them. ive seen entire videos very recently all about bullying people for making fetish content. how are we still doing this

[gothhabiba]

I love not playing along

[gothhabiba]

"she's gained a lot of weight lately" "oh, good for her"

"on the wrong side of 40" "huh, which side is that?"

❗️I am not playing along with you❗️

[possessable]

it's fine i don't even need to be part of social groups or friend groups anyway (giant hole appears in my chest spontaneously) ? what's that

[poobletoods]

i am no longer fucking asking

[poobletoods]

for all your no longer fucking asking needs

[ambermcqueen]

@creatingblackcharacters

[baeddoll]

the polyamorous sadist would like you all to organize yourselves into a wack-a-mole type arrangement

[itsdappleagain]

[itsdappleagain]

people in my replies arguing for their fav white guy???

[itsdappleagain]

CRITICAL THINKING QUESTIONS:

1. Do you think a post pointing out an issue with fandom racism and misogyny is an appropriate place to bring up your favorite white male character? Why or why not?

2. Did this post call you racist for relating to a white male character? If you thought or think so, consider why you got defensive.

3. Think about the disproportionate amount of art and writing about white male characters in fandom spaces. Do you think this is, across all boards, due to them being written better or more relatably than the POC protagonist?

a. If so, consider why you notice the writing of white male characters more often. Are white male characters written "better" than the POC protagonist, or do you have an internalized fear of relating to non-white characters that you need to work through?

b. If not, consider what ingrained biases might lead to this phenomenon in fandom spaces.

c. If you read a. and thought that white male characters literally just are usually or always written better than the POC and/or female protagonist, accept you are wrong and consider some self reflection.

4. Have you researched how to write and draw characters that are non-white and/or non-male? If not, does this limitation lead you to gravitate towards characters you feel "qualified" to make content about, therefore inflating the issue?

5. If people are telling you to reconsider your point of view in my replies section, did you stop to consider what they said apart from your human instinct to be defensive? Have you considered that arguing against those trying to educate you about fandom racism and misogyny, which can be difficult to see in yourself, in the notes of a post talking about fandom racism and misogyny, might be short-sighted and counterproductive?

6. If you are inclined to defend your favorite white male character, pause. Are all of your other favorite characters also majority white? Are they majority male? Are they either of these and NOT the main character of the show, movie, or game they originate from?

a. If not, this comic is not for you. Please move on and give it a reblog if you're feeling generous.

b. If so, consider this pattern. If you want to break it, ask someone for a reccomendation for characters or media similar to your favorites. Expand your horizons, and engage with your community rather than fighting against them.

[fucking-relax]

Reminder: Bask in the Warm Glow of Your Achievements like a lizard on a warm rock

if you forgot to do it in the moment, this is your opportunity to Appreciate That You Did It. telling others about it helps make the basking last properly as well.

you did it!! enjoy 🦎

reminder inspired by @skullchicken (see the post for more detail/suggestion)

[fucking-relax]

i need to harness this energy whenever i observe this post

[aesungaia]

[mug-of-beans]

“The old magic persists thanks to it’s unfathomable power.”

No, the old magic persists because the new magic can’t run the legacy spells I need to do my job, and keeps trying to install spirits I don’t want or need onto my orb.

[aqueerkettleofish]

Look, if the new magic didn't have a personality construct that kept trying to tell me which spells to use, maybe I wouldn't still be using the old magic.

[wizard-council-bureaucrat]

Yes it had a deep blood cost, but at least it was a one time sacrifice and not this monthly bloodletting nonsense new age magic has

[wizard-archivist-official]

The old magic is robust enough to survive a decade of use and it's compatible with every wand, staff, scroll, and charm in our collection.

The new magic stops working after three days and every spell uses proprietary runes.

Our preferences, as an archiving institution, should be pretty clear.

[charlesoberonn]

You try to get guidance for the new magic and the king's sorcerers maybe will answer you in a few days with an unhelpful suggestion to buy the newest orb.

You need guidance for the old magic and a dozen retired middle-aged wizards will pop up to explain it to you rune by rune if necessary.

[dragongirlsweetie]

boss makes a spider i make a slime. that's why i . thas why, tthats why i uhhh. t. thawhy

[dragongirlsweetie]

t.gats why i can't think up an end to the rhyme

[evilwizard]

GET BACK TO WORK

[itsjesscapade]

[syrenki]

your daughter is a pleasure to have on the dashboard

[bismuth-soup]

Reblog if prev is a pleasure to have on the dashbord

[studentofetherium]

people are so weird about feet

[studentofetherium]

there are people with foot fetishes and there are people who cannot see any depiction of bare feet without assuming it's a foot fetish thing, and the second category is the one that feels more perverse

[studentofetherium]

it's such a bizarre form of conservative sexuality that it makes me realize how Victorian ankle enticement became a thing. people are so staunchly against sexualization that something being sexualized is a negative fact of its own

[studentofetherium]

frankly i do not care if someone wants to fuck a foot. that's their business. the people who cannot see a bare foot without making a negative joke about foot fetishests are the weird ones

[foffythesheep]

this is an incredible fake deep metaphor to just say "no you don't get it, foot fetishes are SO icky that it justifies everyone acting like this"

[synjectivism]

being gen z i am Also not a big fan of the revival of sexual conservatism amongst my age bracket. but i also think its insane that some people believe this is

unique to gen z

universal to gen z

like i remember at my high school graduation one guy gave this big speech about how it was Our Job To Fix The World! it was up to us now to solve climate change and everything! which annoyed the hell out of me for a number of reasons, the major one being that we were a bunch of 18 year olds. this was a grown man. talking about so many extremely complex issues which fundamentally require solidarity amongst so many people, across generations, long-term, to "fix."

its an extension of how ageism dehumanizes children by projecting "innocence" onto them, depriving them of the right to be messy and imperfect and growing humans, turning them into objects that adults can project a desire for purity and salvation onto. it connects directly to the belief that social progress is inevitable, that younger generations will be more accepting and intelligent not because of intergenerational efforts to strive for a better world but because young people are supposed to make up for all the mistakes of their parents through that intrinsic "innocence."

and then, when that illusion inevitably shatters, when young people are people with flaws and anxieties and normal human issues, when it becomes clear that the youth will not save the previous generations from everything in the world they are scared and ashamed of, the ageism doesn't go away. it transmogrifies. the "innocence" of youth is reimagined as young people (particularly teenagers) being a corrupting force, no longer the embodiment of adult hopes but adult fears.

tl;dr yes, puritanism amongst young people is a problem, racism and misogyny and conservatism in general amongst young people is a problem. because young people are people in a puritanistic, racist, misogynistic, conservative society. stop waiting for young people to solve all the world's issues and get some fucking intergenerational solidarity in your life.