Best Advice for Succeeding in School (I learned it the hard way)
In high school, I was considered a pretty average student. I knew that I was more than that, but I prioritized my extra curricular activities to have a fun experience in high school. I also thought being “well rounded” would make up for the fact that I had A’s and B’s and once a C. When it came to my Senior year, I realized I screwed myself over by inflating my ego and getting rejected by my dream school.
I was always put into advanced classes in grade school, but this is not something that I want to brag about. It actually hurt me because it inflated my confidence giving me a false sense of self. From this point as a student, I thought I was given the natural ability of intelligence and I learned to never study for tests and exam (except for science which was my achilles). My grades in grade school were A’s and A-’s.
This habit carried on in high school. I had an ego in which I was intelligent enough to not put in any work. The people around me often didn’t seem as bright as me, so I settled to stay in classes in which I felt comfortable being at the top.
I didn’t realize that making myself uncomfortable by putting my self in more difficult classes would have made me smarter. I didn’t want to compete with the smartest students in the class because I didn’t want to feel dumb.
I never studied for my AP Bio or AP US History exams. I loved History so I felt that there was no need for me to prepare because I knew I would get a good grade. I thought my “natural intelligence” would help me pass. I hated AP Biology because I just didn’t get Biology. I never asked for help because I thought I was too smart for help.
I ended up getting 2′s on both of the tests. Because of my inflated sense of intelligence, I never studied for the ACT. I did extremely poorly, and it was too late to fix by the time I applied for college.
It was time for me to change as a person. I needed to stop pretending to be “naturally gifted” and actually work towards my goals. Upon going to Indiana University, I realized that I needed to make the best of my experience there. I met people that were a thousand times smarter than me and my former colleagues in high school.
I lost my inflated sense of intelligence. I started studying for my quizzes, tests, and exams. I started engaging with my professors when I needed help. While I never really needed actual help, I ended up connecting with a lot of professors. They would give me a lot of inside information on how to succeed just because I was being vulnerable and asking for help. The classes in which I performed the worst were a product of me not going to office hours or asking for help.
Stop thinking of yourself as intelligent in the academic sense. Nobody cares except for you. Outsmart the smartest people by dedicating time and energy into resources that are helpful. Engage with people that are willing to help you, and don’t engage with people that want to compare themselves against you. Additionally, step out of your comfort zone when it comes to classes and work. You will learn a lot more when you are put in an unfamiliar environment as opposed to a familiar environment. Once you feel comfortable with the work you are doing, that becomes dangerous slipper slope for stagnancy in your learning and growth as a person and academically.