I need to be crystal fucking clear. Fuck fatphobia. Fuck anyone who engages in rhetoric that dehumanizes fat people. I am NOT a fat “fetishist.” Fuck anybody who is attracted to fat people but is too much of a pussy to properly love them and date them in public. Nobody deserves to be fetishized and I would never do that.
I have dated and been in relationships with LOTS of people — male and female — across the size spectrum. I’ve been with tiny skinny girls and male body builders with rock hard abs. And I’ve also dated some fat people. I am currently in a relationship with a fat person who I love dearly and who I take around in public, kiss, and cuddle with proudly because I wanna show him off!!! Because he’s hot. I think he’s a total catch. I am a fat admirer. I think fat people are hot. I think it’s hot and sexy to enjoy food and enjoy your life and live hedonistically outside of society’s standards. I find double chins and big soft tummies and rolls and curves and overall largeness to be very attractive and beautiful. I like how it feels in my hands and against my body and I like how it looks. I think it’s boring and LAME to have to date someone who won’t eat my cooking or ever share a desert or simply who can’t enjoy food — to enjoy food is to enjoy life! And I think it’s fun and transgressive and sexy for someone to simply permit their appetite to be large and indulgent beyond society’s standards. Not all fat people are fat because they overeat, let’s get that clear. But.. some of them do. And those fat people are still people. Still attractive. Still worthy of love.
I am not exclusively attracted to fatness, but my attraction to it is significant. I do NOT view my attraction to fatness as a kink and certainly not as a fetish. I do have feeder and feeder adjacent fantasies and that is a kink. I have never actually engaged in a feedist scenario with any of my fat partners — partially because they never initiated interest in such a thing, partially because I’m quite content for it to simply be a kinky fantasy in my own mind. My current partner is actually on a weight loss journey and taking a GLP-1 — this was his decision, motivated by the fact that he is unhappy with his lack of mobility, having to use a CPAP machine, and facing up to the fact that he has binge eating disorder fueled by childhood trauma. I love the way he looks now and if he wanted to give up and continue being just as fat or fatter, I’d respect his choice. But I also am respecting his choice to lose weight. If he wants to get down to something more manageable or even wants to get totally thin, I’m gonna respect it and love him for it. Because I see him as a human being and I love him for him not his body. I know some fat people and probably people I may follow have complex feelings about weight loss and GLP-1s. In terms of my partner, I feel as a thin person it’s not my place to tell him what to do. We’ve had discussions but ultimately it’s his choice. I’m bringing up this because I’m demonstrating that while I am attracted to fat people, I do not date the fat people that I date solely for their bodies. And I respect their choices.
My URL and things I reblog here play into some kinky fantasies regarding teasing people. But I do not condone fatphobia whatsoever in real life. Fuck anyone who does.
Anyways.
Here’s my kink jars.




















