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if you vote me for president i vow to make everything the ocean again. no more land only ocean. this will solve all of our problems and replace them with new, far more interesting problems

elierlick

Yet another new study debunked the basis for the anti-trans sports bans. It was never about sports but for creating legal avenues for exclusion and abjection. This is one of the largest analyses ever conducted, involving 52 studies and 6,485 trans people. Read the study here.

lucieslucidity

post so nice had to reblog it twice and force it down everyone's throats

fleshengine

At minimum about 4.5 thousand people liked this without reblogging it.

We gotta fix that.

imjunebitch

actually fucking disgusting that glasses cost any money like if you actually think about it for more than a few seconds it is so unconscionably inhumane. this goes for things like insulin and mobility aids and hearing aids too ofc but fuck man, fucking glasses? the thing you need to fucking see? its genuinely sickening and inhumanly evil that those cost ANYTHING.

agayworthfightingfor

On Dentists

So I can’t brush my teeth. Like, it’s the worst kind of hell. I went to the dentist for a cleaning today and I told the hygienist this, and she was wonderfully helpful.

There are some incredibly soft toothbrushes available- namely, post-surgical brushes. Running them under hot water makes them even softer.

She told me that you don’t really need to use toothpaste- it’s mostly marketing. The foam gets to me, so that is really reassuring.

She gave me two particularly soft brushes and some xylitol gum. Trident is a market brand of xylitol gum, which helps with your teeth and can make your breath smell better.

The whole purpose of brushing is to disrupt plaque buildup. You don’t need to brush twice a day, every day with toothpaste if you brush correctly- little circles, focusing on near the gums (where most plaque builds up). So if you’re having a bad sensory day and can’t brush at all, it’s not the end of the world.

Hell, you don’t even need a toothbrush if even the post-surgical ones are too harsh. Going over your teeth with the same motions using a washcloth is enough.

She wants to find a fluoride rinse that has a taste I can stand (peppermint is the only mint I can stand) but she’s not particularly worried about it.

I go to Dr. Barr in Chicago. If you can get to the State St. Macy’s, his office is nearby. He’s very kind and patient and really understanding of my needs as an autistic person. The hygienist, I don’t know her name, announced everything she was going to do before she did it, and stopped frequently to see how I was doing.

This is really the only positive dentist I’ve ever had- past dentists have been too rough and not bothered to help find ways I can actually brush.

Basically this is a glowing recommendation for Dr. Barr’s office if you’re autistic, afraid of dentists, or have sensory needs. This is a recommendation even if you don’t have any of those things.

huhnerkopf

Im actually crying i feel like this post was reblogged for me oh my god oh my god oh my lord thank you

lascapigliata

You can also dilute your mouthwash and use it to swish around if it burns. My dentist does this so consider it dentally approved

spoonie-living

If you were feeling guilty about your brushing habits, either due to sensory issues, pain, allergies, executive dysfunction, or just plain fatigue, here’s what you need to know about what is and isn’t necessary if your dental care!

charismat1c-megafauna

Post-covid, I got really horrible shit going on with my gag reflex where for some reason the mint flavor of toothpaste (and only toothpaste) would make me gag so hard that I’d throw up. Then I found a kids toothpaste that’s like strawberry flavored or something, but it has the proper adult amount of flouride, so it works for me and I don’t gag much anymore. Here’s an article with some options if you’re like me lol

Dr. Gemma Wheeler lists best non-mint toothpaste options for adults. The list includes those that are truly non mint, without oils or aromas

Also for the people who can’t stand foam, the ingredient you’re looking to avoid is called SLS.

bisexualbaker

I share this frequently, but I had a very difficult time making myself floss because I hated the way that standard floss digs into my fingers when I use it. I switched to floss picks, and boom: A hated activity instantly became entirely neutral. Much easier to convince myself to do! If you have the same problem with standard floss, this might be worth a try.

Also, my most recent trip to the dentist, I was told that xylitol is a very effective treatment for dry mouth! And also that dry mouth is bad for your teeth, because it can disrupt the PH balance in your mouth, making your teeth more susceptible to cavities. While you want to be very careful to keep any xylitol products away from dogs in particular and probably pets in general, if you have dry mouth, you can try checking for products with xylitol in them.

bisexualbaker

Of note: My brother endorses the OraNusre brand of flavorless toothpaste; he says it “tastes like toothbrush”. My mom, meanwhile, is a fan of the Hello brand, which comes in different fruity and sweet flavors. Both of these are listed at the non-mint toothpaste link above.

If you prefer a toothpaste or a mouthwash for dry mouth, I use Biotène; it’s not cheap, but brushing once a day with it, a tube of Biotène toothpaste lasts me around four to five months. As far as I’m aware, it’s only in mint flavor.

pixelstormy

also for people with gaps in their teeth, if you can i'd suggest getting interdental brushes- they come in a buncha different sizes for big gaps and small, and have helped me a lot with controlling the plaque build up between my gaps since they're like not big enough for my soft toothbrush to reliably do much and they're too big for floss to be as useful and i also hate using floss since my jaw doesn't open very wide. they also have helped me with reducing plaque buildup over time :)

this is just an example of the diff sizes they come in but even just the little pink one is good for if you have rounder shaped top front teeth and there's a little gap between them at the top!! they do also make them in softer bristle types as well as the normal ones :)

commodore64

official-cisphobe

here's a random word generator--whatever word it gives you is now the thing you are the deity of

#lmao mine is horoscope #i am now making all of your horoscopes bad except mine <3

a-silly-poll-side-blog-yay

you have to eat the last item you searched online, are you ok?

yes

it's food

I'm dead

hopital

results

Voting ended onApr 26

#MINE IS FUCKING LEEDS CASTLE #I CANNOT EAT LEEDS CASTLE #ACTUALLY I CANNOT EAT ANY CASTLES

whineosaur

There is no greater bond on this earth than when you all despise and carry untold righteous anger about one person and then when you’re all together someone is like “so about that dead horse” and everyone starts sounding like Michael Jackson with the way they’re chanting beat it

spin-the-wheel-polls

You can only drink the drink you get from this wheel for a month!

https://wheelofnames.com/uh3-8jf

how're you feeling?

Great!

okay, I could do it

okay, I couldn't do it

dead

horrible

im allergic/intolerant

Results

Voting ended onApr 9

#cow milk #i'm lactose intolerant but they do make lactose free cow milk so ig i'll get that #and technically milk is more hydrating to humans than water so i'd be a lot more hydrated than normal i guess

littlebluebarista

Ok breaking containment for this one because I need everyone who will listen to hear this.

Women who suffer bad cramps are told cramps shouldn't affect school/work/etc, but no one ever investigates further because no one can possibly know if what someone experiences is just typical pain or something much worse.

Well after 15 years of stage 4 treatment-resistant endometriosis that came with pain as bad as, if not worse than, actual labor contractions every month, all the while being told I was 'typical' and 'just had bad cramps', I've finally been healed (another post for another time). I have had what everyone describes as the elusive 'normal period pain' for several months now, and I am begging you to look me in the eyes and listen because I need everyone who can hear this to hear this.

I have been on both sides of this. I have the hard-earned knowledge of what a period 'should' feel like.

If you have to put in any effort to hide your cramps, you need to get help.

Even during of the PEAK OF CRAMPING (i.e., as bad as your cramps possibly get), you should still be able to stand, speak, walk, eat, work, and sleep with no problems. These tasks should require very-little-to-no extra effort beyond what you would normally do when you aren't on your period. When you do these things, you should feel grumpy and a little bit icky and maybe a twinge of nerves and NOTHING MORE.

If you have to sit in the corner and hope no one approaches you because you can't speak or stand without showing pain, even slightly, you need to get help. If your pain is showing on your face, you need to get help. And most importantly, IF YOUR PAIN DOES NOT RESPOND TO 1-2 TYLENOL OR IBUPROFEN, YOU NEED TO GET HELP.

Your period cramps should make you grumpy. Your period cramps should make you feel a little icky and tired. Your period cramps should make you feel your insides existing/moving a bit and a twinge of nerves that makes you groan slightly then the "pain" should stop there, NOTHING MORE.

If your cramps put you on the floor but you make believe you're the captain of a ship who has just been stabbed and has to hide it to fight on, and you force yourself to power through the day, please understand: you are not okay, that does not make you okay. Just because you can power through the pain doesn't mean you aren't sick. If you have to force yourself through any basic task beyond the effort it takes you to do when you aren't on your period, and I am holding your face and looking you in the eye as I say this because I need you to hear me: You aren't normal. You don't 'just have bad cramps'. You are sick and you need to get help.

Now most people will tell you if your cramps are beyond a 3 out of 10 on the pain scale, you should see a doctor. While this is usually true, you have to consider chronic pain CAN AND WILL BREAK YOUR PAIN SCALE. Most people will only compare pain they currently feel to pain they may experience one day but probably never will. "Sure these cramps feel bad now, but if I had a leg amputated with no anesthesia, that would hurt WAY worse, so this pain can't be that bad-" No. Your pain is what it is, objectively, full stop. My cramps were at a 10 out of 10 every. Single. Time. And nobody told me claiming they were a 6-8 because I thought to myself 'what if I lose a limb one day?' was completely wrong. 10 pain is 10 pain. And if there's something that hurts worse than that, guess what. The thing you are experiencing right now is still a 10 out of 10 on the pain scale. Just because you experience it every month doesn't mean it's magically not as bad is it is. And if your pain is worse than a 3 out of 10, you need to get help.

Now when I say get help, I mean find the root cause of your pain. You can't just throw drugs and hormones at it without knowing what it causing your pain. Endometriosis, fibroids, pcos, cancer, adenomyosis, polyps, thyroid issues, there is always a cause. And if you leave it untreated, it will grow and get worse to the point where it resists treatment and the drugs and hormones you've been throwing at it for years don't work anymore. You have to find a doctor that will investigate. If your doctor tells you you 'just have bad cramps' get a new doctor. I know you've been told that but please hear me: no one ever just has bad cramps. A healthy human body doesn't spontaneously cause itself pain so bad you can't stand up; there is ALWAYS a cause.

I was sick for more than 15 years. My entire life was put on hold and now I'm in my late 20s trying desperately to play catch up for everything I missed. I want to pick up 12yo me, spin her around, and tell her she doesn't have to die before she finally stops hurting. I don't want anyone to suffer the same fate I did simply because everyone told them they were normal. A little twinge of pain here and there is normal, suffering is not. I promise you your pain is real, it is not normal, and dear heavenly day I am begging you you need to get help now.

TL;DR: There is no such thing as 'just bad cramps.' If you feel anything more than grumpy, icky, and pain greater than a 3 out of 10, you need to find out what's wrong with you before it gets worse.

anarchistmemedistro

reblogging for all genders

elljayvee

I've said it before and I'll say it again: I thought my cramps weren't that bad, because after all I had friends who couldn't get out of bed for three days. Meanwhile I could walk around. I only occasionally had a cramp so bad that I went pale and sweaty and shaky as I waited it out. Sure, those bad ones felt like a knife in the gut, but they only lasted a minute or so each one, and there were only two days of those per period. Not too bad, right?

After endometriosis surgery? Night and day. I haven't had a cramp like that in over a year. My cramps now, as OP says, are mild twinges and the vague sensation that standing up straight is more difficult and tiring than usual. Not painful, just harder to do.

Now Imagine me telling you "no one has stabbed me repeatedly in the guts for over a year!" that sounds insane, right. who would tolerate that. WELL. Lots of people with uteruses, apparently.

Also I've stopped being anemic. "Well, yeah," my doctor said, last week. "You probably had a slow bleed into your abdominal cavity constantly from the endometrial tissue, and now you don't."

madgastronomer

Also, DO NOT accept, "Being fat makes your cramps worse, lose weight and they'll get better." No. Some of the hormonal conditions that cause severe cramps also cause weight gain so there is a correlation between being fat and having bad cramps. That doesn't mean the fat causes the pain. Also, weight loss will not cure any of the conditions that make you gain weight.

And if you're fucking miserable before or during your period, that's premenstrual dysphoric disorder, it's not normal either, please get that checked out too. Any kind of "I feel like a disgusting blob monster" or "I am a horrible person and don't deserve to live" or anything even vaguely in that vicinity, that's PMDD.

In both of these cases, if your doctor doesn't fucking listen to you, get a new doctor, and don't stop getting new doctors until you find one that does listen.

transcockiness

additionally, transfems on estrogen can and do get period cramps, including extreme cramping, and there are options to manage it that don't involve stopping estrogen! switching from pills to injections can help, as well as starting progesterone. estrogen HRT doses are also chronically underprescribed by doctors, making sure you're on the right dose can help keep you healthy. here's the diy estrogen hrt guide which has info on dosage!

pixelstormy

it definitely needs to be talked about more, but especially amongst families. i didn't know that my mother had endometriosis until 2 years ago and my aunt and grandmother on my father's side until a couple of weeks ago.

i've had 3 bouts of treatment resistant extended bleeding, the first one in 2022 lasting ~170 days and needing to be stopped with a d&c, the second one in 2024 lasting ~230 days and again needing to be stopped with a d&c. at the same time as the second d&c they gave me a thermal endometrial ablation with a thermablate. and the third starting in march last year and ongoing.

i didn't get warned about the high likelihood of inheriting endometriosis, or inheriting the extended bleeding, which my aunt and grandmother had both experienced. my cramps were already bad as they were, but the endometrial ablation made things significantly worse. if i had known that the pain i was in when i was a teenager wasn't normal and what to potentially expect, then i would've been able to seek medical help at a much younger age rather than waiting for extended periods of bleeding in my 20s, and i would've had 10 years of documentation which would've likely given me a case to have a hysterectomy 2 years ago rather than me still having to fight the nhs tooth and nail to prove i know what i'm saying when i say i want a hysterectomy.