I just watched the #PaubayaMV and I realized a lot of things.
1. Closure and Acceptance - not everyone have the chance to get the closure they deserve and I know it is hard for them to accept that everything they wanted just ended in a blink of an eye but one painful lesson that I learned is that if you didn’t get the closure you wanted then don’t romanticize or justify the reason why that certain someone left you, take it as it is. He left because he didn’t choose to stay. The moment you start justifying their reason you are giving yourself false hope that they will still come back. Maybe they will, maybe they don’t but you need to free yourself from that cage because you will not be able to move forward to the next chapter of your life. If you were able to have that closure then give yourself all the time that you need to accept the bitter truth. It may take days, weeks, months or years but believe in yourself that it will be worth it and there are brighter days ahead.
2. Not everyone will stay - this is the reality that we are living in. Sometimes, we wanted someone to stay in our life so bad we forgot to value ourselves. A few years back, I lost someone who I thought I am gonna spend my life with, and I tried and fought so hard to keep him in my life that I can see it in his eyes that he is not happy with me anymore and that’s when I decided that I need to let him go, though my whole being is against it I was left with no choice but to leave. When you know that you tried so hard and done everything in your power but still it doesn’t work, it might be the sign to take a step back and re-evaluate the situation. Remember, there are battles that are worth fighting for. If they want to leave, let them go and cherish the memories that you had together.
When the person I thought I am gonna spend my whole life with left me, my world crashed below my feet. I was lost, I can’t eat, I can’t sleep, I cried before I sleep, I cried every time I woke up, I felt like I will not be okay if he doesn’t come back. Fortunately, I was able to get the closure I deserved and when I looked into his eyes as he firmly said “Ayoko na talaga” that’s when I realized that I just lost the man I loved. Going through the break up is not an easy feat, but I don’t consider it as phase or a battle that I have to win. I decided that this is my journey to self-discovery and self-love. I can rebuild myself with the people around me and here I am still on this journey and I look back and I feel proud of myself that I’ve come this far.
We may lose someone special in our lives but we will always have the memories we shared with them in our hearts.