Fight for what's in your heart

Kaidan/ Shachar | nb and transmasc | 25 | PNW | Writer, Machiavel, Lup and Barry's boyfriend | ✡️

[progressivejudaism]

Which book of the Torah is the most inspirational to you?

Genesis?  Exodus?  Leviticus? Numbers? Deuteronomy?

[plenoptic07]

It’s Bamidbar (Numbers) for me

[dabbingonronpa]

⭐⚔ Drift was ejected. ⚔⭐

[why-would-you-write-that]

i was flipping through my screen caps and found this panel that was too relatable

2020 mood

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[yehudah]

the noise she makes.....

[theboondocksisters]

[doldoldol]

hohoho

[snaily-deactivated]

i am.. still reeling from this experience :/

[snaily-deactivated]

ah i forgot to post pics of sambam….foolish of me

[fluffygif]

Royal flycatcher by kayleighkueffner

[insomniac-arrest]

I made some Opossum posters

Protect our marsupial friends!!

[ancient-rome-au]

[planet-motherfucker]

[sirfrogsworth]

BAT RAVE ACTIVATE

[thefrogman]

ǝʇɐʌᴉʇɔɐ ǝʌɐɹ ʇɐq

[vampireapologist-archive-deacti]

hey! i'm sorry if this is too personal, but i'm looking into a diagnosis for OCD and i'm... kind of terrified. both for the process of getting a diagnosis (especially as a minor) and what comes after - the therapy and medication and you know, living my life with it. do you have any advice for it?

OCD is the scariest thing I’ve ever faced in my life. Scarier than my depression, than my dad’s death, than being homeless, than getting surgeries done, all of it.

Unlike those other things, OCD was with me everywhere I went. Time didn’t make it better, and I no one could comfort me.

The thing is, that’s all from when I was undiagnosed and untreated. OCD is a disorder rooted at its very core in fear and uncertainty. So going it alone? It’s terrifying, heart-wrenching. 

But the wild thing is, you can recover. I think most people don’t realize that, because OCD is such a beast that once it’s ruled your life for so long, it’s nigh impossible to imagine any other version of living.

You need a good therapist who knows what they’re doing. I first started suffering from OCD symptoms when I was 14. I’m 26 now, and I only just started seeing a specialist this year. 

I’m not saying that to discourage you. I’m saying don’t give up, no matter how long the trek. OCD has been the ugliest part of my life, but now I’m starting to conquer it. I’ve seen people I love recover, and that’s what pushed me.

Check out IOCDF.org (International OCD Foundation). 

On their site they have guidelines to help you find an OCD therapist.

Among the questions I asked my potential therapists is whether they use ERP and whether they think medication is a possible treatment based on the individual patient (the answer to both should be yes).

ERP, or exposure response therapy, is the Only successful treatment for OCD. It’s a type of CBT (cognitive behavioral therapy) that not many counselors are trained to use. (Now is a good time to find a counselor, because many are doing long-distance work on the phone because of covid!)

Because OCD is a disorder rooted in uncertainty, OCD patients get trapped into “reassurance loops,” also called “checking.”

We have a fear, we either continually tell ourselves it will be okay, or we ask for outside reassurance from family & friends. They tell us it will be okay too. Maybe we relax for a day, an hour, ten minutes. OCD is like the monster from Hercules; it just keeps growing new heads. The fear will transform, or you’ll start obsessing over something completely new.

So reassurance isn’t the answer. What is? Acceptance. Facing your intrusive thoughts head on. An OCD counselor will challenge you, one baby step at a time, to say to your intrusive thoughts “okay. Maybe that IS true. Maybe that bad thing IS going to happen. Maybe that bad thing about me IS real. Maybe I’m terrible. Maybe the world is ending,” etc. etc. Then you’ll experience your body’s panic response. Until your body gets tired of panicking and lets it go.

Over time, you’ll retrain your brain and body on how they respond to intrusive thoughts, until eventually, you don’t panic. Eventually, you can just start to let them go.

OCD is a disorder where the only way out is through.

I know it sounds terrifying, but trust me. Nothing can be scarier than living alone in your head with this disorder. You’re already DOING the scariest thing I can possibly imagine! I know you’re strong, and I know you’re brave, and I know you have what it takes to get better, because you’ve already been living your daily life facing a challenge greater than many people will ever face.

So for now? I’m not telling you not to be scared. Of course you’re scared. That’s the whole OCD deal. I’m just telling you to move forward trying to believe that you can get through this, even if it doesn’t all work out right away. Keep going. I’ve seen the light at the end of this tunnel, after years of feeling my way in the dark. You’ll get here too.

Go to IOCDF.org and check out the options for finding treatment and learning more about how OCD works (you can try out their OCD counselor map, but if there aren’t any options there for you, don’t worry. I found my therapist on google lol).

You’ve GOT this!!!

[twistedriddles]

Hey, I hope you don’t mind me adding to this. That’s a bunch of great advice. I also suffer from OCD. Have my entire life and wasn’t diagnosed until I was in my 30s, because I don’t have a lot of really obvious external compulsions.

It can be completely debilitating to live with OCD. You lose so much time out of your life, but I can tell you that I very rarely get stuck in thought spirals for days like I used to. And I used to get stuck like that every few weeks. So there IS treatment that will make it better. It won’t go away. And I know that’s scary. But it will get so much more manageable with proper therapy (I agree. Get a specialist if you can.), and proper medication, if you choose to go that route.

Also, remember that there’s no one kind of OCD. I have a lot of internal compulsive thoughts and a ton of obsessive tendencies, but very few external compulsions. You might be totally different. But I can’t emphasize enough how powerful it is to have a name for your illness. Saying “I have obsessive compulsive disorder.” To someone when explaining what you are experiencing is so empowering. That diagnosis when you get it is going to take so much of the power away from OCD.

[crayyola-deactivated20220827]

can we PLEASE get some body positivity for people who arent women. im begging

[crayyola-deactivated20220827]

no like really

fat men are so demonized and desexualized and treated so badly in media, that growing up fat is really just so depressing. Most portrayals of fat men in media them being the punchline or the gross monster or the creeper villian, and then you get bullied for that when you can't control it by both peers and adults, and its legitimately upsetting to have to grow up surrounded by that stigma and that shame. How many times in life have you seen a picture of a fat guy be used as a caricature of a bigot, and people found it funny? These jokes are fat shaming and harmful.

I've even seen people who claim to be body positive turn around and body shame men and say such awful things about us, like how we did this to ourselves or how we deserve to be mistreated or we're ugly or unsanitary or any other insult under the sun. Its so insidious and disgusting, especially when its directed towards male body positivity or plus size men being confident in their appearance. No gender is exempt from doing this, I've seen both men and women and sometimes even nonbinary people do this.

I'm not saying mainstream body positivity isn't bad, or that women aren't fatshamed too, or that some men can't be creepy and fat at the same time. I'm just saying frankly people could do better and be better allies to plus-size men, without making us out to be a fetish or a fear.

[shutyourmoustache]

This poor bastard is going thru the 5 stages of grief. 😂

“The rice not looking good. You lied to people.”

“Your rice too wet. You fucked up. Don’t bring colander into your rice cooking.”

“Uncle Roger so upset I put my leg down from the chair.”

“You don’t use MSG. How to make good fried rice?!”

[teaboot]

I would die for Uncle Roger

[gomalemo]

Silkmoth Cat🐈

https://www.instagram.com/p/CEEeDxHJV0O/?utm_source=ig_web_copy_link

[seongpinkhwa]

my blog is, and always will be, a safe place for people who are not confident in their english speaking abilities. you will never be judged or mocked here.

[mandatalks]

1) Your English is probably better than you think it is. I’ve read many posts that ended with something along the lines of “sorry for my bad English” and was surprised because it was worded exactly the way a native English speaker would word it.

2) The main purpose of language is to communicate. Even if communication is a little awkward, as long as we can understand what the other person is trying to say, there’s no need for it to be perfect.

3) You speak English better than I can speak your language.