not saying that gay male fetishization cant result in harm or anything but its interesting how lesbian fetishization has been documented as the reasoning behind quite a bit of lesbophobic violence and hate crimes as well as normalized conversion rape rhetoric, but the kweer community decided to hyperfocus on “mlm fetishization” and make that a huge priority when a majority of the harm it does is make men uncomfortable because a teenager thinks its hot that two men kiss. Like the level of harm is wildly different. It isn’t ’oppression olympics’ to say its fucking crazy that lesbian issues are put on the back burner despite causing more harm than the issues taking precedence.
it doesn't harm shit.
women like yaoi because it's emasculating. emasculating meaning how humiliating it would be to do the many things they foist upon women.
it's emasculating because of penetration. when a man penetrates a woman, he is dominating her, conquering and fucking her. when a woman is penetrated it is proof she is a cunt. a bitch that has been fucked and consumed, tainted forever
but what if it's two men? see, now it gets a bit confusing.
someone has to be the conqueror and the conquered, the masculine and the feminine.
femininity is a man made concept for the sole purpose of dehumanising us. it is a slave costume, a method that makes it easy to visually distinguish the second class citizens, enforced by extreme socialization to recognise and identify these clues nearly from birth.
when a man is penetrated, he is feminine. and that's what makes it humiliating. born at the top of the food chain, why would a male ever debase himself to imitate a lowly female?
it is seen as humiliating, and that is why prejudice against gay men exists. and how the sentiment "topping doesn't make you gay" came to be.
when a woman reads yaoi, it is exciting, liberating and ironic for her. there is a male character, human in every sense of the word, he wasn't raised to perform, he can be intelligent, humourous, interesting, charismatic, he can be a person first, sex object never. but he is also conquered, just like us. he is a cunt.
women enjoy reading these books. the oppressor is the slave now, they see what it's like. often times in yaoi the bottom is called a slut, he moans like a wanton whore, it's all pretend though. even though he his a bitch, he is a man first and the bitch part can maybe be forgotten if he fucks a few females.
it's all in good fun though. when bl fangirls see gay men in real life, they feel the same as when they read those books. liberated. it makes the gay men uncomfortable and angry, as they have just been fetishized, oogled at like pieces of meat.
this is the female experience
