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[678i0u]

[221bshrlocked]

Raise your hand if you feel personally attacked by Sebastian Stan.

[lindseymorqan]

i’m laughing so hard why does this look like they’re in a boyband performing their brand new dance sequence while sebastian pours his heart and soul into the solo

[hollandroos]

Oomph, okay

[sunshinesteviee]

HIS TUMMY

[gretagerwisg]

Brie Larson for PORTER Magazine (2017)

[dementia-by-day]

Stop taking people with dementia to the cemetery

“Oh yeah, every time that dad forgets mom is dead, we head to the cemetery so he can see her gravestone.”

WHAT. I can’t tell you how many times I’ve heard some version of this awful story. Stop taking people with dementia to the cemetery. Seriously. I cringe every single time someone tells me about their “plan” to remind a loved one that their loved one is dead.

I also hear this a lot: “I keep reminding mom that her sister is dead, and sometimes she recalls it once I’ve said it.” That’s still not a good thing. Why are we trying to force people to remember that their loved ones have passed away?

If your loved one with dementia has lost track of their timeline, and forgotten that a loved one is dead, don’t remind them. What’s the point of reintroducing that kind of pain? Here’s the thing: they will forget again, and they will ask again. You’re never, ever, ever, going to “convince” them of something permanently. 

Instead, do this:

“Dad, where do you think mom is?”

When he tells you the answer, repeat that answer to him and assert that it sounds correct. For example, if he says, “I think mom is at work,” say, “Yes, that sounds right, I think she must be at work.” If he says, “I think she passed away,” say, “Yes, she passed away.” 

People like the answer that they gave you. Also, it takes you off the hook to “come up with something” that satisfies them. Then, twenty minutes later, when they ask where mom is, repeat what they originally told you.

[drgaellon]

I support this sentiment. Repeatedly reminding someone with faulty memory that a loved one has died isn’t a kindness, it’s a cruelty. They have to relieve the loss every time, even if they don’t remember the grief 15 minutes later.

[stripedsilverfeline]

In other words, don’t try to impose your timeline on them in order to make yourself feel better. Correcting an afflicted dementia patient will not cure them. They won’t magically return to your ‘real world’. No matter how much you might want them to.

It’s a kindness of old age, forgetting. Life can be very painful. Don’t be the one ripping off the bandage every single time.

[prismatic-bell]

I used to work as a companion in a nursing home where one of the patients was CONVINCED I was her sister, who’d died 40 years earlier. And every time one of the nurses said “that’s not Janet, Janet is dead, Alice, remember?” Alice would start sobbing.

So finally one day Alice did the whole “JANET IS HERE” and this nurse rather nastily went “Janet is dead” and before it could go any further I said “excuse me??? How dare you say something so horrible to my sister?”

The nurse was pissed, because I was “feeding Alice’s delusions.” Alice didn’t have delusions. Alice had Alzheimer’s.

But I made sure it went into Alice’s chart that she responded positively to being allowed to believe I was Janet. And from that point forward, only my specific patient referred to me as “Nina” in front of Alice—everyone else called me Janet, and when Alice said my name wasn’t Nina I just said “oh, it’s a nickname, that’s all.” It kept her calm and happy and not sobbing every time she saw me.

It costs zero dollars (and maybe a little bit of fast thinking) to not be an asshole to someone with Alzheimer’s or dementia. Be kind.

[starryfromcosmiccove]

I wish I had heard this stuff when Grandma was still here.

[satr9]

I read once that you have to treat dementia patients more like it’s improv, like you have to take what they say and say to yourself “ok, and” and give them more of a story to occupy them and not just shut it down with something super harsh.

[witch-of-the-west-country]

A nurse I used to work with always told us: “If a man with dementia is trying to get out of bed to go to work, don’t tell him he’s 90 and in a nursing home. Tell him it’s Sunday and he can stay in bed. If a woman with dementia is trying to stand because she wants to get her husband’s dinner out of the oven, don’t tell her he’s been dead for 20 years. Tell her you’ll do it for her and she can sit back down.”

Always remembered that, always did it. Nothing worse than hearing someone with memory loss ask the same question over and over again only to be met with: “We already told you!”

Just tell them again.

[steel-phoenix]

I’ve worked with elderly dementia patients, and I agree with all the above. Treat them as you’d like to be treated in the same situation.

[ruby-white-rabbit]

Same. I’ve worked with patients like these and even my grandma was convinced for a day that I was my aunt. Just roll with it.

[captainheroism]

What’s the matter with you kids? You’ve never seen a spaceship before?        INFINITY WAR 2018

[melodystardust]

okay so peter parker has his ‘senses dialed to 11’ because of the spider bite, so his hearing is like,, incredible, right? so he must have so much dirt on so many people at school. of course he would never ever spill any of it, he’s just too sweet, but think about that kind of social power

[melodystardust]

Peter, mentally: what’s that bethany?? you’re going out with your friends tomorrow night??? i heard you say you were just gonna lay in bed and watch netflix but go off i guess

[jacks-noir-deactivated20200927]

One day Flash makes a rude comment towards Peter and without missing a beat, he replies with “This is why Bethany doesn’t want to hang out with you and pretends to be grounded so you don’t ask her out”

[peachtrick-deactivated20160422]

to all the 13 year old girls that follow me

if you think her skirt is cute, tell her

the guy that you have a crush on probably doesn’t take enough showers

liking 1D or taylor swift isn’t embarrassing. dont hide it

draw draw draw! you’ll be happy to have the skill later on

do your homework it’ll help with stress

when you’re overwhelmed you should run. it makes you feel better

don’t start cutting no matter how afraid you are

if that shirt doesn’t fit you it doesn’t matter

hug the people you love

know that your life is weird right now and it will get better

[onlytimewill-kill-deactivated20]

reblogging because I wish someone told me this when I was 13

[hannfps]

- don’t talk shit about people - if you wanna experiment with your hair/makeup go for it, find what suits you. - if you start to feel sad alot, tell your parents/friends talk about it - be the best you can be - learn to love yourself 

[tinyryder]

-don’t be embarrassed of anything you like. -clothes from Hollister and Abercrombie and Fitch only fit a certain type of body. Don’t let their narrow-mindedness make you cry in the dressing room -don’t starve yourself. Please don’t. -there’s a reason you don’t look like people in magazines and on TV. You look like you and that’s wonderful.

[will-ansmeer]

-Be yourself, no matter what other people say -Don’t start smoking or drinking alcohol, IT’S NOT COOL -Don’t waste time on judging others

[moritzfer-deactivated20160621]

Thats not only for the 13 years old!

[femme-plant-mom]

- don’t stay friends with someone who makes you feel shitty inside

- don’t be afraid to be friends with people in different grades

- your worth is not defined by what you can afford

- do what you love as often as you can, because that’s how you get better

- forgive yourself

[megalunalexi-aesthetic]

- DON’T TALK SHIT ABOUT PEOPLE DON’T DO IT JUST DON’T

[letitrainathousandflames-archive]

- your body is yours and only you can decide who’s allowed to touch you

[courtjester69420]

- if you dont fit in with others that totally fine and no one should shame you for being you 

[alterouspotato-archive]

-  You don’t have to stop being happy and bubbly to be worth taking seriously.

[crimindsaspe]

to all my small beans💕

[starlightmartina]

-Friends often leave, that’s okay and you will find someone that’s better for you -Don’t be embarrassed of wearing pink or doing feminine things, it doesn’t make you weak -If you like something and it makes you feel good, don’t make other’s people’s judgments influence you

[imagined-loki-quotes]

Marvel executive: Can you contact Tom? It’s urgent.

Assistant: Which one, Sir?

Marvel executive: Tom H

Assistant: Again, which one?

Marvel executive: The one from the England, duh.

Assistant:

[vivaciousarcanist]

youtube said fuck work

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[jamesrhodey]

#siblings

[tomhollanders2013]

Tom Holland: master of Instagram captions since…never

[fantastic-nonsense]

okay but the screenwriter for Thor: Ragnarok is obviously intimately aware of what it’s like to have siblings because like…the snake scene? Bickering at every opportunity? Throwing things at each other for no real reason? “You know this guy?” “I have no idea who this person is”? Smirking when your sibling does something cool because ‘nothing but respect for MY sibling’ and then turning around and punching each other in the face right afterward? Stabbing each other for fun and then going ‘oh come on you big baby, that didn’t even hurt’? The fucking ‘Get Help’ scene? Like bruh…that is some Truth in Hollywood right there

[fantastic-nonsense]

In honor of this post reaching 10K notes, I have more examples of Siblinghood Done Right in Ragnarok:

*parent leaves the area* “THIS IS ALL YOUR FAULT!”

“You’re just…the worst.”

*internally* bitch I am the only one that gets to kill my sibling back off!

That little conciliatory pat on the back Loki gives to Thor after Thor says “Jane and I dumped each other”

“I swear I left it right here”

*casually talking to each other about something mundane with the underlying threat of violence everpresent in both of your voices*

casual jibes and banter about the way each other dresses (“Why would I do that? I’m not a witch.” “Then why do you dress like one?”)

“YES! THAT’S WHAT THAT FEELS LIKE!”

but also the concealed worry about your sibling getting actually hurt, even though you know they’ll probably be fine

Loki’s extremely obvious eyerolling when those girls approach Thor in public and ask for a selfie

*sibling walks in while you’re trying to cause trouble and enjoy yourself* “oh shit”

[khofnak]

anyway has anyone figured out why stuff costs so much money yet

[bothgoth]

it’s cause it’s so expensive

[sridevi]

[shirtlesshotcelebs]