Just Words

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[h-widit]

VALENTINES

I don’t own or take any credit for any of these pics.

[i-wanna-b-yours]

Evermore is for the girls whose favourite season is winter, for the girls who dream of sipping hot chocolate by the fireplace and opening Christmas gifts since July, for the girls who know that the people in their lives deserve better than them, for the girls who are tired of being everyone's second choice, for the girls who seem cool and confident but deep down just want to be loved, for girls bad at letting go, for girls who are highly ambitious yet seem to do nothing to achieve their goals, for girls who do one task from their to do list and then call it a day, for girls who take up bullet journalling but give up by the 3rd week of january, for the girls who fear failure but procrastinate a lot, for the girls who think they have a rough idea of their future yet feel lost. Evermore is for the girls who want to be perfect and want to have it all. Evermore is for me.

[egalitarianchica]

Normalize taking care of men. Normalize holding and kissing them when they’re sad and just because. Normalize doing nice things for them. Normalize genuinely listening to them when they’re upset. Normalize complimenting them and telling them you love and appreciate them. Normalize taking care of your man the same way you would want him to take care of you.

[quotemadness]

“Goodnight and great love to you. We see the same stars.”

— George Mallory

[company]

i needed to read this

[sunsetquotes]

They promise me the world will keep on spinning without you, but honestly, that is what worries me most

Beau Taplin (via sunsetquotes)

[sunsetquotes]

The best portion of your life will be the small, nameless moments you spend smiling with someone who matters to you.

Ritu Ghatourey (via sunsetquotes)

[quotemadness]

She says nothing at all, but simply stares upward into the dark sky and watches, with sad eyes, the slow dance of the infinite stars.

Neil Gaiman (via quotemadness)

[quotemadness]

Pay attention when people react with anger of hostility to your boundaries. You have found the edge where their respect for you ends.

Unknown (via quotemadness)

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[thatwriterwiththeblock]

This might be a bit of an unpopular take but it’s okay to be in love with someone who doesn’t like you back.

I don’t mean being in a relationship with someone who’s stringing you along or never getting over someone hoping they’ll eventually like you back, obviously, but like... the idea that if someone doesn’t return feelings for you then they were never worth your attention in the first place or that they should “look at what’s right beside them” or whatever is so bad but I also see it everywhere. Sometimes someone can be worthy of your love and also not like you back that way.

On top of that is the expectations of perfect love or that being in unrequited love is pathetic or sad, or that you can only be happy if someone you like a certain way likes you back the same way, and I fully blame societal amatonormativity for this. In movies and books unrequited love is always framed as either “they were never good enough for you (and usually there’s an undercurrent of about implication they were ‘using’ you)” or “by the end they realized what they were looking for was right beside them the entire time, they fall in love the end” and like

Yeah, it sucks when someone doesn’t like you back, but I’ve been in unrequited love a few times now and my general experience is that I don’t love them less because they love me differently. All my loves were close friends first, and they all remain close friends to this day, aware of my current or former feelings, and it’s... okay.

It’s okay to not be in storybook love. It’s okay to love someone differently than they love you. It’s okay to love someone who’s aroace or gay or straight and can’t be into you that way. It’s okay to be in love with someone and not want to start a relationship with them because you’re not ready or you’re happy single or you’re relationship types aren’t compatible, and it’s okay to fall in love with someone who loves someone else who isn’t the bad guy either.

Love is supposed to feel good. Loving being in love without it being requited is okay. Nobody has to be the villain or the bad guy or the one that’s missing out—sometimes, they just don’t fall in love with you, and that’s okay! If you fell in love with them for the right reasons, you should still love having them in your life, and love having them in your life while your feelings settle and you can both move forward.

Feelings are valid. Jealousy and pain and yearning are par for the course, but what you do with those feelings matters more than whether or not your feelings were returned. It’s okay to be in love with someone and happy to be their friend, because friendship isn’t a backburner to romantic or queerplatonic feelings or anything else. They can love you as a friend.

Stories can end without romantic or qp or other requited resolution—in my experience, sometimes it makes your relationship stronger, to be able to talk about those feelings and move forward without having them be requited. You can move forward, or move on, or stay in love or fall in love with someone else, and it’s okay. Sometimes it works out and sometimes it doesn’t and maybe we want different things from the people we love, but it’s not a waste of time or a waste of feeling or a waste of a friendship for something to not work out how you’d hoped.

I just don’t think enough people celebrate loving someone without it ending in wedding bells. Maybe it’s the aroace in me too—but the people I’ve loved in my life have taught me a lot, and I think that’s pretty good, too. I like loving, and I really think more people should.

[guftuguu]

When repeated often by disciple all the wide is lifted to the void, universe and ether merge aloft brahman, this is doctrine unalloyed.

When the void within itself is solved and ethereality destroyed, only is well-being unresolved brahman, this is doctrine unalloyed.

Where the weal is there no thought of mind action nor inaction may intrude, vows of silence entry fail to find nor avails the mystic attitude

there not even Shiva reigns supreme, nor his wedded energy hath sway, only is it somewhat like a dream there pursuing in an elusive way.

~ Lal Ded

[quotemadness]

“The fear of getting hurt again has only led you to hurt yourself. Come out now. Come out while there’s still some living left to be done. This person who hurt you doesn’t deserve to still dictate your life decisions. Your discipline and dedication to structure is an illusion. You’re still powerless because you’re letting certain incidents define your life. If you really want to be in control again, you have to learn to let go again. It’s the only way.”

— Ryan O'Connell

[missinyouiskillingme]

“I’ve realized that the reason I couldn’t let go of him was not because I was in love with him, it was because he’d convinced me that he was the best I would ever have. That he’d be the only person that would adore me in such a sense that I’d feel the fire burning in the pit of my stomach everywhere, including my fingertips. I became a prisioner of this vicious cycle of highs and lows, and I completely lost my identity. It was like we’d become one person, but more like him than me. It was like my heart nor my lungs no longer belonged to me, and this shows that he was never really in love with me, because you don’t consume the person you love. You help them grow.”

— I should have left the first time

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