tboy hatred and insanity

im not going to discourse you on jack shit. white disabled canadian transmasc.

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People reblogging my posts . Wild. I have strong opinions in general but like im really just a guy who's angry hes been told his entire life hes lying about his firsthand experiences LMAO

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Okay look many many takes on this puppygirl essay. My two cents is

1, I feel we are all missing the part where the author didn't agree to become a full time physical and emotional caretaker. She did not come into the relationship knowing she would be. She was shoved into the role without knowing or agreeing to it. Not ONE conversation where it was like "hey this is gonna be hard I will be unemployed and emotional needy" was had. Which is necessary. Like extremely

2. People that are freeloading assholes AND disabled exist. To be clear I AM NOT SAYING TRANS WOMEN ARE MEN I AM JUST DRAWING THE DIRECT PARALLEL AVAILABLE IN MY LIFE WITH THIS NEXT STATEMENT. This is what my dad did! He broke his leg, quit his job, refused to search for another one, and was a shithead when my mom asked for assistance in anything. He had a whole ramble to me at one point that my mom told him to pay 25% of the rent because it "makes him look bad." I lived with him. He did things all the time that he "couldn't do" because he didnt want to work and was enjoying freeloading. This is not a gender locked behaviour. Regardless of what you may think, people DO do that to their partners. Everyone saying that its awful and terrible to compare a trans woman to a man is all well and good, and it was definitely out of line, but the behaviour pattern 100% is something that people of all genders do.

3, everyone saying the puppygirl is seriously disabled, unless some INSANE edits were done to the article before I read it, are speculating. Anxiety is not so often such a debilitating disorder that you cannot wash dishes. Everyone saying "shes autistic" has no confirmation of this. They are speculating because they are CONVINCED there must be a reason. She is definitely not physically disabled. And also, she is in active treatment her partners are paying for and if that treatment is not helping nobody can communicate that other solutions are needed but her. Believe it or not people are supposed to improve with treatment, not get worse, and you're supposed to find alternatives if treatment is NOT working.

4, the puppygirl coerces the author into sex. That is rape. Like nothing further to say here coercing someone into sex is rape. Telling someone they need to communicate better with their rapist (especially when theres an in article attempt that goes "I tried to communicate, she burst into tears and made me the bad guy multiple times") is insane

5, the authors gripes truly never came down to "grr grr my partner DOESNT DO DISHES" it came down to the fact being unable to hold a conversation with your partner without you becoming the villain and having all the domestic labor hoisted onto you while unable to so much as make a small criticism of behaviour without it turning into a tearjerker where your partner goes "you hate me and I should leave forever!!" And I hate to tell you this but thats not something disabled people just inherently do. In fact, as a physically disabled person, that's something abled people have made me do for them!

6, my rudest, it's not a "disabled trans women should kill themselves" manifesto and telling someone that your opinion on a written work is the correct one and to not read it because theyll die is insane. Cognitohazards are not real. If you cant handle someone writing something mean to someone else on their personal page you don't actually have any right to speak on the topic. Read what youre fucking talking about before making commentary. God

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I was saying all the way back in 22 that people took any statement about trans people who are not white binary trans women + notable pedestaled exceptions facing difficulty in society and went "wow I cant believe you fucking hate trans women" and everyone called me a fucking lunatic lmao

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16yo would bring up one simple key point and it was "hey, isn't one of the most well known pieces of anti-trans literature among the general public about how trans men are stupid baby girls being seduced by evil testosterone ridden jezebels? Isn't that a really key sign that terfs don't like us, is that a terf wrote a whole book about that?" And got told with peoples entire chests that this was actually that terfs love trans men bc they view them as women and just want the best for them.

Like hm idk I feel like "I dont think you should transition into some horrible monstrosity mimicry of a man because youre actually just a beautiful girl! The second you abandon that femininity we're gonna talk about how you're preying on young children" just isnt a sort of statement that sounds very supportive of trans men. I have a hunch that having to exist in a body that is not your own and being told you should be grateful bc hate groups actually love you because you dont have a penis is insane actually

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I was saying all the way back in 22 that people took any statement about trans people who are not white binary trans women + notable pedestaled exceptions facing difficulty in society and went "wow I cant believe you fucking hate trans women" and everyone called me a fucking lunatic lmao

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Wow "trans women never have unusual labels regarding their identities" must go hard as fuck if youre stupid

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"Tmes pick labels because they can trans women pick labels because they have to" so close! Everyone is allowed to pick whatever labels they want and it is not the people you're reducing to their sex's fault your friends are boring. Also cis men dont do that so you ARE just targeting "afab" nonbinary people with that one not tmes as you supposedly claim they exist and sounds a lot worse when you put it like that dont you? That you don't think nonbinary people deserve to use labels that describe them because they happen to be unusual?

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Wow "trans women never have unusual labels regarding their identities" must go hard as fuck if youre stupid