[problematicpastel]

i can’t believe there are people who hate being an adult like wdym i get to have smoke weed scroll tumblr time every night this fucking rocks

[kosmogrl]

[weltenwellen]

Hanif Abdurraqib, The Crown Ain't Worth Much

[problematicpastel]

getting high and looking at pictures of my face up close to try and understand how people perceive me

[fadedlovemp3]

www.destroyedandbetrayedyourselffornothing.com/careers

[weltenwellen]

Franny Choi, Soft Science

[salemwitchtrials-deactivated202]

The Crying Book, Heather Christle

[weltenwellen]

Hanif Abdurraqib, They Can't Kill Us Until They Kill Us

[weltenwellen]

Resmaa Menakem, My Grandmother’s Hands: Racialized Trauma and the Pathway to Mending Our Hearts and Bodies

[weltenwellen]

Andrea Gibson, Lord of the Butterflies

[problematicpastel]

athens, greece

[stephanie-isnt-grunge]

smoking on the balcony of my adult apartment in a big city and listening to the new lorde album is healing something in my 13 year old self

[lakemichiganbaby-moved-deactiva]

btw being excessively nonconfrontational is NOT a positive trait. it does not mean u are “too nice” or just too kind to hurt people, it means u have a problem communicating and you need to work on it.

[mallk-z]

There are people in the notes saying that the alternative reason is that they’re doing it because of trauma and i gotta say that

1) same. I did have this same problem and reason for doing it.

2) this is not actually an alternate reason. You guys also have a problem communicating and while you can trace exactly WHY you have trouble communicating that doesn’t mean it’s okay to treat everyone like they’re potentially your former abuser and that you DO still need to work on this.

[queeranarchism]

‘This behavior comes from trauma’ and ‘This behavior is harmful to you, to others and to your relationships with others’ are two truths that can co-exist, and that do co-exist quite frequently.

[problematicpastel]

[letsbelonelytogetherr]

— Lana Del Rey; Cinnamon Girl

[bakwaaas]

yes communication is important, but being in a situation where you constantly have to over-communicate every single thing in order to get listened and tended to is draining and kills romance. a huge part of intimacy and connection is feeling seen and understood by the other person – them being attuned to your needs, feelings, desires, and knowing who you are as a person on a deeper level, is a sign of love. being with someone who is thoughtless and inconsiderate and constantly has to have everything spelled out to them, will leave you feeling invisible and unloved. yes people aren’t mind readers and its good to talk about stuff but someone who just doesn’t think of you or understand basic things that would make you happy, isn’t a good partner.

[animentality]

[zegalba]

Yang Li spring/summer 2018